I don't believe I am, I just want some reinforcement that I did the right thing. . .13 month old just cried himself to sleep. It took about 25 minutes, but he finally stopped crying. I knew he was fine, fed, changed, comfortable, etc. He's been waking up at around this time every night, but never wants a drink, a change, etc. He just wants a cuddle, and to fall asleep in my arms. Please tell me I have no reason to feel guilty.
2007-03-12 16:48:43 · 36 answers · asked by Veruca Salt 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
No reason to feel guilty. Like my Mom says...Kids know how to measure us...and once the measure is taken, unless you do something they will always have the last word.
I am sure you feel terrible because he went to bed crying, but you did what you had to do. Little babies should go to sleep in their beds and not get used to Mommy's arms.
Don't feel bad. I have seven nephews and I have seen this exact same scenario a lot of times, and every time I have given my sisters in law a hug and tried to calm them down. So here is your hug and your tequila shot.
2007-03-12 16:59:16 · answer #1 · answered by White 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he is fine. They say that before 12 months you should not let them cry themselves to sleep. He is past this age , if he can do this for a few nights he will most likely not wake anymore. Falling asleep in your arms is one of the worst habits to let them get into. You are stopping it now so that is great. You may feel guilty but it's fine. Don't worry.
2007-03-12 17:00:45 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a mom, so probably not the best one to give advice, but I do think you did the right thing. he went to sleep and he will be fine when he wakes up in the morning. If you continue going to him everytime he cries, you know it will end up creating a monster so to speak. I understand completely why you feel guilty. I probably would have cried myself while resisting the tempation to go in there to him, I think feeling guilty is probably the normal reaction to the first few times doing this. There is nothing worse than not being able to be there for the ones you love and who love and rely on you and you probably felt like you really let him down. he will be okay and so will you.
Good Luck.
2007-03-12 16:57:59 · answer #3 · answered by Dawnita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only 25 minutes??? You are a lucky mom. This is very typical behavior at this age and you handled it beautifully. It will benefit both of you in the long run. He's learning to comfort himself and to establish a healthy sleeping pattern, that's good. Uninterrupted sleep for you, good.
Be prepared to have to stick firm for about a week. Every mom knows the sound of an urgent cry, you'll be there when it's necessary. A rested mom is a happy mom. You deserve a chunk of time for yourself too. I'm sure there are far worse things to feel guilty about.
2007-03-12 17:14:11 · answer #4 · answered by pottshott 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are doing a great job!!!!!
I am a nanny and we do the same with the kids also during the day from when the twin were 5 months.
As long as you know he is fed, changed and wants nothing to drink and he is waking up happy every morning don't feel guilty. He is jus playing you. lol
i am 7 weeks pregnant and i plan on training my baby the same way.
He will get use to it in a couple days. Also an advice, try to stay far away from his room when he wakes up at this time. Dont make him see you, as this could make it worst.
Good luck.
2007-03-12 16:56:03 · answer #5 · answered by Gillan B 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You did the right thing, he has to sleep and you can't keep on taking him out of his crib every time he wakes up....tonight he won't wake up or if he wakes he won't cry for 25 minutes this time but a lot less. You're a good mother and you're setting up the boundaries for him, which will help him follow the rules when he grows up....WAY TO GO GIRL!
2007-03-12 17:46:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't feel guilty seems like your one smart mother who knows that children has to grow up and your training your child to take the next step in sleeping through the night with out depending on mommy cuddles at the wrong times and for the wrong reason.
I think your reinforcing good behavior. and you can cuddle him in the morning for being a good boy and sleeping in his own bed through the night.
2007-03-12 16:57:36 · answer #7 · answered by cute as a button 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you did a great thing. You have no reason to feel guilty, teaching your child to sleep through the night is in his best interest. I guess if you really want something to feel guilty about, you could feel guilty for not doing it before he was 13 months old.
2007-03-12 16:52:58 · answer #8 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing mom. He will be fine. You made sure everything was okay before you let him cry himself to sleep, that's the important thing. He will learn to fall asleep on his own this way. I'm mom to 3.
2007-03-12 17:55:58 · answer #9 · answered by Melanie A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO No No, you havent done anything wrong at all...... Its important that your baby can fall alseep without being in your arms... Soon enough he will get used to it and the crying time will go from 25 mins (which isnt that long by the way) down to a couple of mins.
You're his mom, you know if he needs anything, if he's satisfied, its ok to let them cry a little. Thats what babies do.
2007-03-12 16:53:21 · answer #10 · answered by kimison_au 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋