Ok my daughter is 12 and sitting for important exam. I forbid her to play her new laptop, her soft toys, her favourite glitzy magazines and chatting online. She's depressing and unhappy lately but I pressed her on. I want her to get straight As that's all. She's my only child and I love her a LOT.
2007-03-12 17:03:14 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I think you're being a little bit too hard on her. Her mental health is more important than grades. You can limit her access to these things for sure though. I suggest setting a schedule for her to do so much homework or studying and then she can do so much time of recreation. She's only 12 and needs time to relax and to spend time chatting with her friends. Just make sure the homework is done and have her study for an hour or so each night for the important exam and then give her free time.
2007-03-12 17:09:01 · answer #1 · answered by A W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Straight A's would be great, but not all kids are going to get that. As long as she is studying and doing her best, thats all you can ask for. My 14 yr old daughter does the best she can and its about a C average. My 12 yr old daughter is a high B low A average. We do encourage them to do better, help them learn to study better and reward them for good grades. But they do have to listen to the talk when we know they didnt really put out their best. Maybe even lose the computer or cell phone til the grades improve.
I made a deal with my oldest, 30 minutes of reading every night for 30 minutes of chatting with her friends online or texting. Also we have set homework times with no TV or other distractions.
Our 7 yr old son is just like his oldest sister, hates to do homework and read, but he is coming around when he knows there is a reward for effort.
Hang in there mom!
2007-03-13 00:50:35 · answer #2 · answered by MIKE L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey you shouldn't focus on only straight A's cause gusee what will hapens if she maks a low grade, she's going to feel like the world is gonna end or get real depresses, parents should permit their children to fail so the kids will know that its not the end of the world and life goes on.
i think you were kinda strict, when i haave kids of my own i'd only let them im or play video games only on weekends after they study for at least an hour.
bu i would leyt them read magazines and play with their toys during the week and watch tv.
2007-03-14 01:50:05 · answer #3 · answered by newbie ice hockey fan & TV serie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are being to hard on her if she is doing the best she can.
Does getting straight A's compared to B's mean she is any less
intelligent? Or working any less harder? My daughter's grades
range from C's to A's depending on the class.I know she is doing her best and thats whats important. If she not doing her best than taking privilages away is a good idea. I know where your coming from. My 12 yr old daughter is my one and only and I love her a lot also.
Hang in there.
Morgaine
2007-03-13 02:36:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dad try'd pressuring me to get good grades and my grades kept lowering and lowering... the way you are trying to motivate your child isnt working. try and make learning fun. and for every hour the child works give them a 30 minute break to play video games or something. children with better attitudes can work better. and you can expect her to get straight A's but dont punish her if she gets a B or a C+ even with those grades atleast she is trying.
also music is a good tool for studying. like classical music or marching music. orchestra something that isnt rap or heavy metal. but also make sure its something she is ok with because if she isnt ok with the music then her brain wont accept it and wont relax and help her study
2007-03-13 00:52:51 · answer #5 · answered by Dont get Infected 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you want her to do nothing but study? If yes, then you are being too hard on her and expecting too much of her. Without downtime and relaxation, she'll be less able to retain the information she learns. Plus she'll be stressed and even likely to become depressed. Put yourself in her shoes: how would you feel if you could nothing but eat, sleep and work?
2007-03-13 00:19:56 · answer #6 · answered by a heart so big 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
does she not get good grades?
does she fail?
let your child be your child....
is it important for her to get straight A;s because why?
you were pushed to that high standard?
she isn't allowed to play with those items for how long?
is it just this week?
i'm a bit confused by your post.
2007-03-13 00:07:07 · answer #7 · answered by jayme s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if she is completely capable of getting straight a's (and not just n the parent sense- oh your so smart you should have straight a's jargin) dont push her to hard tho make sure she has some time to jus relax
2007-03-13 00:09:17 · answer #8 · answered by yea boy1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let het take breaks every couple of hours for like 20 minutes it will refresh her.
2007-03-13 00:07:46 · answer #9 · answered by Daisy Mae 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about strait B's ?
2007-03-13 00:07:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋