Ok here is the deal i have this best friend we will call her "sarah" me and my husband let her move in with us to help her out a bit because her dad died and she had no where else to turn but now that she has been here awhile she is taking advantage of us and me nor my husband wants her here anymore but i dont want to kick her out because the rest of her family dont want her. but her is the deal she is 25 she dont have a job she doesnt help with bills we support her soda and cigerette habit she yells at my daughter which is really pissing us off she uses all our gas and she doesnt help clean she just sets on her *** in front of the tv oor on the computer please tall me what to do before i began to hate her?!!!
2007-03-12 17:06:09 · 3 answers · asked by aleym 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well I understand because ours was named Sean. HE didn't move out until my husband gave him a job in another town and paid for the first months rent in an apartment also we got him a roommate. I would tell Sarah that you need her to participate in your households needs. Be it getting a job by X date or cleaning the house. Also tell her you can't have her using your resources anymore she needs to buy her own smokes, pay for her own gas. Some people really just take advantage of good people they don't even think about it. Sarah is probably on the low end of the IQ chart and honestly thinks she smart. She doesn't think she's doing anything wrong. You have to put your foot down bluntly and do it now. before you get desperate and do what my husband and I did. We regret it now because now my hubby has to fire the lazy slob and I don't want him back on my doorstep one night asking to sleep in the spare room "for a few days"... P.S. theres a reason her family doesn't want her. If all else fails get her stuff take her to a family members house and drop her off.
2007-03-12 19:23:49 · answer #1 · answered by Chrissy #1 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think it time to sit down , an have a heart to heart talk with this young lady,,,we all lose some one we love, but life move on,,,,now at 25,, i think it time she try to see what she want out of life,,, ,, tell her she has x number of day to find a job,, , an help put in on the bills, are she got to go,, it hard to throw a love one out, but it come to a point,, you got to be hard to help a person,,,
2007-03-16 09:50:42 · answer #2 · answered by ghostwalker077 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down and discuss it with her. if she is rational and respectful, she'll change, if not, there is not much else you can do for her. you have already done more than her own family, and her behavior seems very destructive. it's possible that her loss is making her this way, but you need to accept that you have done all that you can. you will not be abandoning her if you ask her to leave.
2007-03-13 02:03:35 · answer #3 · answered by college student 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋