whats the best way to find birth parents without them finding out I'm looking for them?

Question

I have unidentifying info from state of ga. Possible name of b.mother also. Foster parents are decessed. No info. from their daughter on this.

Answer 1

For Georgia? ... not sure. But some things that work in Australia may work there:

- Electral rolls
- Lists of Rate payers for counties
- Telephone directories
- Driver's Licence offices (may need to pay for this one)
- Graveyards for surnames that may give grandparents' resting place (Here lies ****, wife of *** and mother to - your mom, aunt, uncle ...) Someone from the cemetary may email a photo of posible headstones

Answer 2

Michael~! You've come to the right place, baby~

I help reunite adult adoptees & birthfamilies; as well as birthfamilies with the now-adult-child they relinquished.

Our 3 kids are all adopted openly---only way to go.

But, our first birth mom decided to go undercover & it took me 15 years to find her.

Anyway, if you were a foster child & not legally adopted, it will be much easier.

The state that terminated the parental rights of your birth-parents will have a file on you & by law, you have access to that information.

Either way, you can search & find these folks without them knowing about it.

On the other hand, they may also be searching for you . . . which would be a nice thing for everyone since the couple who raised you have passed.

There are literally dozens of websites where you can post all you know about yourself and your birth-mom/dad whoever.

Like, place & time of birth; weight; any agencies who were involved; names---the one they gave you, the ones you have that are theirs...etc.

Trust me, Michael......you will never regret doing this search.

If only to gather medical history; or to find siblings, grandparents, etc. it's a very good thing for you.

Adoptive parents need to know that their child is not looking for parents because they already have parents~

Their adult-child is looking for him or her self . . .
and only your birth family can give you that.

Have you read any of the MANY books on searching, reunion, etc?

Again, there's a lot on the internet and also in your public library.

Get a reference librarian to help you.

If you have questions, please email me and I will help any way I can.

We wish you all the best on your journey, Michael, and we support you for having the courage to take the first step . . .

Dave & Patricia & kids

Answer 3

I searched the Internet registries that were out there. You don't have to post anything, but you can check and see if they are looking for you too. I posted on a registry and found my birth mother right after I had my first child-she is now part of our family.

Answer 4

If you know the hospital you were born at, you might be able to tell them that you were adopted and are searching for the birth parents. Or call the agency. If it's a closed adoption you might have to fight harder.

Answer 5

I believe you can go to the foster agency you were at and get some information on your parents.You can also try a family support program they may be able to help you.Good luck.I hope you find them.

Answer 6

The internet is a great tool. You can find nearly anyone.

Why don't you want them to know you're looking for them? It may make your search a little easier.

Answer 7

one possibility: try posting their name on a geneology.com forum, it'll turn up in google if any aquaintance of the parents googles the parents' name.
you never know. I found my dad's father that way.

Answer 8

If u have b/m name look up from city u were born in??

Answer 9

Hire a private detective. They are professionals & will do a discreet job.

Answer 10

The best thing to do if you can afford it is to hire a p.i