What did you learn after a break up?why?

Question

and why did u broke up? how did u feel?

Answer 1

Hmmm..this is a good question!

Im married now, but overlooking all of my past relationships id have to say i learned the most: to be strong, independant, complete (another person does NOT make you whole), "you live you learn", honesty TRULY is the best policy, and "dont sweat the small stuff"

Answer 2

you break up, because you finally come to your senses and the conclusion that he is, just like all the other guys, he says he is not. Wrong! This man makes promises,he knows he can't keep.He says its going to be different, this time,and never is. You go back, and it never changes. I got hurt, and nothing but misery, or I felt like I had to walk on egg shells.

I just broke up with this guy after making the record in the Guinness book of records for the most break ups in three years. He is almost 49 and never been married, and I don't care if he has had 30 or more women, there has been no solid relationship out of any of them. Why you may ask? He needs to grow up big time, and realize its not just one way relationship. If he expects a woman to accept, his tantrums, and that he is always right!! He might have a chance.Doubt it!

I know I have learned I will not give l00% ever again to any man or relationship, unless I am so sure that it is a two way supportive relationship.

I feel so glad, and relieved to finally tell him where to go and for myself I can move on, and take some time to get rid of all my bad influences, and start to live my life for myself and my kids,again. And never let anyone influence me again. Over this last break up I learned alot about, the phrase "general relationships" or dating, or seeing someone. The number one thing not to do is:

l. Never give a man your "power", that can be in mind, or life. I had to learn that this time,several days ago and I should of know because I learned that many years ago. With that one thing your "power" you will be okay, and you won't feel smuthered or out of control.
2. Never rely on one particular person, boyfriend, husband, friend...because you will lose that power and it takes alot to bring yourself back to reality.
Good Luck.!

Answer 3

I learned that I should listen to what others around me are telling me because they, unlike me who was blinded by love didn't see what they were seeing. A horrible man who just wanted to use me for sex. Who didn't treat me right or respect me in anyway. We never even broke up because he was a coward and not much of a man to be straight out and tell me it was over. Instead he never called me again. Leaving me desperate and wondering if anything happened to him, or if I did something wrong. It was the most horrible thing ever. Which months later I was able to contact him and he acted like if nothing ever happened and he told me to call him the next day to "explain better" why he left me. Which I told him off and told me that I was making it sound like it was his fault.

Answer 4

1) That if someone is willing to cheat on the person they're with for you. They'll eventually cheat on you for someone else.
2) Never settle-- there is someone who'll add to making you the happiest person out there. Don't marry just because he/ she's only the best that's come along so far.
3) Baggage is unhealthy. If they come with a whole lot of emotional baggage, it's best that they sort that out on their own first, otherwise it will dampen the relationship and drag you into it. Make sure the slate is clean and open on both sides before trying to love.
4) Trust your instincts. ---What ever they are. If you think they're cheating they are. If you think they're lying--they are. If you think they're whatever....they are!

Answer 5

I learned that its sometimes better to break away,especialy when the women I was In Love with couldnt come to terms with her past,and her part in our own failed relationship,you can see what happens and especialy like l ps answer,I knew a women that gave all her power to her older son,that even frauded his own mom out of a large sum of money.she held me to a higher standard than herself,and when confronted about having sex when she didnt have to lie,stilled denied it.All this girl could do is tell how bad her ex was,and her brother was pshyco,and I never even met this girls family,she would turn all the arguments around and then I would be the one saying sorry.The moral of the story would be to find out as much about the other person as possible,including interactions with her brothers,children,mother,and see what quality friends this person has.And if the person cant stop talking about there past,well run the hills as fast as you can because that person will definetly make you the past and your the next one that becomes there scape goat,because of there own inabilty to look at there own faults,so never give your power away,and in my case a women that couldnt see the truth if she tripped over it.

Answer 6

I learnt that everyone takes everyone for granite ...my husband i i broke up a few years ago and got back together 6months later. with his ex wife and the three kids two his one mine from our past relationships and a few other things like monies and bills...we drifted apart. once sperated we noticed how we both took each other for granite. and what eachother meant to the other. how little things can brake up something that is the back bone of a relationship and the relationship will not survive if just left to grow on its own. its a half half existance i do some and so does he its alot of hard work
and takes alot of effort if its going to work...lucky enough our is

Answer 7

Hi Ms. John, To never marry again!!! WHY: User,Cheater,lie-er,loser and abuser. Broke-up: He Physical and Mentally abuse me. How did i feel.. Sweetie that was the best thing i could of done for myself. I feel a lot better about myself and i feel free.
A Friend.

Clowmy

Answer 8

that i shouldn't follow my everyone else's advice all the time, and instead do what i feel is best. why, well it's kind of self explanatory.

we broke up for various reasons, i guess both of us wanted to be in control and we went along with everything our friends would advise.

i was heartbroken and mistakenly listened to my friends again and started dating someone shortly after, only to find out that i hurt the guy i really liked because of it.

Answer 9

In each difficulty the place my heart become broken, I found out something approximately myself. this is why i'm no longer bitter approximately particular breakups or depressed over deaths for an prolonged time. each little thing occurs for a reason, and existence is only too short to be unhappy. I found out that i'm improved than i presumed i become, and that i found out to think of with reference to the coolest cases particularly of the undesirable. issues will happen in existence which will disappoint you, yet once you study something approximately your self in the approach, it wasn't in ineffective.

Answer 10

get an atourny... she wanted to "pretend" I didint exsist. However I have a kid w/ her and she broke up when I was away at school, and I was sending support back (not court ordered)