Which type of synagogue is best for a new convert?

Question

I've decided to convert to Judaism. I've read LOTS of information on the religion itself and the history of the Jewish people. I'm positive this is what I want to do. I've read about the different types of congregations there are. Orthodox, Reform, Conservative, etc. I'm wondering which should I attend or does it really make a difference? I'm a Black man and I've heard that Reform and Conservative temples are more diverse and welcome converts readily from ALL backgrounds. I hope this doesn't sound silly. I've called a few temples in the area and was very pleased how inviting and nice they seemed. I'm just starting out in this new faith. Also, I have spoken to my wife and son who don't wish to convert but respect my decision to do so. Any advice, guys?

Answer 1

I would advise you to study the three movements beliefs by seeking out their statements of faith. They have radically different beliefs regarding G-d, the legitimacy of the Torah, and the role of the Jewish people.

Once you understand the differences in belief, it won't be a hard choice.

Your color will not be a problem. Be prepared, however, to hear the word Schvartzer (black) now and again. You will hear it, regardless of where you go.

If you choose Orthodoxy you will need to make the choice of what kind of group again. Orthodoxy is a false title given to all other Jewish groups by those people who left "Orthodoxy." In real life the practices of various Orthodox groups are extremely different from each other.

A German Jew practices his religion with a much different set of customs than a traditional Morrocan. All of the Orthodox groups for the most part recognize each others customs as valid, but they are very different customs. They will make your life very different depending on which you chose. (Exceptions: Modern Orthodox are not considered Orthodox by some other Orthodox. Religious Zionists are not considered Orthodox by many Chasidim and Briskers, and certain groups of anti-Zionists are not considered Jews by some Zionist Orthodox.)

Finally, according to the traditional texts use to decide how to act, Reform conversions are not conversion at all and do not wrok to make the person part of the Covenant. Conservative is pretty much the same. (This is complicated.) Orthodox follow Shulchan Aruch, so it works, but only if done properly. Conversions are complicated and need to be done correctly, so it is important that even if you make the decision to become Jewish the way that Jewish law says will accomplish that goal, that you choose a knowledgeable rabbi to walk you through it.

Answer 2

Well we Orthodox aren't so scary. (wink) But really, which level of observance do you feel most comfortable with? It's hard to pick a shul just because. It makes a huge difference--in community, in daily life. Judaism isn't just a religion, it is a way of life, and you have to decide how you want to live it. Orthodox is going to be your best bet if you find you are a more traditional person who feels that you need to observe the original laws of G-d. Reform will be your best bet if you believe Judaism has changed with the times and the old laws aren't all still in place--Conservative will be your best bet if you find you are somewhere in the middle. All sects should accept you equally warmly (do remember there are bad apples in every barrel) while Orthodox and Conservative may turn you away initially due to tradition, in the end warm welcomes will be received. Your next step in conversion is to contact a rabbi and ask if he will guide you in your conversion--this is often the hardest step. Always remember, don't get discouraged.

This website will help you on that aspect:
http://lennhoff.com/general_advice.htm

As you haven't decided on a sect yet, try to find a rabbi you feel comfortable with (from any sect) and voice your concerns with him, he will be able to help you. Any direction you are leaning in terms of Orthodox, Conservative, Reform?

Hope this has helped, feel free to email me with any further questions or requests, and may I say I want to be one of the first to say welcome to the (potential) family!

Peace

Answer 3

Cool!! Anyways, if you've been to all of them then you should decide which one you feel most comfortable with. One thing: If you do it through the Reform, only the Reform will consider you a Jew; Conservative-both them and Reform will only consider you a Jew...Orthodox Judaism won't consider you a Jew through those two. If you go through Orthodox, you'll be considered a Jew by all movements, but studying is hard and longer. But I reckon it's worth it. Anyways, the colour of your skin won't affect anyone=)

good luck

Answer 4

Talk to the rabbis and congregates. Don't pick based on a label. I know some relaxed Orthodox and stringent Conservative groups. Choose the Temple or Synagogue that reflects the values you esteem and where you and your family feel comfortable. Even if they do not convert, if they feel welcome for social events, it could prevent unnecessary stresses in your life. Get their input.

Answer 5

My family used to belong to a reform temple. Its was very inviting, but watch out for cliques in all temples. My mom didn't convert either, and the reform temple seemed to be more accepting of that choice.

Answer 6

These folks are right, you have to look carefully, there are people that may have issues, but overall, they are the exception, not the rule. If you are in an area with few Jews, it may be hard to find a place that you fit into. I am Jewish all my life, and I find it difficult to fit in in any place I have lived, but that is more due to me than to them, in many cases....
Add me to the list of folks to talk to if you have questions, I have a unique background when it comes to such things, and know a convert in progress or two I can ask anything you may have questions on..