Young Co-worker in mid 20s seems to suffer from sex addiction. Every day I notice, different guys pick her up; some of them from same office (even married guys). She is extremely successful in her job (by her exceptional technical capacity; not by exchanging any favor and is respected by everyone for the technical contribution to the company).
Nowadays she attends work very late and takes morning stand up meetings in mobile phone while driving.
I am not sure what should I do. Should I talk/advice to her ? I am not even sure if her behavior is normal to that age. I don't know how young people in mid 20s would receive advice from another co-worker. I am not sure if her behavior is due to high work stress level in the office. I want some suggestions/thoughts from people of that age (possibly office working female mid 20s).
FYI:
I am one of the senior person in the office (by age; not by job level) in late 40s. Please don't advice like me moving out of job, I cannot find one.
2007-03-12 21:04:55 · 7 answers · asked by sn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My son is almost her age. I am concerned like a father.
2007-03-12 21:17:35 · update #1
btw, I am not the only one who knows about this behaviour. The entire office has some knowledege about it.
2007-03-12 21:43:32 · update #2
Again Some selfishness in this. My team would not meet deadlines, if she falls into longterm illness. Her better health (mental, physical etc) is needed for our team.
2007-03-12 22:10:20 · update #3
Don't get involved. Just let her deal with it. She is a co-worker and you don't know her as a close friend, so just let her deal with it. If you talk to her about it she might think you are trying to get in her pants. It's 2007 and most women in the work place think that all men want to get into their pants.
2007-03-12 21:16:30 · answer #1 · answered by Joseph 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are truly concerned maybe you should pull her into the office but get another co-worker (a female) in with you so that she doesn't feel it is a sexual harassment situation and just discuss some of the behavior patterns that you've noticed at work (being late not attending meetings) try not bring in the sex addiction part to it. Ask her if everything is okay. If she doesn't want to talk about it I wouldn't push it.
2007-03-13 04:10:40 · answer #2 · answered by Patrick E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's kind of you to care for you, however, I don't think it's your place to say anything to her. You call her a coworker, not a friend, which indicates to me just that: she's not a friend. She's a work aquiantance.
You say that you notice that different guys pick her up. Are you even positive that she is having sex with them? Perhaps they are friends. Maybe she is sleeping with them all. You don't know, and it would be horribly rude to ask. Actually, I don't think there is any way you could go up to offer her help or advice without sounding rude and nosy. Really, you don't have proof that she has a sex addicion. you just have suspiscions that she could be promiscious.
If you confront her on these suspicions, I see horrible fireworks. It simply isn't your place. Leave it to her friends or family if there really is a problem. As a twenty-something female that's worked in an office before, I would be horribly offended if a coworker tried to advice me on my sexual activites.
However, you could speak to her about the coming in late issue. You could kindly tell her that you don't want to see her in trouble, but the boss or whoever is getting annoyed by her tardiness, and can you give her a ride or anything?
You seem to care about this girl, I would advise being kind to her, getting to know her better. Maybe then you could help her out. Ask her out to lunch, share a conversation with her. Befriend her. Then you'll be in a better position to help her.
2007-03-13 04:17:47 · answer #3 · answered by Megan 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
hey, I'm VERY surprised to hear that from you instead. I thought you wld be fancying her too. But to my surprise, all you were thinking of is to help her. That is great to hear that!
You can kindly refer her to see a doctor, or required bring her to visit some psychiatrist or psychologist. It is better to detect her problems now than to make her regret in the the future. And worst thing is she'll be getting all sorts of sexual diseases if there is improper protection in any form of engagement in sex.
2007-03-13 04:32:46 · answer #4 · answered by PoshBerries 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nobody should know thier coworkers that good. keep it on a distant-professional level. who knows what her issues are and who cares.
2007-03-13 04:10:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you like her, just tell her.
2007-03-13 04:10:57 · answer #6 · answered by Gersin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its none of your business. leave her alone.
2007-03-13 04:07:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋