hi I am 21 year old girl and in love with a 23 year old parsi boy. since he doesnot belong to our religion, my parents will never allow our marriage and I am sure about that. but he loves me a lot and I dont want to let this boy go out of my life.
Please advice what should I do?? There is no use talking to my parents because we belong to a conservative family where intercast marriages are not allowed. please advice.
2007-03-12 18:26:05 · 18 answers · asked by natasha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is very difficult to make a relationship, let alone a marriage, work. It becomes harder when the families do not approve, becuase sometimes they will do what they can to break up the marriage. Family and love are both very important. Are you willing to loose your family if you get married? Are you willing to loose your love for you family? These are only questions that you can answer. Your love might be an excellent person, but that does not mean that your parents will accept him. Do your parents think that you will bring shame to the family if you marry outside of your religion? I understand that it is hard to change your parents' mind, specially when it has something to do with religion. Follow your heart and good luck.
2007-03-20 16:30:57 · answer #1 · answered by mrkramer5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Natasha, What parents say has a lot of truth in it .I was brought up in the west and I thought my parents were old fashioned and that I should marry the girl of my choice. At this age one gets infatuated and likes to experiment. Remember "visiting" a University and "studying in it" are two different things. Marriage is studying in the University. So called love is "Visiting a University and admiring it's facilities" Life will teach you that you need common interests, habits, temperament, religion. Above all believe in astrology too. Dating and having fun is different to 24/365 relationship. When i was 3 years old my horoscope was made and it said "Divorce" and my mind challenged it BUT despite all "UPAYAS" it happened. It hurts when you are a non veg and your partner a veg you cook twice!! One smokes the other hates it he breath smells.One drinks and misbehaves and the other is sober or naughty and light hearted. One believes in Christianity and the Orthodox Church and other in Shiva. Sounds good for a while then grows on your nerves but by then children come in. Marry intelligently. The centre of thought is the brain not the heart.
2007-03-20 18:27:16 · answer #2 · answered by Prophet of disaster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm.. this sounds like a tough love issue. Either you get tough with your parents (out of love, of course!) or.. THEY get tough with you!
If you are an American, you are considered an adult. But, if you live with your parents, and you cannot live without their support, you are still under their directives. If you stay with this guy, they will boot you to the street.
So... go there on your own and have the guy. BUT be prepared for the consequences, and consider if he is worth it! If it doesn't work out, you will have to try to make amends with your family. This guy loves you a 'lot'? Would he consider becoming whatever your 'religion' is? Give it some time.
What's a parsi boy anyway?
2007-03-12 18:37:16 · answer #3 · answered by ravin_lunatic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many things depend on your family.
Tell me if you marry the guy, are your family members going to accept you after your marriage? or do u see any hope that the relationship would be better between the two families with time.
How many sibling does you have are they affected by your act?
How are your parents affected by this?
think about all these question too.
If the guy is mature enough , earning handsome salary ( coz money is the life line in this world) and is ready to care of you , there is no harm in going for your Love .
make your parents realize your happiness with him.
look all the prospects before you take any step.
All the best friend..
2007-03-12 18:38:01 · answer #4 · answered by Rahul Agarwal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what religion you two are in if your love is pure. however, u have to be careful that some families might have objection to that. in that case it would be better to respect their opinion because if u marry someone without the approval of the families that are involved, then there might be adverse effect to that. it might be that your family might hate you for what you have done, after all it is the question of the entire life. but i would say, try convince your family and make them realize that religion is not important and you are not going to adopt the other religion. Good luck
2007-03-12 18:42:15 · answer #5 · answered by The Dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok this is hard. I think you should talk to your parents. Just tell them its the modern era right now there are many people come from intercast marriages. What do your parents want your happiness or their way? Ask them do they love you enough to let you or are they still stuborn.
2007-03-20 16:19:59 · answer #6 · answered by juliavril7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Religion means a lot but love is the most important in a marriage. If you live in America things will work out, other world countries, I don't know, Good Luck!!
2007-03-12 18:35:57 · answer #7 · answered by fayebrah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an adult and have the right to decide what is best for you...not your parents...ask yourself If you do end up with this guy for the rest of your life, what would your parents like the best...a marriage between religions or you not getting married and having children with this guy. I hope it won't come to this but you might have to choose between your man and your parents ( b/c of their close mindedness). Best of luck to you!
2007-03-12 18:36:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should marry to this guy whom you love and take your parents decisions and since you love him very much i think if you explain your parents in detailed manner sure it will help,as for a girl from a Conservative family it is very important to have their elders permission around when getting married
2007-03-12 18:36:30 · answer #9 · answered by %0oi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're in love with him then your parents have to accept that. You're old enough to make your own decisions. Try talking to your parents anyway just to ease their minds and your own. But if you're in love and he's good to you then I'd stay withh him.
2007-03-12 18:33:32 · answer #10 · answered by All I can be is me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋