yes he knew i was 16 when i start talking to him i told my mom he was older i diddnt say 21 but okay i said he was 19 i start talking to him in aug i start sleeping with him in oct i turn 16 on the 27th of sept so yah i aint been 16 for ah month yes i do feel that i made ah mistake with sleeping with ah man older man at that unprotected but me keeping my baby aint ah mistake and momma feels that i keep my baby to keep him because at the time we where having problems but after the problems where resolved she let him come over and spend a night she let me go over there and spend a night weekend so do you feel that now every thing aint coo that she should lock him up because she dont wont me with him
2007-03-12 21:39:08 · 44 answers · asked by bre 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thats what happens when you do things alone - made you feel bad
keep your baby happy thats all you care for - made you feel responsible
dont wish bad upon no1 even if he's left - made you feel different
when times change you'll pass though heaven rain - made you feel like women
everyone has mistakes in life you live n learn from them - made you learn a lesson
be grateful grow up n take action pray - made you feel my blessin !!!
i will pray for you n hope everythin goes right in your life
remember life is more important than any other thing in this world jus keep yourself happy n be happy bless to your new born boy/girl !!
PEACE
2007-03-13 01:13:47 · answer #1 · answered by THUG LIFE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your mom is almost as confused as you are. She's probably trying to do what she hopes is best but truly doesn't know. To be safe, I think the two of you should go to a Planned Parenthood or an organization like that where you can get counseling together from someone who isn't emotionally involved and can give you objective choices that won't be hurtful to you, your baby, and you and your mom's relationship.
One more thing........you keep taking responsibility for sleeping with this man and it being unprotected, etc. This may seem hard to understand, and I'm not trying to belittle you, but keep in mind that the man you have been with was the adult and knew of the consequences and life experiences that would come and you didn't.
God Bless you and your mom, your baby, and the father.
2007-03-12 21:50:11 · answer #2 · answered by JosieJo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what country you are in. Im in the UK and here if you are 16 then it is legal and he has done nothing wrong.
The only time im aware of that someone can get arrested for having sex with a 16 year old is if they are in a position of trust (Teacher, Doctor, Policeman ect) or much older....Over the age of
Although you regret it now at the time you consented so you cant accuse him of rape.
If you are keeping the baby because your mum wants you to then dont, You will end up resenting her and the child.
If you are keeping the baby because you want to explain to your mum why you are doing it.
If you want to be with the guy then speak to your mum about it tell her you love him and that you know you made a mistake but you want to be with him and want him to know his child.
If you both feel the same way you could get married then your mum wouldnt be able to force you to do something you dont want to although you will need her permission to do so.
The father of a child now has almost as much rights as the mother so although your mum doesnt want you to have anything to do with the father he still has a legal right to see his child and should be paying maintenance towards it.
2007-03-12 22:51:36 · answer #3 · answered by MARIA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're both at fault. I know that you're "only 16", but when I was 16 I knew just about everything I know now at 21 about sex and I also knew how to say no. You didn't say no, obviously. You also didn't mention whether he pressured you into it. If he did pressure you, then I'm very sorry. In 2 years (not sure where, exactly, you live) in the U.S. you'll legally be an adult. Not sure which state you live in (sounds to me like you live in the U.S., from your writing style and choice of words) but if your mother consents you can, more than likely marry him right now. If, of course you and he both want to do that.
Do you think he deserves jail? Do you think he did anything wrong? Was it rape, implied or forcible? I don't mean in the eyes of the law because yes, of course it was legally satutory rape. I mean, do you feel like he "made" you have sex with him? And what happens when he gets out (do you know what other inmates do to prisoners that are in prison for sex crimes against a minor? Which is what you are) and has to register as a sex offender, can't live in a home that is within 1000 yards (various distances depending upon state) of anyplace children congregate. Which, as he'll discover, happens to be everywhere. What do you think will happen when people find out that he's a sex offender? Will you feel remotely guilty when all this happens? When his life is turned upside down because he slept with you? If you participated willingly, then I suggest you do everything in your power to convince your mother not to call the cops. I wouldn't suggest threatening her with the fact that she contributed to the deliquency of a minor, even though she did. I say this because if she reports him anyway and you report her, where will you go? There's no way the justice system will let you stay in your home. If you don't have relatives that the authorities feel will be good guardians, where do you think you'll go? Into the system, that's where. You'll be put in a home or in foster care. Hardly an ideal situation for a pregnant teen.
Work with your mother and your boyfriend (if he's still in the picture) to create something everyone can agree on. Like it or not, your mother's still very much a presence in your life, unless she agrees to let you marry him or two years pass, whichever comes first.
Anyway, just my humble opinion. You will, of course, do whatever you think is best. Please think your decisions through carefully BEFORE you act. As you so recently saw, every decision you make has a consequence. Decision, consequence.
2007-03-12 22:22:04 · answer #4 · answered by melodys_notes 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That would depend entirely on where you live. In England he'd be fine as the legal age of consent is 16 & as you were sixteen (all b it by a week or so) then there'll be no case but I understand that in certain parts of the states it is still illegal. The fact that you feel it was a mistake to sleep with him in the 1st place is worrying for the future happiness of the child.
Your Mum might or might not be able to press charges against him on the principle of statutory rape (sexual issues with a minor). But as she permitted it......prehaps you can talk to her & explain how you feel, cos whatever happens 'tween you & baby father she's the only Mother you'll ever have & right now you need her support more than ever.
2007-03-12 22:21:27 · answer #5 · answered by Bubbly Blonde 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its really sounds harsh but the mistake is not done by any single one. You both are involved in this. However the guy is much responsible as he was mature enough to understand the outcome of the things you did. Well, as now it is over, you should meet some doc to get rid of the problem or if you think you can have the baby and survive in your society, there is no harm in that also. Its not any mistake if you think accordignly nature but as per our society it is said to be wrong.
Its totally dependent upon your guts and thinking.
Take any wise and brave decision without being feared of society and all. After all, you should also not forget the your career and family.
2007-03-12 21:58:33 · answer #6 · answered by Pawan one 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi I personally don't think it's right that your mom should send him to jail.It's not going to change anything. I don't know the problems that you have with him but locking up the father of your baby is wrong. In the future your baby may want to get to know his father give him the chance to both your baby and him. If you feel like you don't want to be with him that's fine but don't punish your baby for yours and his mistake there is a child in the middle of this and your baby deserves to have both of you there for him or her. So good luck and i hope everything turns out fine, remember we are humans and we all make mistakes but as humans we all deserve a second chance.
2007-03-14 09:36:21 · answer #7 · answered by Ana D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not old enough to consent to sex.You may feel old enough physically,but mentally you are not.Your mom is wrong for letting you 2 sleep together.If someone,anyone reports that the 2 of you are having sex,then yes he would go to jail.If he denies it,then they will test the baby,and if his DNA matches the baby he will go to jail.He is walking a real fine line and may of just crossed that line.You write like a child,and if the way you write is anything like the way you behave,then yes you are wrong.
2007-03-12 21:53:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what is done is done... you can't live the past wishing you did or said something you didn't.
You are going to have to grow up and mature really quickly now, for the sake of your baby.
I suggest you speaking to mum, and try working together on this situation, as she will be by your side..
She may feel resentment against him, as he was mature enough, and she will always see you as her little girl... yes she may be angry with him, but i doubt it will stay for long... you will have to ask her what she will do in this situation, as a mother...
..But you are becoming a mother yourself now, and will need to make some decisions about your relationship with this guy, and what is best for your baby.
Good luck with the pregnancy. Please don't fall out with your mum over this... She only wants the best for you!
2007-03-12 21:44:53 · answer #9 · answered by ஐ♥PinkBoo - TTC #1♥ஐ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your mom is wrong for that one...if she's threatening you about putting him in jail...then you should let her know that you will also advise the police to the fact that she willingly brought an adult into her home knowing that he was going to sleep with her under age daughter... what he did was a crime and I don't agree with it but I would rather see his butt out in the real world working to get you some money then locked up....good luck with the new baby, go to school, and get yourself together for your kid
2007-03-12 21:46:13 · answer #10 · answered by lata 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋