do I sacrifice and tell some of my friends that they can't be in my wedding party because it will be uneven and I don't want that, or do I ask my fiance to have people on his side that he isn't that close to so that I can have all my close friends on my side?
2007-03-12 17:23:53 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
u can ask him to choose from your cousins etc.......
2007-03-12 18:41:36 · answer #1 · answered by faiza_t 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I don't think you have to have an even number of attendants, they should be in similar size. Planning a wedding is all about compromise. What I suggest is that the two of you sit down and talk about what each of your feelings are about the size of your wedding party and who you would like to be involved. But keep in mind, your attendants should reflect people who are closest to both of you. So your fiance shouldn't be forced to have attendants stand up for him who he isn't close to.
I definitely understand where you are coming from though. I have more friends than my fiance and was considering asking them to be in my wedding party. But since my fiance only had a couple of people he wanted to include that he was close to, we compromised by only including our siblings and one mutual friend as our honor attendants so our parties would be in similar size.
There is a big difference between 2 and 7, maybe there's a middle ground somewhere. But you need to sit down and talk it out with him. It is his wedding too and he should feel comfortable as well. If you do decide to downsize your bridal party, you can still have special roles for your other friends (readers, hostesses, guest book attendants, personal attendants, etc.).
2007-03-13 08:33:46 · answer #2 · answered by Veronica W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having 3 ring bearers is somewhat plenty...yet so is anticipating a pair of three twelve months olds to act like pro runway fashions. i've got been to many weddings wherein they have very youthful infants because of the fact the hoop bearer or flower woman. in the event that they are youthful than the age of 5, do you recognize what commonly happens? the youngster is advised to stroll down the long aisle by way of himself/herself or with yet another new child of the comparable age. Oh, and throw into the mixture that the youngster is predicted to a) walk far off from mom who's additionally a bridesmaid or there for ethical help; b) walk down an aisle that's lined with numerous strangers who's observing the youngster; and c) carry out a particular job. besides, the youngster is advised to start the long frightening walk and pitches a in nice condition and starts screaming bloody homicide. Then between the bridemaids will walk decrease back in direction of the screaming crying new child and carry the youngster down the aisle. no longer precisely the appealing image that the bride replaced into attempting to create for her wedding ceremony. this could be a small ingredient to furnish in on your mom. all people is going to confirm the two attractive little infants and merely observed awwww. yet you win too. the two twelve months olds can are turning out to be to renowned the 7 twelve months previous on the practice consultation dinner, jointly as they are getting photographed previously the marriage, and putting out mutually interior the groom's room previously the marriage. they are going to be comfortable and comfortable with the 7 twelve months previous. And wager what. the three twelve months olds will conveniently walk down the aisle with the 7 twelve months previous as their lead.
2016-10-02 01:00:07 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want it to be uneven, then pick three. But if your soon to be husband is willing to get a few more men involved and you guys really want a big wedding party then go for it. It's about comprimise though. If he wants a smaller one, maybe you can meet in the middle and settle on maybe 5. Have you aready told the 7 people?
2007-03-12 17:32:18 · answer #4 · answered by Melanie P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could either add or subtract from one side or the other, but it really doesn't matter. In most weddings the guests are looking at the Bride and Groom and not the Wedding party. If you are concerned about how they will look walking down the isle, when they come in the guys and girls come in separately, but when they leave one guy can walk out with two girls. The unbalanced scheme will not be noticed at all.
2007-03-13 11:50:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't have even numbers in my wedding - let the guys have a girl on each arm - they feel like total studs and you are having the people who sincerely mean the most to you. For the friends that meant a lot to me who I could not have in my wedding party - for reasons of expense- I asked them to do readings during the ceremony and take on other special roles. Your true friends will understand how difficult the logistics of a wedding are and will not hold it against you. Happy weddings.
2007-03-13 02:49:41 · answer #6 · answered by scatty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any male friends or relatives that you can ask to be grooms men? It sounds like you are much more social than he is and there's nothing wrong with asking a few of your male friends to stand up. My lover is asking a female friend of his to be a brides maid. If you can't get anyone else to stand up, ask yourself this "Is it more important that I have even sides or that my friends are part of the wedding party?" Either way is cool as long as you're happy.
2007-03-12 18:21:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some places won't let you have uneven sides but if your place will allow it- it would be your best option.
Ask him if he would add a couple people or have a couple of your guy family stand with him, if he's really against this see if you can shorten your side and include the other people in your wedding a different way than standing next to you.
2007-03-12 17:53:39 · answer #8 · answered by Ashley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask some of your male family or friends to be groomsmen or he can chose some family.
Technically you can have more bridesmaid & bring them in seperately. I have been to several wedding that did this. I prefer the pairs but the seperately is beautiful too. Do not exclude your friends for tradition.
2007-03-12 17:30:13 · answer #9 · answered by Wolfpacker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing wrong with having uneven numbers!
let the girls you want be in your wedding, or find something else special for them to do during the ceremony.
2007-03-12 18:58:43 · answer #10 · answered by jennyvee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use some of your male relatives and friends. My daughter's closest male friend is going to be in her wedding this Summer.
2007-03-12 17:32:07 · answer #11 · answered by robee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋