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I would like to know is their a such thing as Natural vs. Unconditional love? Am I wrong for saying that I have two types of love for my child, and my step-daughter. I have natural love for my child, and I'm working on having unconditional love. I entered in my step-daughter life when she was 2. She's now 5, and I have a new born which is from me.

2007-03-12 21:42:59 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting Parenting

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I believe you should have the same kind of love for your stepdaughter as your own flesh and blood, however I would ask God to help you there so you do not favor one over the other. As far as the unconditional love is, that is the way God loves us. He does not like what we do a lot of times but he still loves us. He loves everyone, but as I said He does not like what we do, like sinning against Him. So I believe that is the way we are to love our children no matter what they do, does not mean we will agree with what they are doing and even if they committed the worst sin we should still love them, as they are part of us. We have been adopted into God's family and that is how it is similar with your stepdaughter.

God does not favor one of us over the other, when we choose to follow His rules and regulations as He is a Holy God

Hope this helps you.

2007-03-12 22:02:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1 2

I don't know if there is an actual thing as Natural vs. Unconditional love, but I know that the love you feel for your own child and the love you feel for a step child is totally different. Not to mean that you love more than the other, but it is certainly different.

2007-03-12 22:02:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

It is politically incorrect to admit you have those two different kinds of love.
But it is perfectly understandable, and natural too.

There are two kinds of children: Your children, and everybody else's children. Your stephdauhter is in category number 2.
She should be happy you're human and not a lion, because you would have eaten her.

Since she is part of your family, however, I think it will grow, and she'll move towards category 1 over time.
I think it's not good if you would favour your children over the others, or if you let them know or feel that they are different. And you can learn to love your stephdaughter more and more.
Just give it time, and make sure you treat all of the kids the same. Don't give more favours, excuses or things to your children only. Children feel it if you are fair to them.
By treating them all fairly, you create your own reality, and you'll see that your stephdaughter is in a special category as well.

2007-03-12 22:38:38 · answer #3 · answered by mgerben 5 · 1 0

Natural love is something all parents feel for their children the day they are born. It's automatic. Unconditional love is something you feel for your children NO MATTER WHAT. No matter what their choices will be in the future, you love them. If one of your children commit a crime and end up in jail or prison, you love them. If one of your children come out gay/lesbian, you love them. No matter what, YOU LOVE THEM. That is unconditional love.

2007-03-12 22:11:11 · answer #4 · answered by Kat 7 · 1 0

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