when do you start disciplining a child??

Question

i know some people who have an 11month old child who "gets in trouble" all the time. for crying... or playing with his diaper (which has poop in it) i would say just change him right? but no... they punish him by yelling at him and telling him no.... he NEVER makes a sound in public which to me doesnt seem normal. i think he is scared. im pregnant right now and i dont get it. when is the right age to discipline a child??

Answer 1

THERE'S NO RIGHT AGE-BUT THERE IS A WRONG ONE. AT 11 MTHS OLD, THE BABY YOU TALKED ABOUT DOESN'T REALIZE WHAT HE'S DOING IS "WRONG", FOR THE "PARENTS" TO TREAT HIM LIKE THAT ISN'T RIGHT. THEY'RE EMOTIONALLY ABUSING THIS BOY. FOR HIM TO NEVER MAKE NOISE IN PUBLIC SHOWS THAT HE'S SCARED, AND IT'S SAD, BUT HE PROBABLY THINKS THAT ALL ADULTS ARE A*SHOLES LIKE HIS PARENTS AND WILL ALL YELL AT HIM. I FEEL SO SORRY FOR HIM BECAUSE IF HE REMAINS WITH HIS PARENTS, HE'S IN FOR A CHILDHOOD OF LONELINESS AND FEAR. I TOLD MY KIDS "NO NO" PRETTY EARLY, WHENEVER THEY TRIED TO GRAB OR PLAY WITH SOMETHING THAT COULD HURT THEM OR BREAK. (CELL PHONE COMES TO MIND...) WHEN THEY STARTED CRAWLING I SAID IT ALL THE TIME, BUT I DIDN'T YELL AT THEM--THEY'RE JUST CURIOUS, NOT BRATS. SOMETIMES I WOULD POP THEIR HAND, BUT MOST OF THE TIME THEY JUST LOOKED AT ME AND CRAWLED OFF TO FIND SOMETHING ELSE. THEY NEED TO KNOW WHAT "NO" MEANS, BUT THEY DON'T CATCH ON RIGHT OFF. AND CRYING MEANS THAT THERE'S SOMETHING WRONG ALREADY, AND YELLING AT THE POOR BABY IS ONLY MAKING IT WORSE.

Answer 2

There isnt a right or wrong age its just one of those things that comes with time. As your shild gets more adventurous and starts tearing up your house then you can start to discipline. I dont believe in smacking as it only makes the parent feel better for a while and screaming at your child doesnt work either as this is what they sometimes want you to do!!. The best thing is to take them away from what they are doing and tell them No. If they can see your dissapointment in them that is punishment enough. Also I know people who use the naughty step but at 18 months my daughter is to young to understand this method of punishment so I dont let her have a treat all week or make sure she doesnt watch her fav programme. I started telling my daughter off at about 12 months probably because she just wrecked everything in sight!!!but I know people who have never given their child a good set of rules and now their kids are 9/10 and they just have a total lack of disregard for their parents and everyone else.

Answer 3

Sorry but it sounds to me like they don't have any time for the child, and sorry but if the child has been left in a dirty nappy/diaper then he/she will play with it sorry but it's something all young children have done before i know i did my dad was very happy to inform my then boyfriend about it, it's something kids do, as for the child not making a sound out in public worries me i think you should talk to someone about it for the child's sake.

I don't think there is an age for discipline for a child, they learn from doing things and it's up to you to stop them with a NO if it's a dangerous thing and removing them or the thing, to me discipline is punishment and why would you want to punish your child for learning about the things around them so long as they don't get hurt by them same things.

Answer 4

Poor thing. Of course he will play with his diaper if no-one
can be bothered to change it.! You are absolutely right.
Change the diaper, make him clean and happy again.
You sound concerned - I would be too.
You could ask for advice from your own midwife. See what
she says. Anyway - something needs to be done for this
child. This is what makes me think you will make a good
mother. You are showing your maternal instincts.
You discipline a child when they are crawling around and
are discovering things - like electric sockets, fireplace,
ornaments. A tone of voice No - burny e.g. They get to
know by your facial expression when something is right
or wrong also. So you teach them when something is
naughty - or dangerous.
Wishing you all the best and a safe delivery!!

Answer 5

Yelling at a baby is never acceptable. They do sound a bit odd.
Discipline goes hand in hand with teachng your children. And love. You want your child to behave, be socially acceptable but remembering that they are tiny.
You can be firm and I think from the time they start crawling around getting into trouble, is the time to start teaching them the word "no".

Answer 6

there is no "right" age to discipline a child. it's also going to vary from parent to parent

for me personally, i have 3 girls ages 8,6,and 5. i started teaching them right from wrong when they were able to crawl. a simple "no" with an occasional pop on the hand taught my girls what they could and could not mess with.

disciplining a toddler for crying or playing in his diaper i feel is inappropriate but with the diaper issue-firmly telling him no then changing his diaper would be appropriate.

there is no manual for raising kids, it's more like trial and error. one form of discipline works great for one of my daughters and not the other-each child is different.

as the parent-you decide when the best time to discipline your child is.

good luck and congratulations!!

Answer 7

it is up to you when and how to disipline your own child, i started with a stern "NO" when my son was old enough to understand the word . When your child reaches about 1 year old he/she will start to learn other irritating habits and i feel if you ignore the behaviour your child will get fed up of doing it and stop, you should never shout at a baby he wont understand you , i dont believe in smacking either my son is now 16 years old all i did was to explain his actions and the possible outcome he then decided to stop behaving badly so the key is to talk to your child without shouting or smacking .

Answer 8

discipline begins when the child starts to know right from wrong,all children learn at different levels, 11 months and being shouted at,poor kid,you are the parent and you will know when,where.etc.that child will grow up very insecure.you do whats best for your child.good luck.

Answer 9

there is really no right age....some children might need different discipline techniques....but i don't believe in punishing babies...so young.