how do we get through it without
a/ him being expelled,and
b/ me strangling him for being expelled?...seriously, any motivational tips welcome but the next 3 months are the longest of his life.....no patronising please, not even if you are the perfect parent of perfect kids...thanks!
2007-03-12 22:50:15 · 8 answers · asked by ginger 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
obviously i meant months
2007-03-12 22:58:30 · update #1
he is very sociable and very popular and only acts up at school. he has always hated it right from nursery. he has been through a tough year ( he was the victim of an attack) his attackers curfew has just ended and this has set him off again. i just want him to make it through to his exams. he already has a place at college .
2007-03-12 23:08:44 · update #2
i like the calendar idea gozaine, he tends to do that himself when hes counting down to something.
2007-03-14 22:46:20 · update #3
Beleive me I know what your'e going through, mine does too, if he lives that long. He's in bed now, says he only has to go in to take his course work in, this is dinner time. He is up all night on the computer, he says he's doing his course work, but I 've gone in and he's been on MSN talking to his mates.school phoned up 3 times in a week, and I'm running out of excuses. He wants to go to college, but If he can't get up fot school, what chance has he got for college. Good Luck your end.!!!!
2007-03-12 23:04:17 · answer #1 · answered by Jeanette 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep reminding him that he only has 3 months left at school, he's been through the worst of it and if he gets expelled before he does his exams it'll all be for nothing. You could try pinning up a calender with the remaining days left on it so he can cross them off as they pass.
Perhaps a little bribery might work too, try offering him an exciting treat if he does his exams, don't make him wait for the results make the conditional on him getting to each one and doing his best. Make it something cool though like a day white water rafting.
Good luck, I hated school too, tell him this from me, all those people who say dumb things like "school days are the best days of your life." are either liars or had really rubbish lives!
2007-03-13 17:26:30 · answer #2 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is a trouble maker, there might be something more to this than meets the eye.
Usually when children act up, it is because they are seeking attention somewhere, even if not from you, but from the children at school. Is he being bullied? Is he being the bully?
Have you taken him to the doctor, make sure he doesn't have ADD? Sometimes that is the problem.
Does he only act up in school or at home as well? Sometimes children do not realize their behavior is out of control when they are allowed to do it at home. (I'm not being patronisizing, just speaking from experience, children are always TOLD to "share" or to be "nice" but never really SHOWED what it means.)
Does he have friends who are like him? Or is he a loner, and him acting up is a way of making friends?
These questions and many others need to be asked, because children are spontaneous, they act out without thinking, so something is triggering it.
Find out what it is, then it will be the only way to help improve the situation.
2007-03-13 06:01:33 · answer #3 · answered by elidet_reyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shock him, point out that he will need a reference from the school to do a college course. If school says he has been expelled-- it wont do much for his chances.
Increasingly employers want school based references from school leavers too.
Statistically, kids who get expelled are more likely to end up in jail.
2007-03-13 06:02:46 · answer #4 · answered by esmerelda v 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
£X for the first month
£XX for the second
£XXX for the third
Then some other big treat for finishing and passing his exams - weekend away, driving lessons or something, to make him feel grown up and proud. Maybe one of those Red Letter Days type treats (below)
2007-03-13 09:48:23 · answer #5 · answered by Em 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well thats sort of an open ended ? does your son have a disability,that causes anger problems for him? If he does then you need to get him into theropy A.S.P. they will get him on meds to help curb his anger problem,but if hes the type that school don't matter then you have to use common sense cause your not going to be around forever to take care of him,point this out to him cause he needs to take responsibility for his life
2007-03-13 05:59:25 · answer #6 · answered by tracy_n_dave2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bribery, offer him something he really wants.
My daughter loathed school and we bribed her to complete her last few months, She was happy, we were happy.
Ok its not right but if it works.
She loved college and had no trouble going.
2007-03-14 17:02:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 months..? Bride him... Trust me. If you want him to finish and not get kicked out. Tell him you will give him cash. Make it a good amount so he will want to do it.
Good Luck.
2007-03-13 07:15:04 · answer #8 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋