Should I say this to the girl I miss? I'm trying to plan out what to say to her these words are from the heart

Question

Hey. How are you? Ever since we stopped talking, (me and her haven't talked for ten months) I had been going over everything in my head, trying to figure out what I was doing wrong. You know, I still remember what you said to me the last time we talked, the things you were mad at me about. I remember the first thing you said was that I harassed you. It's kind of funny really, that was the last thing I ever wanted to do to you but I guess I did anyway. If you said that because I called you every weeknight, it as only because when we were at school we'd only talk for two minutes. I never really got to talk to you when it'd be just me and you. Even when I called, someone else would always call. I was always afraid that I was doing something wrong to make you not like me. I also remember that you told me I obsessed over you. I guess I did and I'm sorry, But what boy wouldn't obsess over an amazing, wonderful, smart, talented, funny, beautiful girl like you? Especially if he didn't want to

lose you. It still doesn't make it right though and I'm sorry. It's just that a special girl like you is hard to find. No one else has your light brown eyes that sparkle when you're happy and fade away when you're sad. I get lost in your eyes. No other girl has your bright smile. I remember the last thing you said was I don't know you. You told me before that, when I was feeling down that you could tell something was wrong because you know me! I know I don't know everything about you, but I want to know everything about you. I really care about you you're special to me. Without you, I just had to admit that I must be really stupid. I should have understood then what you were trying to tell me, that it wasn't anything wrong with me that you didn't like, it was you just didn't share those feelings for me that I had for you.

I've found out for myself it was better when you didn't like me in that way. Now that you don't like me at all, I realize that's worse. So, for these things I've done, I'm really sorry. I was just afraid of losing you, so I did. I only want us to start over, pretend this whole thing never happened and if necessary forget that there was any mention of romantic interest between us. Maybe we could chill and hang out somewhere sometime as just friends, because I know with you I don't have a chance. I just want your friendship back, if it's ok with you.(end)

I'm thinking about changing or adding to: But what boy wouldn't obsess over a amazing, wonderful, smart, talented, funny, beautiful girl like you? Especially if he didn't want to lose you. It still doesn't make it right though and I'm sorry.
Or change to: There isn't another amazing, wonderful, smart, talented, funny, beautiful girl like you. I just didn't want to lose you.

What do I do for her birthday? She turns 17 in two weeks. I turned 17 last month.

She isn't seeing anyone and I just want us to be friends at least. This is not a letter, I want to say this to her. Guys and girls what do you think? Girls, would you talk to me again if you were her (I can handle the hard truth)? Are there any revisions I should do? How do I make this shorter so I don't bore her? I just have this feeling if I try actually talking to her instead of ignoring her she might listen. We've been saying hi to each other occasionally. I have not tried to speak to her in the time of us not talking, I've ony called once then hung up out of fear a long time ago, basically I haven't tried hard at all. The ignoring thing seems like it's taking too long in terms of her coming to me, but she sneaks glances at me from a distance. and that's just not me. I guess I'm just mister nice guy. I'm going to try to talk to her normally first before telling her this, or writing her this.

She pays atention to me especially when I'm talking to other girls in front of her.

I'mnot "scripting. This is how I feel about her, I just don't want to say the wrong things.

By weeknights I meant every other weeknight, I never called her on the weekends though we would IM each other (She'd message me) on the weekends. And to the end I'm thinking of adding:


If you think I'm clingy, needy, desperate, then that's alright with me. I can't change what you think about me, I just know for myself that's not me. I just wanted to let you know, if for the last time, how I feel about you. This is me.

I don't think I should say that though.

Answer 1

Hey there! I think it is very sweet of you to write all of this out, not scripting, just trying to get it all out, I do understand. The only problem is that this girl probably won't appreciate it. Some girls are incapable of really getting guys. A lot of the time, girls like to be chased, but not too much. Some girls like to be the chaser themselves, which is what it sounds like this girl was.

If she told you that you were obsessed over her she probably is the kinds of girl that will not appreciate this attention from you. If you haven't talked and she hasn't contacted you it just might be time to move on. This might be good to get out, but maybe not to send. How old are you? How long were you dating? Anyway, good luck with everything, you obviously have a wonderful heart and I wish you the best!


(Sorry just read that you're 17)

Answer 2

That sounds very nice and sweet. I would say tell that to her and see what she says. Give her some space after you do then if you don't hear from her after a few days give her a call. But don't stalk her and obsess over her. Don't call her every night! If she wants to be friends or talk then she will come around. If not then it's best to move on.

Answer 3

If you call her and say all that, I think she may mistake you for a telemarketer. If its from the heart, then it shouldn;t need to be scripted.

Answer 4

speaking from the heart needs no script...