Ok, the lying piece of crap that I was living with for 2 years of my life was cheating on me. I found out so much stuff that he did, its crazy. I have the opportunity to get back at him by making him lose his job. I am so angry and hurt. Should I do this to him, or should I just leave him alone with his sorry life?
2007-03-12 22:16:32 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Instead of thinking what you can do to him, maybe think about what you can do for yourself at this stage. Maybe take some time away with a good friend or friends. A short, relaxing holiday or weekend away might help you settle some of your anger. You have every right to be angry but somehow I think that getting revenge wouldn't make the hurt actually go away. Then there is the possibility that if he ever found out you were somehow responsible for him losing his job, he will get his own back!
Maybe write him a letter expressing what his cheating has done to you, the deep hurt feelings, the feeling of wasting so much time, the betrayal of trust. You probably just had a yelling match at the time and never was truly able to express your feelings. Tell him, you are now going to concentrate on yourself, the most important person. You need proper closure especially after 2 years together. It might feel actually feel cathartic.
If you are a crazy, revengeful ***** he might think "Glad I'm not with her anymore". But if you are mature and grounded he might think, "I really ****** up here", and he might realise what he has actually lost (which is good because then he feels bad and you know he won't find anyone like you again and you feel good!) That's a form of revenge in itself! At the end of the day, you do what you feel is right, only you know what the right thing to do is. Hope some of this helps.
2007-03-13 00:34:51 · answer #1 · answered by RD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought bout getting revenge on my ex after what he did to me. I could have sent him to jail, made him fight with his family, make his heart break by destroying his car. No matter what i did, i knew that he would not be able to hurt me anymore than he has done. However, i did not. I kept my mouth shut. I knew that i would still feel angry at him, still feel those feelings. It may give u satisfaction for a while but it will fix or solve nothing. Leave him alone with his sorry life and try and stay away from him as much as possible and see other guys. Time will only heal these feeling you have. You still like him right? just hate him 4 what he did? Just get him out of your life!
2007-03-12 22:39:00 · answer #2 · answered by louise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't do it, do not put yourself down to the same level as the pathetic idiot that cheated on you, it will give you satisfaction for a little while, then you will get the pissed off feeling again, it just won't achieve anything, trust me, I know, I took revenge on a cheating ex, it just made me look like a bit of a fool in the end, he still got away with being with the new gf, now they are engaged...
2007-03-12 22:57:48 · answer #3 · answered by Jasmina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would not. What would you gain? Karma is alive and well, trust me. He will get his without your help. And it'll probably be much worse than anything you could do.
If it were me, I would move on with my life without a backward glance, show him just how much he DIDN'T hurt me by acting like everything was dandy. He isn't worth your time or effort, not even to plan revenge. Don't give him a second thought. Whoever the wench is that he was cheating on you with definitely deserves this "man".
2007-03-12 22:31:20 · answer #4 · answered by melodys_notes 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How can u make him loose his job??
its easy to fall into the revenge trap &u intitle to it...but after ur anger has subsided u'll wonder u let ur integrity go by submitting to such feelings...
I say plant the fear within him (tell him u what u could do), then leave it. Why?? he will always be weary of ur intentions, &there is plenty of satisfaction in that.
2007-03-12 22:31:51 · answer #5 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best revenge is leaving him alone and moving on with your life and continue looking as sexy as can be. THAT is a slap in a guy that cheats face.... the fact that they didnt break you and you rise above the occasion with your pride and dignity in tact.
2007-03-12 22:22:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
This is your conscience speaking, do it.! Get that
lying,cheating son of a ***** back..!! Scratch the
Sh!t out of his car, Get him fired from work, Order
escorts to his house..Let your Revenge be swift &
painful, that's what I reckon..!! Do it, Do it, Do it..!!
2007-03-12 22:35:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got my revenge on a cheating boyfriend, thought it would make me feel better, but it didnt change my feelings about what he did, i was still left hurt. trust me it doesnt make you feel any better, but i say go for it, might as well make his life harder
2007-03-12 22:25:23 · answer #8 · answered by jen w 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
oooh..girl i KNOW how you feel!
its not worth it to try to bring him down. he will go down in due time (worse than you could have ever done to him). i know from experience.
i know you WANT to probably make his life a living hell but..trust me..he will get it!
just move on. be strong without him.
2007-03-12 22:24:36 · answer #9 · answered by Queenly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, do as you feel like. But I think it's more likely to be better if you just leave him alone.
Revenge is ugly, in my opinion.
2007-03-12 22:21:02 · answer #10 · answered by Tayfun T 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋