I grew up without a father & now seem to be falling for older men all the time. Is it because I am looking for a father figure or is it because older men are naturally loyal and trustworthy?
2007-03-12 18:39:27 · 6 answers · asked by amy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Older men, depending on your definition of "older men" usually are over the playing games part of their life. The are looking for someone how will be there when they get home, someone who they can enjoy life with and a good conversation. Older men know what they want, usually, and are more accepting of life's ups and downs, because they have experienced them. You may be looking for a father figure, but that isn't all that bad. Just be honest with yourself. Ask what it is that you like and enjoy about the guy. How do you think you will feel about the age difference in say 5, 10, 15 years? This is very important, because a new relationship is full of blinders and our eyesight is only 20/20 when looking back. I ask you to look forward as well.
2007-03-12 18:49:25 · answer #1 · answered by starlyn2911 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Older men are usually more loyal because they are also more grateful. Don't look for a father figure. You'll only end up stuck with an old man in a recliner when you're just hitting your prime.
You can't replace a father. If you really want loyal and trustworthy, get a dog.
2007-03-13 01:44:48 · answer #2 · answered by miri-miri-off-the-wall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe a bit of both..I had a great Dad but married an older man as we were so perfectly suited and younger men were not as well established as I was. They wanted a meal ticket (no not all) but as I had a professional job many younger men were seeking to be looked after. Some guy just out and told me. You should go with the man that treats you well, makes you feel good and you have mutual trust and respect no matter what age.
2007-03-13 01:44:24 · answer #3 · answered by commonsense2265 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are looking for a father figure, but sexuality and looking for a parent are two different things. Father figure is just an older man, parent is someon who tells you what to do, what do you really want? Older men care but its not the reality they can keep up with when you are young. they love it but its not real, its a fantacy and men have to understand that we are not pushovers we want security and they think because they are older that they can give us security. Take care Heather
2007-03-13 01:45:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are looking for a father figure. You are trying to find that which you missed out on by not having a father.
Older men sometimes tend to treat women who are say 10 years younger than them almost as though they were their daughters and you find they really take care of you and give you some form of security.
2007-03-13 01:52:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think both. I grew up the same way,this is one of the factor thats why you are fallin for older men and older men are usually responsible. Women mature fast than men. So if you married an older man, then by that time, he is already matured..hope it helps. :)
2007-03-13 01:44:09 · answer #6 · answered by caila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋