Cant Stop...?

Question

I have been cutting for about a year and a half now, and I just can't stop, it feels hopeless...I have tried different things...like wrting every time I felt like cutting...but that did not help at all.. I have horrible scars and I have to wear a jacket all of the time so my family doesn't see the scars and cuts, but I am afraid one day I will reallly regret cutting, but it is the only was I know how to cope. In a way I feel like I am addicted to cutting...but that sounds stupid. I talked to someone I know..a friend of mine and she totally did NOT understand, she just told me that cutting was a choice, and that if I wanted to stop I could..Could an alcoholic just "stop"drinking, could a drug addict just "stop" doing drugs?? NO...they cant...anyways, I dont know how to stop. If anyone has any suggestion feel free.

Answer 1

Your friend is unsupportive. I understand how hurt you feel, & I know how it feels to have no one to be able to express your feelings to. This is very serious. You don't sound stupid, you're very hurt & don't know where to turn for help. I'm struggling with that now. If you need someone, you always got me.

Answer 2

Cutting IS an addiction, just like alcohol or drugs that you mentioned. You cut so you don't feel you inner pain and feel numb, just as a drug addict uses for the same reasons. So yeah, it's very hard to stop and you can't just do it by yourself. You need help from a psychiatrist. Unfortunately, not everyone will understand...but this is a serious problem and it's not your fault. So don't let anyone judge you and don't feel "bad" or guilty. I know you don't want your family to find out, but it's really the only way for you to get the help you need (unless you can afford to pay for a doctor yourself and go to him/her without your parents finding out). Maybe talk to a school counselor and have him/her be there when you tell your parents. It might be easier for them to understand if they hear it from a professional and know that it's a serious problem and not just something stupid you're doing and can just stop. I wish you the best of luck, sweetie. Please take care of yourself and get some help. You CAN get over this and you WILL. But if you have to be willing to get the help you need and stop being embarrassed. I'm sure your family would much rather be upset for a little while but be able to help you in the long run than to be in the dark and have you get worse and worse.

Answer 3

Cutting is a legitimate addiction. I know from personal experience how hard it is to stop, and it's far beyond "just stop". My arms are an intricate web of scars created in only a couple years and the only thing I found that helps it to treat the underlying problem. Whatever it is that makes you need to cut, get professional help. It took me the last four years to get stablized with therapy and meds. Turns out I'm bipolar with borderline traits. It's to find someone who understands when they've never been through it. Feel free to e-mail me if you want to talk.

Answer 4

I am so sorry that you feel compelled to cut. This is a symptom of a serious psychological problem. I recommend that you have yourself evaluated by a psychiatrist or psychologist right away. The doctor can help you begin the healing process. I sincerely wish you good mental health in the future.

Answer 5

Know that there were voices in my past that told me that I had nothing to offer!, I was nothing!, God and Jesus Didn't value me and maybe you should think about what life would be like if you weren't in it because it would be better for everyone!, because this world would be better without you!....I tell you! Ignore these kind of voices, this second! because this is the deceiver Satan and his legion of evil spirits, who is the father of all lies! Know has of right now Satan and his spirits are doing all they can to deceive you! The Bible says: Whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things! (Philippians 4:8) I don't know what the voices in your mind are holding against you? Maybe your trying to end the pain from all the lies in your mind by trying to cut yourself! Hoping that in cutting yourself your pain will stop!? I will encourage you that this is not the answer to your life! DON'T YOU DARE TRY TO TAKE THE EASY WAY OUT! The Bible Says: We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed. (2 Cor 4:8-9) The Fact is you are valued, your life does have a purpose and you are very much loved! Before I go any farther I would like to recommend two books to you for finding purpose in your life! 1. The Purpose Driven Life. by Rick Warren 2002 and 2. Your Best Life Now by Joel Osteen 2004. I believe that your feeling almost to the state of emptiness. I believe the reason you feel this way is because your heart is feeling that something is missing. I believe that something is God and Jesus! The Bible says that you were created to have a fellowship with God, and to have Him at the center of your life. Do you know God loves you and values you! "God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son Jesus, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." (John 3:16)Know apart from Jesus Christ, the Bible tells us, we are "harassed and helpless, like sheep with out a shepherd" (Matt 9:36). But God loves us, and one reason he has allowed you to have this feeling of emptiness in your heart is that He loves you and wants you to seek and have a relationship with him. No matter how hard we try or what means we use--material possessions, money, pleasure, drugs, or whatever--the emptiness is still there. The thing is that if you let your emptiness go this leads into depression and cutting yourself! How do I know this? Because I have dealt with that empty feeling, life with no purpose or meaning and eventually depression. The three things that really turned my life around was: 1. Knowing that God and Jesus Loved me and I was valued! 2. Knowing I had people on my side at church, in my social life and in my family that cared about me! and 3. I had to get myself out of the atmosphere that I was in! When you put yourself in line with what God has for you, then you will see yourself back with a renewed joy! I would not be telling you this if I had not experienced what you feel myself! Know down inside you are looking for love and happiness but you will never find it the way you are living right now. God created you, and God loves you. His only Son, Jesus Christ, loved you so much that he gave His life on the cross so you could be saved and break free from in perfectness, sin and this empty feeling to become a child of God. Confess! Your A Child of God!, and the Devil WILL Flee from YOU! When you accept Jesus Christ into your life, something wonderful and supernatural happens. God Himself comes to dwell within you! You become part of His family, and you can know the joy of His presence every day. The Bible says: "Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you" (Hebrews 13:5). As a christian I know that Church is a excellent place to meet people that might of once felt the way you do now with no purpose and they might tell you how now they live for Jesus and how they have found that purpose. Not only at church service but a lot of church's have activities like support groups and small groups like bible study! Not only will you be meeting new people and developing relationships with them, you will be also be developing a relationship with God and Jesus by learning what the word of God (the Bible) has to offer you in your life, like questions like this one! Also I encourage you to take other steps to reach out to others. Are there others at work or in your neighborhood who are also feel life has no purpose? Are there others in your neighborhood or work who seem to have just a few friends? It may be not easy for you at first, but learn to be a friend to others. Is a good way to start to do something practical for someone else who has a need. Where is your life outside of cutting yourself? The fact of the matter is you need to put yourself in a new atmosphere! I battled though depression! So, I felt like life was just one, big black, end less, tunnel that I felt so alone and that no one valued me! I later found out that I was valued! I was valued by Jesus because he gave his life on the cross for me! and in essence I was carrying my own cross and Jesus said "let me carry that cross for a while and if you put your faith in me and I will bring you hope for the future and a future partner!" You know what? He did! Now am happily married to the woman of my dreams! And YOU! to can have that person you desire and things in your life will have meaning and purpose if you believe in yourself and start having a relationship with Jesus! I will be praying for you! Right now! This Minute! Pray to Jesus, tell him you don't want to have a life without a purpose anymore! For the lies for Satan and his evil spirits to go and leave you alone in Jesus Name! So you my know Jesus Truth! Tell Jesus want him to come into your heart by faith! Tell him you want him and him alone and you do not want to hurt or hurt yourself anymore! You want him to come and stay with you and bring you comfort and wisdom. In Jesus Name! Amen!