I have lived with my bf for 4 years and know nothing about him. If I ask how his day was, he tells me "peachy". I feel like he has a whole other life which I am not a part of. He is always with me when I am home but when I'm not, what he does, who he is with or where he goes is none of my business and I'm suppose to be ok with it. Yet I'm suppose to tell him all about me.
Am I right to feel like he has another life maybe with someone else because he doesn't share or involve me in the part of his life when I'm not there or am I just being paranoid?
2007-03-12 18:00:21 · 6 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I honestly can't believe that you live with him and don't know what he does during the day... I mean, it's one thing to be really nosy about it and demand to know how many times he went to the bathroom and everything he ate, but you don't know what he does at all? That's crazy... I would make him start sharing this, because communication is everything.. and if you have no clue what he's doing, then your relationship is setting itself up for failure. I don't need to know everything about what my fiance (of 5 years) does, but when I ask "How was your day?" he gladly goes into detail about what all he's done, funny stuff that happened between him and coworkers (most of whom I know by name based on what he's told me about them)... it's very important to know about your b/f and I think you should probe a little further with this... good luck.
2007-03-12 18:06:08 · answer #1 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know nothing about what he is doing, and he refuses to tell you, then I think it is safe to assume he is doing something you would not like...
It is most likely another girl :-(
You should not be with a boy like this that does not respect you!
Or maybe he is a hitman.
2007-03-13 01:03:27 · answer #2 · answered by Susan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm yeah, that's a problem. Why have you lived with this issue for FOUR years? He sounds pretty controlling, and you deserve to know about his life as well. Ask him specific questions not just 'how was your day?'
2007-03-13 01:04:07 · answer #3 · answered by Miss D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him how you feel and that you are worried about his 'second' life away from home
1 thing i could never do is to let my bf get too far away
but be carefull not to let him feel as though you are a little too close and personal
2007-03-13 01:05:26 · answer #4 · answered by sweet pea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you have a right to have a concern there. because no matter what you have the right to no if yall live together and sleep together. i would be asking him a whole lot of questions.....
2007-03-13 01:04:19 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a good relationship is an open relationship. something that has to do with honesty and trust. with plenty of talking. so just sit down and talk to him about it.
2007-03-13 01:04:18 · answer #6 · answered by Curious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋