I met this connection last year. Before him, I did not know what it feels like meeting `soul mate'. We got connected in so many ways, culturally, spritually, emotionally, physically... But we could have not been together 'cause he has been taking care of his business (which has not been good so far) by flying back and forth. I have tried not to give him any pressure by keeping distance along with moderate concern. We have talked to each other on email (Now we are even in the different countries). But thesedays, I happpend to know someone who liked me so much but couldn't have accepted his feeling 'cause I cannot help thinking about that connection and I think he liked me too unconditionally . I know my question could sound too common so that too many ladies or lovers have thought about..but I am really feeling helpless...That heaven-like deep connection but without any promise and that kind of settling but with stability....for someone who is ready to get marreid, it is hard to weigh.
2007-03-12 21:53:16 · 4 answers · asked by Yogurt and Sunshine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel ya on the Connection, but I don't see anything about a promise. It doesn't sound like your connection is ready to marry you .... and this love is conditional......upon his/her distance, business.....etc. Does this love make you happy right now? Are you content? Do you feel safe and secure in your partnership? If you answer no to any of those questions, there's another soul mate out there waiting for you, and has been since the day you were born. I KNOW it's hard to imagine. I stayed faithful to a man for three years; through those three years we spent a total of four weeks alltogether. I didn't want anyone else. But was he there when I needed a hug? Who was there for him when he didn't get the promotion he was up for? Where was he when my Mother died? Think of these practicalities. When you need them the most, or even when you've had a crappy day or just want to be held..........are you two hopping on the next planes and meeting in the middle to be there for eachother? THAT would be love.
What does your heart tell you? When you wrote your question did you cry? Honey, if there really were a connection, you two would make it happen no matter what. Think of Romeo and Juliet. Sappy, I know......but no one and nothing could stop or get in the way of their love.
All in all, we learn and grow from our experiences and mistakes. I'm not saying you are making a mistake. I just don't feel a happy heart beaming from your question. I don't even find happy adjectives.....you know?
Live every day as if it were your last. What would you do in the next hour if that were the case?
There's your answer.
2007-03-12 22:12:29 · answer #1 · answered by JosieJo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't hook up with the second guy. You might want stability but if you try to make a home with someone while you're holding a torch for someone else it will only bit you in the end. By that I'm also not saying that you should wait for the first guy either. I think you should let the first guy know what you want and expect & if he's truly your soul mate he'll want the same thing and make an effort for you guys to be together on more stable ground.
Good luck!
2007-03-13 05:01:30 · answer #2 · answered by ♫Silvi♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If young choose connection without promise.
If getting on choose settling with stability
2007-03-13 04:56:54 · answer #3 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out with this other guy.
2007-03-13 04:57:42 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋