what is love? what do you need to keep love alive? can love come and go? is love something we pretend we have?

Question

hey, what is love? (in a relationship) is love just lust under a different name? what do we need to do to keep love alive? can love last with out s...e...x..? can love come and go easly? is love something our minds say we have? is it pretend? is there really such thing as loving someone forever and ever? why do people cheat on their love ones? is because they really didnt love them? is it possible to live life with out loving anyone? is there really such thing as love? why do people say love hurts? if it hurts then why fall in love? why do teenagers say the love their boyfriends or girlfriends, and why do parents say they are to young to love? is there an age when you can love someone? can love really conquer all? is the saying its better to love and lost than never loved at all, true? is this saying true if you love someone and let them go, if they come back they loved you, if they didnt you didnt have them to begin with? give me your insights. and maybe some examples.

long meaningful explantions gets best answers. :)

also is there such thing as love at first sight?

Answer 1

Love isn't lust under another name, though it may be easily confused. One of the essentials of being in love is trust... and also having love itself! Love can last without sex, it just depends who you are with. Love can't come and go as easy as you want it to be, because in order to be truly, deeply in love, you won't want to part with it, and your heart breaks if the other leaves you. You may be fooling yourself into thinking that you've found true love at last, but in reality, you might just want that person to be your one, so it all depends. There really is loving someone to an eternity, to life and to death. Some people have weak hearts and are easily tempted into chasing after another. Sadly, in today's society, leading one on and then leaving for another is quite common. You may have noticed the rapid cases of divorce or separation, true? Yes, another comtribution of the society we live in today. There might be a chance of not loving anyone your entire life, but you never know. Love is blind, and you might not notice it til it hits you smack in the face. Maybe someone will come along your path and teach you how to love. There is such a thing as love. When people say "love hurts," they may mean maybe their love for a person is too strong, and when they do something that hurts them, they fall into that pit of darkness, where their heart got crushed by the one they love so much. There are also other instances, like maybe the love is so great they can't bear it. Falling in love can teach you how to love and adore all those around you, even if it means a high chance of hurting yourself or others. Most teens haven't really experienced true love to know what true love really means. Parents have gone through much more and know what life gives to people, so they advise their children not to get into having a deep love for someone, like their bf/gf. Teens haven't gone through a relationship where true love existed, and they think love is anything to do with affection. Some may think, I am willing to die for him/her, and may look back at this scene later in life and laugh or possibly regret it. As we humans grow, so do our experiences, and we learn from them. We mature likewise. What may have seemed so true and beautiful in the beginning may end up showing a not-too-pretty side. There really is no age limit, however, in order to fall into true love. Love can conquer all, but again, it depends who you're talking about. That saying of loving is better than not loving is true. It all narrows down to a person's past, experiences, knowledge, and personality.
Hope you can read that. :)

Can you believe that took me thirteen minutes to write?

Answer 2

Whoa! Very hard question.

Love is a special feeling you have for someone and you cant seem to get them out of your mind. You want to be with them all the time, you dream about them day and night. Songs make you think of them.

Sex is a very special part of love. Dont ever mistake casual sex for love, two totally different things altogether.

Love does not come and go easily. If you love someone and you lose that love it hurts deeply for a long time.

Love is mental and physical for some. To me the mental (intelligent, sense of humor etc.) is much more important than the physical or the "looks" of a person.

I dont know why people cheat, it has never been my way of life so I cant answer that.

I think people can still love after one has a cheating affair but it takes a lot of forgiveness and hard work.

You can live life without loving someone but that would be a sad life. In this world it is so much better to have a partner that you can share things with, sad things, happy things, simple things.

Love hurts when you lose it or cannot have it, example loving a married person.

Young people tend to feel infatuation is real love when in truth it is not and will soon disappear. There is no defining age for love. I think mature love is the best love.

Love does not conquer all, most couple have to withstand many heartaches as well and lifes many problems. Thats why I say I prefer mature love.

Answer 3

Thats a very deep question. and I would love to answer that.
In my own experience, I really dont know if love can last forever...but it can last for a very long time. It will come and go to some people but to people who know how to keep the relationship strong and alive have a possibility that they can make it last forever, however there will be alot of trials along the way and its NEVER going to be easy. Some people said, when we go seperate ways that means we gave up, it means that the love is not so strong as we thought it was. in the other hand, there are some couple who's going to last forever, like my grandparents. I look up to them when it comes to love because even though they're old now and always argue and fight they never left eachother's side. And now that I have one example of true love...I know that it is possible to make love last forever with that special someone.
Im only 17 years old and I love my boyfriend so much. I might not know how deep is "so much" but i know i feel love. He's someone I care about, someone I know I cant live without because even just thinking about it makes me cry. I might not know if its going to last forever because I cant predict the future and even how often I hope that we`ll last forever its not gonna change the fact that "only god knows the future and our destiny" All i know is that Im loving an amazing guy who I know wont leave me behind. And if thats too crazy to believe then, I guess love is crazy now a days. When you love someone its not just about holding hands, kissing, sex, someone you can show off in public, its not just about having someone next to you and make memories. Its about trusting a person, loving them and accept them for who they are, for what they have and dont have. Someone you can share your life with, someone you can learn from and lean on. having a partner who's willing to be your friend as well. When two couple people fight its not a failure, when they argue its not hate. Real love have all these crazy stuff. It creates great bond and it helps you grow closer. Understanding and patient always gotta be there when its time of crisis. Laugh, smile, cry, and get mad together. And eventhough you put so much work to it and still didnt work out in the end, just remember that at least, you made your self very happy and you learned alot about love.

Answer 4

Let me tell you something: TRUE LOVE is something that hits you once and lasts forever.

To me, to love someone is to be addicted to that person. And yet, there is no cure for such addiction. People might quit smoking, quit drinking booze, even quit taking drugs; however, when true love hits, it is stronger than any other kind of addiction. If you can get over it, that is not the true love.

You might meet the person only once and feel it, or you might meet that person several times and feel it.

You might never understand what do you love another person for.

Of course love can last without any sex. In fact it lasts forever: it can come and it can never go; it NEVER DIES(unless you die).

If some people cheat on their loved ones, they are not the loved ones. You can never cheat on your loved ones if it is the TRUE LOVE that's between you.

You might never encounter that special person and never experience the true love. I think it happens very rarely. The true love comes sooner or later.

When you love someone and (s)he does not love you back, it hurts. You might wish you would not love that person anymore, but it is that true love that will not happen anymore. You can't live without loving that person. By killing true love, you might kill all the humanity within yourself, or even commit a suicide (May that never happen to anyone). If your true love is not lucky, unfortunately, you will suffer it until your life is over. If you managed to tear that love out of your heart and remain the person you were before, once again, that was not the true love.

You can't be too young or too old to love someone. Therefore, love does conquer all. There are no age limits. Some parents do think their children are too young to understand what love is. They just care about their kids too much.

"is the saying its better to love and lost than never loved at all, true?" - sorry, I never heard that before.

"is this saying true if you love someone and let them go, if they come back they loved you, if they didnt you didnt have them to begin with?" - I never heard it before either.

Phew! I think that's enough of philosophy. I hope I answered your question pretty much. By the way, thank you for your question. That was really something to think of and to realize that THE LOVE I EXPERIENCE IS AS TRUE AS IT CAN BE. Ha! I'm just joking - I already knew my love has been true and it is the one and only... Thanks anyway.

Answer 5

The romantic definition of love is when you feel connected to a person. When you can't ever picture the future without them being there for you. It's when you trust someone with everything you have and you know that they trust you.
In terms of what love does to the brain it simply activates the reward system, which makes us feel happy or accomplished. Something about the person, maybe the way they act, the way they talk, etc. triggers a reaction in your brain that gives you a feeling of being warm and happy.
Sex effects your brain differently. First it activates the memory center. You mind kind of askes itself wether what's happening is sexually satifiying, and using past memories the brain recognizes what's happening and activates the pleasure center . That's why people with less experiance tend to feel more and *** faster. Because their brain has no memories of what feels good and what doesn't feel as good.
Yes love can surive without sex because the affect the mind differently. Love can also come and go. It's like a drug, if we take it to offten then our brain will become tolerant of it's effect and we will need more of the drug to get the same feeling as before. When your love's "special something" starts to get old it means our brains are becomeing tolerant of the effect it has on our bodies. When that happens we either need more of that "special something", or a different "special something." That's why people heet on their loved ones it to get a taste of a different "something." But how fast this process happen can vary which is why some people have longer relationships than others and why some love lasts "forever."
With all the cheeting and falling in and out of love, the hormones on our brains get kind of messed up. Like a drug withdrawl. The drugie feels sad, or hyper of axious. The same thing happens you stop loving someone and your brain isn't getting the hormones it's used to having. That's why "love hurts"
Teenagers are not used to having all these new emotion that, because of puberty, they are able feel now more than when they were little. They might think they are in love when they feel a new feeling, but odds are it's just someother hormone or a different balence of hormones that there brain isn't used to and doesn't know what to do with. that's why parents insist that their child isn't in love. hormones in teens change so fast that the hormone balences will change and the teen wil fall back out of love. that doesn't mean that teen love can't last or that it's not real, it just means that it'll might change sooner or be misinterperated.
People will do stupid things when their mind tells them their in love. so in a sence love can conquer all. as for "it's better to have loved and lost..." some people say that and some don't. as to how that relates to the brain and hormens I have no clue. same the saying "if you love them let them go..." I don't about that.
There can be such a thing as lust at first sight, but until your brain is able to understand what exactaly your feeling it can't acuratly iterperate it as love.

Answer 6

The emotion of love is very different than the decision to love. True love is a choice, not an emotion. It means that you would do what is best for another person, regardless of what it may cost you. When a person makes a conscious choice to love, the feelings follows the actions. If more people based marriages on the choice and commitment to love, rather than on emotions, there would be far less divorce in the world. People cheat not because they don't feel love, but because they already made a choice not to love at that moment. They make a spur-of-the-moment decision based on emotion, not what is true and right. It's based on selfishness, not true love and esteem for their spouse.

Another way to look at this is to study the word love in the Greek. The Greeks have 4 different meanings, depending on the person involved. Note:

Eros love: physical love, as between husband and wife
Storge love (STOR-jay): family love, as between parent and child
Phileo love: close friend, (Philidelphia is the city of brotherly love)
Agape love: true unconditional love, unchanging regardless of situations, actions, or circumstances.

Many believe Agape love is only possible with God. The belief that God so loved the people on earth, that He sacrificed His Son Jesus so that we could go to Heaven and be with Him (John 3:16). This is perhaps the most well-known verse in the entire Bible.

So, sorry for the long answer. I hope this helps enlight you in some sense. Best of luck.

Answer 7

I believe that true love only happens once. I think the reason that there are so many divorces is because people get in relationships for comfort reasons and think it is love. I don;t think true love will ever fail or cheat. I think everyone has a fear of being alone so they force themselves into love instead of waiting for it to happen. I think love can conquer all, merely in the fact that love can keep you going. In the few relationships that I have had that I really liked the other person, the thought of seeing them kept me going throughout a hards day of work (I;ve never been in what I consider love). I think "love" is a word that is thrown around too often in early relationships, I think people have a feeling of love, but not a grasp of what love actually is. I don;t think true love ever fades and I don;t think it can ever be replaced. I believe in soul mates and one true love. I think love is something that can take away all your worries, insecurities and pain. Love always finds a way.

Answer 8

Its what you put into it, no they are different, breathe, Yes, no love hangs onto you, its not in the mind but the heart, no, yes there is such a love, cause people are stupid, that's part of it yes, yes it is my room mate has done it, yes there is, because losing it does hurt, cause its worth it, cause they are idiots, cause parents can be idiots too, no but it is real when your older when your to young you don't know what love is, yes it can, very true,not always she came back four times and now she is gone time will tell I suppose, no it lust at first sight.
-NmD!

Answer 9

I think love is someone who completes you (and I don't mean that lightly). You care and respect that person also. Most ppl think that love is physical attraction and getting married but it's nothing more simple than friendship just that it has a deeper connection. I Say True love does last forever. I mean if it's true love, why shouldn't it?. Even though physical attraction is a small part of love you still sex. Just like a mental connection you have to have a physical connection.lol.But that's just how it is. I think ppl cheat because the person that they were with ( that they thought they loved) wasn't their other half and even though they want to stay with that person their emotions look to someone else. Even wen it hurts people fall because it's are nature and our hearts won't be satisfied until we find someone to fill that void. Teenagers say they love their bf's or gf's because they think they r in love and I believe its true. It's like they're to quick to experience something and their expectations of love r cut short so they don't really get the full-blown experience. I have to admit I'm a teen myself(still tryin to figure out how it works)and it only took me once to fall for it. ow instead of looking for love I'm waiting for it to come to me and smack me in the face. I feel like wen I do fall in love I won't be all giddy and hyper but more like I'm content and satisfied that I found the best friend in the world.(is that long enough for you?)

p.s. I do believe that there is something like love at first sight. But not to an extent like,"Oh, I love this person", more like that person captures your attention right away and it's just something about them. Even if you do feel this way about someone, it's still good to get to know them better.

Answer 10

Love is something that you feel for another person. It's not gauranteed that they will feel the same for you. It comes and goes as quickly and without notice. It's confusing because people feel and view it in many different ways. What turns you on may not work for someone else. You can't make someone "love you" just by loving them. It has nothing to do with sex or having sex. And you can love more than one person at the same time.