My oldest brother doesnt seem to like me very much at all. He never tries talkin to me or anything. He talks to my other two brothers and is cool with them, but for some reason and idk why, he seems to dislike me alot.
2007-03-12 21:28:11 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Why cant people on here ever be serious? Azzholes.
2007-03-12 21:33:17 · update #1
He admires you very much, and deep inside he wants to be as strong and intelligent as you, but, because you are the little one, he doesn't want to recognize this and he just pretend being indifferent.
2007-03-12 21:31:51 · answer #1 · answered by Gersin 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is he the oldest and you are the youngest? If the answer is yes... this is because of the big age gap.... or just the fact that you are so much younger and he didn't really bond with you when you were small. Our youngest sister is 13 years younger than myself... that makes her 11 years younger than our brother was (bless his soul) and 15 years younger than our oldest sister. I'm best friends with my little sister (well, she is now 23 years old).... but her and our older sis don't have a close relationship until now. I shared one room with my older sister, but our youngest sister was always with our mom and dad. Our eldest was actually really mean to her and often made her cry. They no longer communicate with each other at this point. So, you see you are not the only one who experiences this kind of relationship. All I can say to you is: stay away from toxic people... even if it's your brother. A close friend is probably a better brother material than him. Friends can replace a toxic sibling..... don't let him hurt you this way anymore. It's not you who has a problem.... and it might just be really because of the fact that you guys haven't bonded from the very beginning. He was older than you when you were born, so it's not your fault at all. He might have decided for himself when he was young that bonding with you wasn't necessary.... just because he didn't know better as a child. Just don't try so hard in winning his love.... live life to the fullest nevertheless!
2007-03-13 04:45:02 · answer #2 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you quite a lot younger than your oldest brother? If you are, dont worry. It's normal for older brothers to think their little brothers are really annoying at some stage. you guys will probably end up being best friends later on in life. If you are really worried and its starting to hurt you, ask him why. Ask him if there is a problem and maybe you guys can work it out.
2007-03-13 04:34:08 · answer #3 · answered by Kris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only one that can give you the answer is your brother. If you who live with him does not know, we certainly can't tell you. We can only guess?
Is he jealouse of you? Did you hurt him in anyway? Does he have more in common with your other brothers? If the last question is answered yes, then obviously he has more to talk to them about.
2007-03-13 04:35:37 · answer #4 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a couple of things, the age difference might lead to him not being able to communicate with you.
But more likely, I'm the baby of my family and my parents were a lot more lenient on me, which upset my older sister. My parents always said that parents although not intentionally are more strict on their first child, leads to bad feelings. I'm guessing your parents were a lot stricter on him, ask your parents and get them to talk to him, he's real anger will be at them.
2007-03-13 04:48:52 · answer #5 · answered by madnesscon 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to talk to him.. involve him with your life! and i guess he doesnt know how to approach you..
Have you guys had a falling out??
if so, then maybe you need to repair that
if not, talk to him and dont ask him why what t doesnt matter just open the road and expand it...
2007-03-13 04:34:46 · answer #6 · answered by Chrissy D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi...justin dont be upset....when I read your question and thee details I really felt sad and wanted to help you...then I read your additional details...it is not good...boy...you have written "Aa....h...l" ....cause there are so many people( who doesnt deserve you calling them as ' A....H...ls") wanted to give their good advices...so pls. remove that word from your additional details ok....and let me give my opinion as well... your brother since he is older then you...hope there would be much differents in the age between you and your brother....why dont you try to write him...by explaining him all those whatever you felt..about him...and the way you love him ...and the way you respect him....and what you are expecting from him as an older brother. ..hope this is enough to help you.
2007-03-13 05:09:20 · answer #7 · answered by 2bros 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
confront him. tell him he is your brother and you love him and you would really like to get to know him better. me and my brothers are so close that i went down to brisbane to help my brother when he was sick. i dont understand how a family cant be close. just confron him and tell him how you feel
2007-03-13 04:33:38 · answer #8 · answered by chelsieleej 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him, maybe it is an age thing, or he is going through some changes and is trying to protect you from them.
2007-03-13 04:33:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello
I think u should talk to him about this.maybe he really does not know how to show his feeling to you!! and maybe he does not speak to you because he does not know what to speak about!! however you are not the first one who have this problem and it is not the first time that this problem occurs; and in many cases the problem resolves with speaking about the problem.
i wish this resolve your problem.
2007-03-13 04:46:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋