i've been with my bf nearly 3 monts but he dumped me after finding me talkin to my best friend's bf now he knows that me and my best mates bf are not together he says he's sorry and he forgive me and that he still loves me and that it's a stupid mistake. i really did and still love him but is he just saying that he love me to see my reaction or saying it because he means it i really do like him alot and think he likes me alot too. we both get on with each others families. please help with sensible answers
2007-03-12 22:31:51 · 19 answers · asked by beci 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its a way of controlling you,he shouldnt get pleasure from it,get rid
2007-03-12 22:34:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
its really up to you, that kind of reactions is very immature of him, guys are so jealous and they can't think a good reason how to handle thier jealousy and anger. if he really meant it take him back, but tell him that you don't play mind games or silly games of tom and jerry kind of thing. Like " I will do something that makes her jealous or make her mad" what just to prove how much you love the person? Give him one more chance and if he do it again dump him. You have only 3 months thats like in honeymoon stage, still inlove and kiss and make up, you will find the real him after 6 months. right now you just seeing a few of him and he will show some more of him in a long run. goodluck!
2007-03-13 05:48:02 · answer #2 · answered by sure_whatever_29 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If he distrusted you and dumped you within two seconds.....what do you think is in store for you when/if you get back together and you talk to the grocery store clerk that happens to be a guy?
Your BF has trust issues. Don't take that on as your issue. If you do, you'll be jumping thru hoops of fire to prove to him that you are trustworthy for the rest of the relationship. Be true to yourself.
2007-03-13 05:36:39 · answer #3 · answered by JosieJo 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Seems a bit harsh ending things just because you were chatting with another guy. If you are going to have any future then you need to get this sorted. Talk with him explain how you felt, and tell him you will talk to other guys etc and he needs to deal with that his jelousey is his problem and if he is going to over react and drop you every time another guy passes you then you have no future, and you are just leaving your self open for more heart ache, if however he can sort out his jeleousy give it another shot we all make mistakes from time to time and do stupid things.
Good luck
2007-03-13 06:19:21 · answer #4 · answered by djp6314 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Definitely you should talk to him - he obviously has issues with trust - maybe something happened to him before with someone else and it is affecting your relationship. Sit him down and ask him these questions - it really was an over-reaction - dumping you for that reason. Then, once you have talked openly and honestly, reassure him that you want to be with him and hopefully you can get on with it and carry on.
2007-03-13 05:44:20 · answer #5 · answered by JoJi 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
since he ask for forgiveness, then its time to forgive and move on with the relationship.That is if he is worth your time and affection, wont abuse your feelings and respect you as a person. Deep down inside you, you know if he is telling the truth and honest with you.Follow your instinct and enjoy your relationship..There will be ups and downs, just be strong and take it easy..and remember dont give your 100%, leave something for your personal space too...
2007-03-13 05:45:33 · answer #6 · answered by charnelhouse 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't know how old the two of you are, but it sounds like an overreaction. Everybody overreacts sometimes, if it sounds like he is really sorry then give him another chance. He might have trust issues, or some kind of insecurity, but with time the both of you can work through them.
2007-03-13 05:36:55 · answer #7 · answered by Luviticus 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
get rid of him!! He didn't trust when it counted, so what makes u think he will trust u this time?? U can't let him controll u! If he controlls u, U will not have a good relationship and he may turn abusive. But, follow ur heart!! (try not to get it hurt)
2007-03-13 06:55:42 · answer #8 · answered by Snow 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you should think twice before becoming together...if he really likes you then you can ask him not to become overpossessive in life....if he is you may face problems all through your life...you may feel frustrated after some time..so talk to him clearly and clarify everything before u both come together again.
2007-03-13 05:51:38 · answer #9 · answered by Shilpa B 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well he did overreact quite badly, but at least he has realised his mistake and asked for forgiveness. If you really think he's worth another chance I would definitly give that to him. Follow your gut instinct, will he be like that again? Your heart will know. good luck :)
2007-03-13 05:35:40 · answer #10 · answered by Emz 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Obviously he loves you men sometimes get paranoid and possevive when they love someone and this is where you need to stop and think if you two get back together will his jealousy ruin the relationship and you or was it just a one off?
2007-03-13 05:38:50 · answer #11 · answered by caramelqueenuk06 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋