I am 16 years old and i have a boyfriend. We have been together for 1 year and 5 months. His dad has just recently started to abuse him. For one i am scared that he will be like that with me. He is always grounded. We use to be like PPJ. together all the time. Now he can't see me and he isn't aloud to call me. I feel like we are being pulled apart. It doesn't help that his dad and step mom hate me for something that i didn't even do. Could he be breaking up with me? He is changing. I go to his work to see him but he is different around me. He use to always hug and kiss me now i have to always hug and kiss him. I am confuesed. Should i stay or should i leave? Either way it will be hard. So someone PLEASE give me so GOOD advice. thanks.
2007-03-12 19:58:19 · 10 answers · asked by Ashley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm not coming down on you or your feelings, but why are you more worried about if he's breaking up with you than you are about his dad abusing him? I don't know the specifics here, or what you're classifying as "abuse" but if your boyfriend is in danger you need to put y'alls romantic relationship on the back burner for now. Don't worry about his parents hating you-that's usually the way it goes. The sudden lack of affection towards you could be a result of his situation with his dad, especially depending on what kind of abuse is going on. Is he withdrawing from everyone or just you? I think he needs someone to be there for him, whether it's as a girlfriend or not. If there's abuse you need to report it. Tell a teacher, a cop, your parents, ANYBODY what's going on. The main thing here is his safety, not a date. I hope everything works out for both of you, but please, don't stay quiet.
2007-03-12 21:34:02 · answer #1 · answered by dmarie2101 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ashley, at 16 you are too young to be worried about a steady guy--he has his issues--face the facts--he is probably in trouble at home for a buch of stuff that results in his behavior---I mean he was probably told to knock off seeing you and get on with his responsibilities--so he is having a tough time--tougher than you can imagine.Sure it is hard to let a person go--but do it. It will be better in a while but for now it is a losing battle---he will not explode if you tell him that you think some space and time is what both of you need. You better start worrying about your own life and school--you have plenty of time for guys later.Teen years are tough--you need to do a lot of growing up yet. So back off, and settle down--skip the drama--it isn't going to help. He will be around later--if not--too bad, find another guy---it isn't the end of the world. You have absolutely no idea what a relationship is all about--you can't know at 16 or 17 or 18---it takes years for the experience to come--so be a nice girl, take care of your OWN life for now. Let him work on his. Smile, relax, be cool and good luck
2007-03-13 04:13:40 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him. Ask him if it is really his parents keeping you apart, or has he decided that it is best for the two of you not to see each other. If this is the case, it is best for you to let go before you get hurt worse.
If he really is being abused, try to convince him to see the counselor at school, his doctor, or someone in his church about getting some help. No child should have to suffer abuse at the hand of a parent.
Could he have done something awful that has caused his parents to ground him that severely? Sometimes when kids get out of hand, parents tighten up the leash. Then can appear to be abuse, however it is usually to keep the child from ruining his life. If you are speaking of physical abuse, on the other hand, there is no excuse for a parent to beat on a child regardless of the situation.
2007-03-13 03:18:58 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because his dad abuses him doesn't mean he will abuse you...if you have been together that long...you would see signs atleast of it by now...
Sounds like you need to find a way to talk to him...so you can find out where you stand...if your really desperate write him a letter and mail it...just make sure you don't write anything bad because his parents will read it. Better still,Maybe you could even write a letter to his parents...and explain how you feel about him and how you didnt do the things they think you did...put them both in the envelope..and mail it....I mean desperate times call for desperate measures...unless you are thinking you want it to be over...in that case just let it lie---let your realtionship die!
2007-03-13 03:07:20 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa Kay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, if he is acting different, it is because things are different. Don't pursue him, let him come after you, and he will if he cares. You may even want to ask him why the change? If he avoids the question, step back, give him the space he needs. You are right it will be hard, but you need to save yourself from further heartbreak. He is not the only fish in the sea.
2007-03-13 03:10:14 · answer #5 · answered by Bernice J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look tell him straight out if he wants to be with you or not. this is so not fair for him to put you through this. Maybe he's not showing his true feelings because someone might see and report to his parents. You deserve a lot better than this.........Get a straight answer out of him or you dump him and move on...
2007-03-13 03:06:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better get used to it, his folks have the cards in this game. Just back off and if he is coming back you can be happy. But his folks apparently have him under their control.
2007-03-13 03:04:09 · answer #7 · answered by bigjohn B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first i think you are way too young to be setteling down you should allow yourself to experience more there are alot of things you need to do so just go on your way life is too short so if he isnt the same move on you have alot more to experience
2007-03-13 03:47:23 · answer #8 · answered by rainie s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might start a new relation.
2007-03-13 03:05:47 · answer #9 · answered by Khurram 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now you must leave him
2007-03-13 03:02:26 · answer #10 · answered by yogesh gulhania 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋