He tells me he still loves me, misses me, and one day we will live a beautiful life together. We used to have sex when I visited, then go weeks without talking...etc. Last time I saw him he took me out to dinner and said he had to be good, the sex in between was "weird" ...waht does this mean? does he really still love me? is he waiting for the sex until we get together again? does this show respect for me and maturity on his part? its obvious he has no one else b/c he texts me all the time saying he misses me etc. but im at college and he wants me to have fun and couldnt handle the long distance. why does he not want to get sexual anymore and say he has to be good?
2007-03-12 16:58:57 · 10 answers · asked by Jasmine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So you two are basically taking a break while you're at college? That's what I got out of that, and that makes sense. It sounds like he thinks taking this break is the right thing to do, but it's really hard for him because he misses you so much. Having sex while taking a break would make things comlicated and make it infinitely harder for him to get through this break period, I think. So I would say yes, he still loves you, yes, he's waiting until you get back together, and yes, it shows respect for you and maturity on his part.
2007-03-12 17:06:35 · answer #1 · answered by sarai_kristi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be that he is trying to do the admirable thing---being an honorable gentleman about the sex. It is rare to find someone who is admitting that sex should be with two adults in love---don't be sad--be proud to know a guy like him--I don't know when and if sex will occur again--he is free to decide what and when if at all...just like you have the freedom to choose. The long distance relationship is probably an issue---and so is COMMUNICATIONS---you have to learn to talk to him when you have a question--any really good solid relationship has its roots in communications. Now do your school work and stop worrying about all this other stuff--you have a whole life ahead of you--school is a priority NOW. Settle it later---relax and take a break from this issue--let nature and fate take its course. Good luck to you and smile---it all will work out,..
2007-03-12 17:10:54 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure exactly about your situation, but I can kinda relate and maybe that will help you make sense of your situation.
Me and my current guy are in a long distance relationship, and I feel weird about us getting intimate just because it usually is such a long time inbetween. I don't wanna feel like I'm only seeing him so we can have sex. It's just akward for me. It's like going out on our first date over and over again, and I wouldn't make out with a guy on a first date so, it feels funny. It's been hard for me to adjust also when we do get really intimate then don't see each other for weeks. It seems alot more harder on me emotionally, cause I really want his company and even though we talk everyday it's just not the same. Anyway, maybe your guy is feeling the way I do about things and this will help you.
I would be patient with him. Long-distance relationships are SOO hard to maintain, it takes alot of dedication to keep them going strong. We work hard it, and even then sometimes we have seperation anxiety and we get upset, but we're holding on, and I hope you guys do too.
Best of Luck!
2007-03-12 17:07:02 · answer #3 · answered by Kurius_Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it means he does not want sex on a friendship basis but would rather wait until you have the relationship that has a commitment involved such as an engagement or promise. I think he is doing the right thing by you. Sounds like he wants thing "right" for the both of you and not spoil what you have by the feeling of having casual sex.
2007-03-12 17:06:01 · answer #4 · answered by ncgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I advise you to do exactly what he says, have fun in college. You are young and lets face it, unless everything is absolutely perfect at your age, and I mean ABSOLUTELY PERFECT, you should not settle your sights on one person. He probably realizes that. Also, if he doesn't want to get sexual then probably he is not attracted to you - sorry. It says nothing you. I dated a woman who was beautiful but not attractive to me. We broke up fairly quickly. By the way, don't take any of this personally, it is just dating and the quest to find the perfect match. Keep looking and he is bound to arrive. It is probably not your present boyfriend.
2007-03-12 17:06:41 · answer #5 · answered by sanofre1234 t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a g/f, & who would guess he has a slight case of guilt! He "must be good". Go have your fun. He can be with someone and still text you a million times! My ex husband text me 45 times in two days! He does NOT want me back...made that clear. I think he wishes to propose to the new g/f and hopes I won't rat him out! Good luck with your x!
2007-03-12 17:05:43 · answer #6 · answered by luv2bake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe hes waiting to find someone else but in the meantime wants u on the side.man are weird like that.im sure u also know their all dogs.so dont try and sit around waiting for that beautiful life he promised u with him.obviously if he wants u to have fun ,he's really saying something else.never pause ur life for anyone except ur kids{if u have any}good luck with that one girl
2007-03-12 17:05:47 · answer #7 · answered by borimami_luscious 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hes trying to establish a deeper relationship, this boy is SPRUNG, and it can make it weird, cause your relationship could die in the inbetween stage and turn into a friends with benefits relationship, which he don't want....also who couldn't the handle the long distance you or him? cause if your speaking for him, then don't, wait and see....and if you're speaking for yourself, then maybe the relationship isn't for you, but he really feels you, and wants to move the relationship beyond sex
2007-03-12 17:04:29 · answer #8 · answered by REVA M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's more than likely what you said, he's waiting until you get back together, and it definately shows maturity on his part. there are very few guys who would deny 'booty calls', especially since you two have already been sexualy active. don't push him.
hope this helps
2007-03-12 17:05:29 · answer #9 · answered by Barbara H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, sweetie, he's a cad. Move on.
2007-03-12 17:02:06 · answer #10 · answered by nondescript 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋