My gf went to myrtle beach a couple of days ago with her uncle aunt and her uncles friend that she had never met one night we got into an argument and i broke up with her but i didnt mean it and she knew it even after that she said she loved me and that she would not hurt me while she was there when she got back she told me that she made out with her uncles friend she is 16 and he is 22 i am 18 What hurts the most is that she only knew him for 1 day and she made out with him 5 hours after we broke up And he is so much older. she also slept in the same bed as he did in a separate room from her uncle and aunt. She tells me that she just did it cause she could and that she was mad at me and he was so nice to her. she says she regrets it and that she will never do it again. she says that she kinda felt pressured. is she in the wrong. she says she loves me but how can she if she made out with a guy 5 hours after we play breakup with a guy she knew for less than a day. can i take her bac
2007-03-12 18:49:10 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"i broke up with her but i didnt mean it"
You can't break up with someone, and then take it back and say you didn't mean it. You broke up with her! That means that she did NOT have a boyfriend at the time when she made out with this guy.
I'm gonna tell you honestly what I think. I think you should get over it. If you don't want to, then remain broken up and find a new girl.
I can see why you're mad, since she did make out with him right after you guys broke up, but she was NOT cheating on you. At least she had the decency to even tell you what she did...she didn't have to do that.
If you want to take her back, then go ahead. But you seem a little too controlling.
2007-03-12 18:53:55 · answer #1 · answered by Wendy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well see that's your problem stop playing. How in the world to you play breakup? Besides both you and the other guy afre in the wrong because the girl is only 16 and the both of you are 18 and 22 it's called statutory rape by the way. Yes I know it's only a 2 year gap between you and her but it's still illegal. And what does it matter anyway you'll take her back because you like her or otherwise you would not be on here asking for adivse to see if you would look crazy or not. Not to down you or anything but you even said that you were broke up so what does it matter?
2007-03-13 02:00:08 · answer #2 · answered by ltwatkins77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she just up and did whatever she wanted to without any concern for you. 5 hours isn't exactly a lot of time after breaking up.
And the "pressured" line sounds like BS, it is not very hard for a girl to say "no" especially with other people in the house that would have backed her up. Sounds like she did it intentionally but is trying to sleaze it over on you by putting the blame on her uncles friend. I would break up with her based on that line alone, but then again I have a low tolerance for phony people.
2007-03-13 02:01:15 · answer #3 · answered by days_o_work 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you guys are kids and dont know whats love...your gf you broke up with seems to be playing the revenge game just to make you jealous. I dont trust her because if she's acting like this, she might be doing this when your going to be back in a relationship. she was kissing another guy to get your attention or make you angry.
also for you, maybe you need to rethink about some things through before you go back with your girl because you just had an arguement with her and just decided to break up based on that. you need to learn to work these arguements out together in a relationship, not break up everytime you have arguements...
oh and its not technically her fault when she kissed the other guy when you broke up with her because she was single! however, it doesnt make any sense for her to kiss another guy 5hrs after her breakup with you when she has feelings for you, or if she did, she wouldnt have made a move on the other guy.
2007-03-13 02:02:26 · answer #4 · answered by =P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
playing games at 16 huh? She has a lot of growing up to do, and honestly you're worth so much more. As a girl who's played the game before, she's full of crap if she says she loves you. If you're truely in love with someone you're not making out with another guy 5 hours later, you at home crying your eyes out trying to make sence of what just happened.
2007-03-13 02:00:09 · answer #5 · answered by Heather Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be upset but you are focusing too much on the fact she did this with a guy she only knew for 1 day. That doesn't mean she's promiscuous, it means she's young, like you, and was angry. You did break up with her!!
If you can't get over it you should dump her and remember for future reference to not be a baby and dump people when you don't mean it.
2007-03-13 01:55:42 · answer #6 · answered by GranolaGurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you poor thing what a bad situation you are in. firstly if there is true undying love, see the key word undying. then the other guy wouldn't have been any temptation. and if your arguement would have made you both feel like the dream was over then she would have needed time to sort herself out and get over you before attempting any intimat liasions with another. see the truth as i see it, she wanted to hurt you maybe to make you jealous or to somehow make you feel some type of pain. try to look at your situation as if you were giving advice to a friend and see what's logical. good luck yahoo mate!
2007-03-13 01:58:10 · answer #7 · answered by pork_choppie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously broke up for a reason and her to get with someone else must of really hurt you badly. It isnt worth getting back with her when there will only be pain and you wont be able to trust her.
She wasnt pressured at all!! She did what she did it takes 2 to tango. I wouldnt go back with her. Move on your young and youll find someone who will make it right.
All the best. Your heart is in pain, dont go back for seconds when your heart will always be brocken with her.
Keep you chin up tiger
2007-03-13 01:59:10 · answer #8 · answered by Nat555 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww sweetie no dont take her back cause she knew what she was doing and she wanted to hurt you! I call it lust not love cause love doesnt hurt only lust does plus shes 16 and you know how they are ! They think just cause there young they can be with whoever they want for fun and honestly shes young to know what she wants!There are other mature girls out there for you ! Who will not do anything to break your heart cause they will truly love you!
2007-03-13 02:02:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was mad and hurt. Regardless if you meant it or not, you broke up with her. She does feel bad because she really cares about you. I say take her back but unless you mean it, don't break up with her.
2007-03-13 01:52:44 · answer #10 · answered by my_own_frog 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋