My dad is in stage 4 kidney cancer and he just came home from the hospital. My wife and my mom don't want to get involved with anything. My wife is going back to her mom house to sleep so it left me and my cousin to take care my dad. Can some one tell me what should I do? Thanks!!
2007-03-12 21:28:36 · 7 answers · asked by danielxx323 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
it's sad that you do not have a support system to help you, but, even more sad that no one wants to be there for your dad. it's up to your cousin and you to help him through his pain. imagine how he must feel, knowing he needs help, and probably doesn't want or even considered in his lifetime that he would have to rely on people to provide for him. his pride is involved here besides his pain. regardless, of what your mom and wife do, you have to give him the support he needs. if the load becomes too heavy for you, you can try to get a nurse to assist him. if he has health insurance, check it out - and, if he doesn't, try social services, they may be able to help provide one. in any event, don't look at this as a burden that no else wants to take care of, but, give your dad the love, courage and respect that he truly needs at this point in his life. you may find that you develop into a more meaning father/son relationship than you ever thought possible. remember, God, makes us walk in different steps and it's up to us to find the right direction for those steps. try to make this a Blessing for yourself and your dad and please don't hold it against your wife and mom for not wanting to help - this is their choice and their sin to live with not yours. hang in there and stay strong.
2007-03-13 01:08:07 · answer #1 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sad that your WIFE does not want to get involved. She should support you in this situation and obvious event that is sure to take place soon. For God's sake the man is dying. This does not reflect on them very well,........and I say them which includes your Mother and anyone else taking the same route.
Good, Bad, or Indifferent,........regardless of how your Dad was or what he meant to those that are shunning him in his final trek in life,......he is dying and everyone should put aside their issues and such and grow up and show the man some decency and allow him to die with some integrity. He may want to make amneds for his imperfections to those that wish to "not to get involved".
However; you don't have time nor the energy to take on these individuals. Just stand by your Dad, and your rewards will come to you. Like another said,......dealing with the others is best left for another day.
Good Luck and May peace be among you.
2007-03-12 21:40:38 · answer #2 · answered by The Sylvan Wizard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i think u should talk to ur wife about helping u taking care of ur father. as a wife, she should be there for u , no matter what. and i think is right for u to be in ur father's side, coz in this situation, ur dad need ur more than ur wife. but still need to balance. and share time for ur wife also. i think u wife should be more understanding about the situation.
2007-03-12 23:37:56 · answer #3 · answered by EJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take care of your father as much as your can. Your wife is another issue for another day.
2007-03-12 21:33:34 · answer #4 · answered by 1TON 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take care of your father and remind everyone else that some day they may become ill and depend on you to take care of them. The question is, will you?
2007-03-13 00:50:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is your dad and you take care of him. Do not think what others are doing .Give him happiness by taking care of him
2007-03-12 21:33:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a sort of yours experience. someone have to make the sacrifice. but in your case i dont know on what terms your wife left to her mum maybe you could give her a little attention too . even if you have too much on your hands but you have to think about your family too. and about yourself too. i know it's hard but that's life.
2007-03-12 21:44:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋