he was potty trained a year ago up untill i had my daughter and brought her home then he started going in his pants again. is there anyone out there who can give me any advise to re- potty him ive tryed every thing i can think of. please help
2007-03-12 17:23:28 · 10 answers · asked by sexy_momma_with2 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
he is also ADHD and TD, witch dont make it any easier ive tried the big buy undies and the cool allert training pants, should i punish him when he does go in his pants or just change him and go on?
2007-03-12 17:39:57 · update #1
He wants your attention. First, instead of punishing, like others have said, do everything you can to give him a bit more of your attention. Also, really encourage and praise him when he is dry. Talk about how you know that today he will be a big boy and use the potty and how proud of him you would be. Then, when he does wet himself, don't attend to it right away. Pretend that you have to finish doing something. After you've ignored him for a moment, take him to get him changed, but have him take off the clothes he can take off. Try not to give him any more attention than you need and tell him that he needs to take his clothes off. Of course, he will need a little bit of your help, but make him do as much of the work as he can. Don't get upset with him, don't be happy with him, just ignore him except for doing the business of changing the clothes. Use the calmest most assertive voice you can. Not yelling or raising your voice, but assertive. e.g. "pull your pants down" those kinds of instructions.
Basically, because the reason he does this is for attention you need to ignore the behavior as much as you can, while at the same time replacing the 'bad' behavior by fulfilling his need and desire for attention in appropriate ways.
2007-03-12 18:11:36 · answer #1 · answered by prekinpdx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how frustrating it can be having a child that has been potty trained and then completely stops. Children develop so differently then what we'd like. It sounds to me that the main reason your child has stopped using the potty is because a drastic change that has happened, he is a new big brother. What I would suggest is not to put so much emphasize on the potty training. Try to pay more attention to your son and give him lots of appraisal for all that he is accomplished. He may feel like he is not getting enough attention and although he may receive negative attention from pottying on himself, any attention is better than none. Give him tons of appraisal even if he sits on the potty (stickers work great at that age) and remind him what a great big brother he is and all the great big boy things he does. Good luck!
2007-03-13 07:44:42 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's 3 1/2, he gets it honey. He sees baby sister and he's pining for attention. The good thing, is that there is an easy way to fix this. Sit him down and have a heart to heart. make some alone time with him and encourage him to be the "big" brother and help out with things. Then coax him into being the 'big boy' by constantly reminding him he's going to have to show his little sister how to use the potty because diapers are for babies. It's honestly going to take constant reassurance from you. The bigger he feels, the less inclined he'll be to act like a baby. I know it's hard to understand, but I have five kids and we went through this with two of them. A little extra attention and allowing him to help more turned things around rather quickly.
Good luck!
PS
It also helps to buy their favorite brand of big boy underwear with a character they love.
2007-03-13 00:32:23 · answer #3 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes I went through this when I brought home my daughter. You can try the heart to heart with him it might work but being 3 don't count on it. The best thing you could do is buy a special toy a potty toy something he really wants. He gets to play with it when he pottys like a big boy this really worked wonders for me. Hope this helps
2007-03-13 00:35:33 · answer #4 · answered by RoseyRevisited 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes, he went from all of Mom's attention to having to share Mom. Tell him he the big brother and you need his help, So it would help if he uses the potty like a big boy.
2007-03-13 00:30:03 · answer #5 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a cry for attention... start off by reminding him that big boys don't pee in their pants and that diapers are for babies like his little sister... don't give him too many drinks during the day and try to have someone else help u with this situation because it must be corrected asap!! good luck.
2007-03-13 00:31:29 · answer #6 · answered by POOCHY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sees the baby and wants to be your little baby again....
don't worry about him being potty trained right now...
spend lots of time with him...
play tons of games.....
then start during the day asking if he needs to take a potty break.....
start slowly.....
giving him lots of love and reassurance that he is still your baby too.
2007-03-13 00:30:46 · answer #7 · answered by jayme s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably is jealous of his sister. after all when she wets herself you attend to her right away. it's a behaviour thing. talk to your son and praise him when he does good and give him neither positive nor negative attention when he wets himself. put him in the bath if possible so he can see it's dirty and that's what he'll get if he does it. I mean be sanitary but don't reward him with ANY attention for it. Good or Bad.
2007-03-13 02:24:40 · answer #8 · answered by bernel1403 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is insecure and jealous of your attention and dirty pants in one way to get it. Spend more time with him - both you and your husband. He feels the baby is taking you away from him.
2007-03-13 00:28:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all, have a talk with him. i know he is still a small but he has to know that it is wrong.
2007-03-13 00:27:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋