Should I say this to the girl I miss? I'm trying to plan out what to say to her these words are from the heart

Question

Hey. How are you? Ever since we stopped talking, (me and her haven't talked for ten months) I had been going over everything in my head, trying to figure out what I was doing wrong. You know, I still remember what you said to me the last time we talked, the things you were mad at me about. I remember the first thing you said was that I harassed you. It's kind of funny really, that was the last thing I ever wanted to do to you but I guess I did anyway. If you said that because I called you almost every weeknight, it as only because when we were at school we'd only talk for two minutes. I never really got to talk to you when it'd be just me and you. Even when I called, someone else would always call. I was always afraid that I was doing something wrong to make you not like me. I also remember that you told me I obsessed over you. I guess I did and I'm sorry, but what boy wouldn't obsess over an amazing, wonderful, smart, talented, funny, beautiful girl like you? Especially if he didn't

want to lose you. It still doesn't make it right though and I'm sorry. It's just that a special girl like you is hard to find. No one else has your light brown eyes that sparkle when you're happy and fade away when you're sad. I get lost in your eyes. No other girl has your bright smile. I remember the last thing you said was I don't know you. You told me before that, when I was feeling down that you could tell something was wrong because you know me! I know I don't know everything about you, but I want to know everything about you. I really care about you and you're special to me. I'm tired of playing this silly game acting like you're not. Without you, I just had to admit that I must be really stupid. I should have understood then what you were trying to tell me, that it wasn't anything wrong with me that you didn't like, it was you just didn't share those feelings for me that I had for you. I've found out for myself it was better when you didn't like me in that way. Now that you

don't like me at all, I realize that's worse. So, for these things I've done, I'm really sorry. I was just afraid of losing you, so I did. I only want us to start over, pretend this whole thing never happened and if necessary forget that there was any mention of romantic interest between us. Maybe we could chill and hang out somewhere sometime as just friends, because I know with you I don't have a chance. I just want your friendship back, if it's ok with you. If you think I'm clingy, needy, desperate, then that's alright with me. I can't change what you think about me, I just know for myself that's not me. I just wanted to let you know, if for the last time, how I feel about you. (end: note-this is not a letter)

She isn't seeing anyone and I just want us to be friends at least. This is not a letter, I want to say this to her. Guys and girls what do you think? Girls, would you talk to me again if you were her (I can handle the hard truth)? Are there any revisions I should do? How do I make this shorter so I don't bore her? I just have this feeling if I try actually talking to her instead of ignoring her she might listen. We've been saying hi to each other occasionally. I have not tried to speak to her in the time of us not talking, I've ony called once then hung up out of fear a long time ago, basically I haven't tried hard at all. The ignoring thing seems like it's taking too long in terms of her coming to me, but she sneaks glances at me from a distance. and that's just not me. I guess I'm just mister nice guy. I'm going to try to talk to her normally first before telling her this, or writing her this.

What do I do for her birthday? She turns 17 in two weeks. I turned 17 last month.

I don't know how to say the very last part effectively, if I should say it at all.

I have not harassed stalked etc. HoweverI have obsessed, and I still obsess.

Also, this is/could be my first and last attempt to talk to her directly

Answer 1

Ehem2! Remember my friend. You're not the only one who write this letter to her. Moreover you said that she's hot, funny, intelligent. I'm pretty sure many guys have done that to her. Giving her flowers, letters, etc. etc.

Let's take a look into her point of view when she read your letter. Huh? I don't like this guy but why is he writing this letter to me? It's been ten months. Suddenly. I'm enjoying my life right now. Many guys wants to get my attention. Oh, wait. Do I even remember of what we have or did together?

My friend, ask any hot girl. Ask them how they feel when guys write this kind of letter to them.

My friend, I even see someone begging to his girlfriend and threatens to kill himself just because she doesn't want him back. It's true man. Your letter sounds begging.

Answer 2

I say send the letter. Just don't send another one after that if she does not respond. Like one person commented, she may find it sweet, and at least your feelings are out there. If she does not feel the same, so be it--she can either tell you that, or she could ridicule you for it if she is not kind--in that case you'd know that she is not the right person for you anyway. But I would not press it beyond that, because that would be considered harrassment in today's society, at least in the USA and in most of Europe. I think those laws are wrong, but the law is the law.

Answer 3

Wow, i don't know precisely what befell between you 2 in spite of the undeniable fact that that's obtrusive that you care very a lot for this individual. i imagine you should deliver the letter. what's the worst that could want to ensue. a minimum of you'll get some type of closer. sturdy success I desire you each of the finest.

Answer 4

this..melted my heart.

i'd say go for it. And dude, if she still doesnt accept it, then she's not the girl for you. She doesnt deserve such a sweet guy. :)

Answer 5

tell her this. and hell, even if she doesnt like it, you will feel better knowing that she knows how you feel. you got nuthin to lose

Answer 6

well she said you are obsessed with her, and you are harassing her. I woudlnt' send it.