my boyfriend wants another baby and we have a 3month old now i am not so sure??

Question

i may already be pregnant but maybe not but he is always wanting to have sex with me me and i dont mind but right now i am not able to be on birth control cause my ins. want cover the birth control that i want to be on it has to be a certain one cause i am breastfeeding but i dont want to hurt his feelings by saying no, but i am not ready for another baby just yet what to do???

Answer 1

Make sure you guys can afford another baby.

Answer 2

First of all, check with your doctor before you even think about it. On an average, it takes a woman a minimum of 1 year for her uterus to heal. It is possible to have another baby but there are more risks involved.

On a more personal note, how are you handling being a new mom? I'm sure you're still up half the nights with feeding your baby. Keep in mind the first 3-4 months of pregnancy you are very tired because of the hormonal changes. If you are barely getting sleep now, it will not be healthy to deprive yourself of sleep. Also think about the age your baby will be while you are 9 months pregnant.

Most importantly, if you are not ready you shouldn't have one. If he is not concerned about your feelings then why should you care about hurting his. If he does care about your feelings then he will understand.

If you are still afraid to tell your boyfriend no, have the doctor tell him the risks involved of carrying a child too soon. In some cases those risk involve the death of the mother. Does he really want to chance raising two infants on his own?

Answer 3

It really does take some time after birth to build up your vitamin stores and heal. Pregnancy can also diminish your milk supply. I'd recommend waiting at least a year post partum to start trying for another baby.

You don't need hormonal or barrier methods for birth control. There is a natural and reliable method called Natural Family Planning or Fertility Awareness. Many, many women have used it successfully to avoid or acheive pregnancy as they desired. I've used it over the course of 7 years to space my children (4.5 years old and 18 months old).

Sources: The books The Art of Natural Family Planning and Taking Charge of Your Fertility. The websites CCLI.org, Fertilityfriend.com, and Ovusoft.com

Answer 4

first of all you said that you have a 3 month old baby and he wants another one. you should wait awhile until your baby turns 2 years old that way you won't have all the pressure to always be with the baby. during this time while your child is growing up it will give you and your guy an opportunity to have time with one another and really figure out if you want another soon or wait a couple more years. it's also important that your finances are in order. it's really expensive to have a child these days with clothing, feeding and medical expenses. also keep in mind that your the one who has to carry the baby for another 9 months and your guy doesnt

Answer 5

I really wouldn't personally. If your insurance doesn't cover birth control then try to contact your health department for help. They should have a clinic. Having another baby now would be so much hard work for you and isn't great for your body either. Make sure that if you decide to have another then it should be a mutual decision not because of pressure. I hope you boyfriend is really helping you out as well especially if he wants another.

Answer 6

Tell him that if he wants to commit to you in marriage and stay by your side for the rest of your life for better or worse to help raise that child (God knows we have enough broken homes) that you would consider it. Only if you are ready, but my goodness. You have a 3 month old. I have a daughter who is almost 3, a 9 month old son and I'm pregnant with my third, but it's so hard. Good Luck. By the way, you don't have any obligation to that guy as far as a physical relationship is concerned if he is not your husband. If you aren't comfortable, then tell him hands off!

Answer 7

Having a baby is the decision that should be made by you both. If you feel you would rather wait, tell him, and don't worry about hurting his feelings. If he loves you he will understand your current situation. Is he considering your feelings about this? I myself feel this would be too soon for anyone. Enjoy your 3 month old now, there is time for other children later on.

Answer 8

Please Please you can get pregnant very easily now. Take the Depo Prevera shot that gives you three months of protection against getting pregnant. Having just had a baby I know you are not in the right state of mind to take care of another being. Wait and protect yourself; dont let yourself be forced into something you don't want. Don't worry about "his" feelings- you need to protect yourself first.

Answer 9

Wait till he falls asleep , get some ky gel and lube up your foot to the top of your ankle , stick it up his butt....wait about an hour for his crying to subside..explain to him that what he has just experienced is very similiar to child birth and ask him if he wants to do it again....that should take care of his desire to see you give birth to another baby for a while.....

Answer 10

Explain your feelings to him that you arent able to care for a newborn and have another child. If he really wants another child than he will wait tell after the new baby is older.

Answer 11

I believe you should probably get married before you have another baby. and I think you should tell him to wait. He doesn't really sound like a great guy to me though. But really I were you I'd talk to him about it. You need to communicate with your boyfriend and explain to him why your unsure about having another baby. And if he doesn't like it dump his sorry *** ok.