ok me and my bf have been together a year and 5 months. We can't see eachother or talk to eachother. He has changed. My bestfriend said she seen him w/ another girl and he told me that she was lieing. But who would tell the truth about that .He has always told me that he would never hurt me but he has sooooo many times. He ditches me all the time. He lies to me about things. I dunno what to do i am soooo confused. He use to tell me he loved me all the time but when i call him at work he doesn't say it or anything. When i go see him he is different then what he use to be. I am sooo scared that he is cheatin on me. I don't go to the same school as him anymore so i dunno what is goin on. So yea. I cry myself to sleep everynite cuz i am so depressed. I have stomach ulcers and they are gettin worse cuz of this stuff. am i that stupid to stay with him? I mean i love him with all my heart. But i dunno what to do. So plz help me....
2007-03-12 20:58:21 · 14 answers · asked by Ashley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Love is a tough thing to deal with especially when it seems like you're the only one in love. As hard as it may be to understand, from what you're saying it seems as if he may not feel that way. Before you make any real decision about the situation, sit down and talk to him. Plan ahead of time for you two to meet and talk about your relationship. Give yourself enough time so you can think of exactly what you'd like to say. When you talk to him tell him exactly what you're feeling and ask him if things between you have changed. Go from there on exactly what you want to do. Try not to get upset with his responses to some of your questions because that's the kind of situation that will make you make a not well thought out decision. The toughest part of it all is telling him that if either of you are becoming miserable from the relationship, it's better for the both of you just to break it off. Trust it will only cause more heart ache in the long run. And last never blame yourself for problems in a relationship. Take some time out for yourself and who knows maybe things will later work themselves out. Good Luck!
2007-03-12 21:08:00 · answer #1 · answered by bre714 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider this relationship over. Some guys are too cowardly to break up so they do things in hopes the gf will end the relationship first. If he lies, ditches you, and won't talk to you he should be dumped. He's not worth you time and effort. It hurts right now but the hurt will eventually go away. Go see a doctor about the stomach ulcers, gather some girlfriends and have a big "I dumped my boyfriend" night out.
2007-03-13 04:09:34 · answer #2 · answered by kgee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want to ask you something very important. Would you ever do this to another person? Cheat on them, not tell them it's over before you started dating someone else? As soft hearted as you sound, I doubt it. So tell be honestly, why on earth are YOU letting this person hurt you like this? You are soooooooo much better than this. He's the loser, not you! Let him go, give him to the other girl, cuz he's going to cheat on her too. You need to take some time and get back in contact with yourself, and realize your well worth more than what he deserves! Feel good about the change you need to made, and learn from it. I know it's a hard stepping stone, but don't let it take you down too much, cuz guys like that aren't worth it. But YOU are! Believe it!!!!! He will realize it in the long run!! His loss!!!
2007-03-13 04:13:33 · answer #3 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, you have said it your self that you have only known him for like 5 months now, and he is behaving totally different already. You need to call it quits, I say that because he isn't good for your health, it is suffering and not in a good way. when you worry so much that you end up with ulcers, that is not good. Put him behind you and move on with your life. Talk with your parents and let them know about your stomach so that they can get you seen by the doctor. If you do have an ulcer, you need to get that taken care of. I once had one and they treated it with two very strong antibiotic. It did ger better and it healed up and I haven't had another once since.
You talk about your best friend having seen him with some one else, it sounds as though your girlfriend told you the truth. Put this guy behind you he doesn't deserve to have you.
I don't think that you are as confused as you think that you are. I think that you already do know that he is cheating on you, why stay with some one who as you pointed out is ditching you all the time? You also said that he lies to you about things.
It's time to stop being used by this guy and take back your control and dump him flat on his backside. He isn't worth getting so up set over, no one ever is. You are not helpless, you are strong and smart. You have to love your self and be great to your self.
You really will be just fine, go out with your good friend and do some nice things with her. She really seems like a true blue friend that is really there for you. Hang out and maybe go to the movies and do some shopping, get out and start to heal. Move on and you will feel better. Your friend will totally be there for you as she cares about what happens to you. That took such courage on her part to be a good friend to you, to let you know that she saw your boyfriend withsome one else.
You will be just fine, just remember that you are worth so much more and deserve so much better. Be good to your self. Stop letting this guy short change you, and treat you badly. You need to just forget him and do it
2007-03-13 06:35:54 · answer #4 · answered by Cindy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My my my.... I feel sorry for you hun. It's difficult to love someone so much and yet they don't love you back. I can see already where people would give you mean answers calling you stupid and what not. Truth is you are not stupid... just very much in love. Problem is sweety... he doesn't love you.. and is lying to you flat out. I think you honestly answered your own question... but I think what you need is to hear.. or in this case read it. It's time to move on Sweety... Yes it's going to hurt... yes it will be very difficult... but it will heal and get better over time... if you stay... it will only get worse. LEave him hun... find yourself a real man worthy of your love, and don't ever go back to this scumbag... no matter what he tries.
2007-03-13 04:08:15 · answer #5 · answered by Justin L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hon, you can love someone with 'all your heart' but ALWAYS do whats best for you. he doesnt make you complete..you need to be complete without him.
im married now, but in the past when i was dating i would make a list of pros and cons about the guy i was dating when i was in doubt. if the pros out way the cons, and you really think he is worth it...ask your self why? be honest with yourself?...and your answer will come within you.
life and love is a BEAUTIFUL thing! dont waste it being stressed over someone else, because more than likely he isnt sitting at home stressing over you.
okay? good luck hon.
2007-03-13 04:06:10 · answer #6 · answered by Queenly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here is the thing, a little tough love, you are too available. maybe you need to be busy, so that when he realizes what he's missing, then you will know the truth, don't give in too easily, if he really cares, he'll have to prove it.
so get out there and have fun, get an agenda, get out of your funk and get your confidence in yourself back, you'll be more desirable that way, everyone wants to be around someone who is happy in their own skin.
2007-03-13 04:07:54 · answer #7 · answered by Paulie P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hay naku, Leave him. That's the best thing you can do now. Don't be blinded with his pretty lies, I know you can figure it out. Don't be misled by what you believe--that he still loves you. Love doesn't hurts like what your bf does, so get over him.
2007-03-13 04:12:03 · answer #8 · answered by Jeremiah C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is high time since you realized the fact that he is cheating you. If so it is better to leave him alone insipte of all the love you have to him. Time is a great healer and you will soon come across a guy who really cares and loves you.
2007-03-13 04:04:11 · answer #9 · answered by anand_e_j 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is not worth all the love u have for him or the care and attention u r giving him.. n well, if u hold onto things, esp ppl, u may never get them.. So, it is time u told him u want a break and c how he reacts.
if he is so completely unconcerned, then its time to tell him goodbye forever. because u r person who is unique. u hv ur self worth. he cannot treat u the way he is doing now.
girl, take care of ur health and just think. he lies to u. he treats u bad. ur best frnd is nt going to lie to u . is she?!
so, u knw who to believe n wat to do...
2007-03-13 04:04:16 · answer #10 · answered by Perplexity 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋