my brother is addicted to drugs and he calls us me and my other brothers and sisters and ask for money, we know it is for the drugs but he says the dealers know where he lives and if he does not pay, than they will hurt him and our family, but if we give him the money he might just buy more drugs, he is in his late 30s, and he feels his life is worthless, filled with failures, he did get his ged, he started hanging out with the wrong crowd as a teenager and I guess he never grew up, he is older than most of my siblings and we constantly worry about him, I worry that he might wind up dead one day, and the worst part is that he does not care if he gets hurt or not, we tell him that he is hurting us and our parents too but he always find a way to get back into trouble, drugs, alcohol, fights, how do I help him?
2007-03-12 16:25:09 · 8 answers · asked by Nina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Take to him to a Narc Anon meeting.
He won't change until he's ready to change, so sorry to say, there's little you can do. I'm sure he'll buy more drugs with any money you give him
http://www.na.org/
2007-03-12 16:28:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check the phone book--look for drug rehabs, there are all levels just tell the person you cannot pay, they will refer you to several other contacts. Start with the city hall, then a local church. Then check state listings then US Government. You do not have to give them his name or address. Have a long sheet of paper and pen ready. You will be surprised how many people are willing to help you. Start today , try AAA I know booze but they will give you several more leads. Dot waste any time You can do this.
2007-03-12 16:49:03 · answer #2 · answered by peggy h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look in the front pages of the yellow pages. there are all kinds of drug rehab numbers you can get. Go yourslef and ask how you can help him. Get "intervention" for him and ask how the family can help and what to do.. tough love is always the best way to go..take care Heather
2007-03-12 16:30:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant get someone help unless he wants its. i know what you are going through i have an uncle that is the same way.you need to give tough love. dont give him money. no matter what he tells you. i know that is hard to do. my uncle is on crack really bad he told his landlord one time is kid was in the hospital out of town and bumed money off him. if he is going through wirh draws he will say anything to get the fix. the only other thing you can do is go to court and try to get power of medical over him and then you can put in some where but its not free. truth is it dont matter how many times he tries to get help if HE isnt ready to give up that life he will keep going back everytime. pray for him and everyone needs to stop giving in to him.he is looking death in the face and there isnt anything you or anyone else can do until he his ready to get help for himself.
2007-03-12 16:35:31 · answer #4 · answered by whiteangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't enable him. Go to the police, they can at least serve some sort of protection for your family. As for your brother, let the dealers hurt him, this is the lifestyle he has chosen for himself. Leave him to it...unless you want to allow him to drag the entire family down the sewer with him. Do you WANT to have your parents penniless and homeless? Because that is where this is going (I have seen it happen to a good friend). Do not enable him because you will all wind up with nothing.
2007-03-12 16:31:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can tell you from personal experience, that you can't help him. He has to be willing to help himself before you can help him. He has to make the first step, and the only way to do that is to admit he has a problem and then entering a rehab facility to get the right medical help.
2007-03-12 16:41:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can talk to him ad tell him the only way he can get his good life back is to go into long term rehab...tell him hw much you all love him and want togive him support..you dont want to see him in a wodden box...show him pics of himself and talk about the god times b4 he started getting addicted to the drugs...reasure him that you will be there for him in his rehab treatment...its a long road...but tell him he has the strenth to carry this through...he must change his circe of "friends" too when he gets out of rehab...you cannot frce him into rehab...he must do this himself..as for free rehab..i dont know if your in the usa...make some calls ..look into yellow pages for drug abuse...they will advise you..i know how you are feelng...and how much it hurts you...tell him this also..how its breaking you and your familys hearts to see him killing himself...tell hm....this>" i just want to let you know befre you die..how much i love yu my brother...coz i cannot tell you after youve killed yourself"
give him hope in himself..good luck n god bless
2007-03-12 16:35:59 · answer #7 · answered by free-spirit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU CANT FORCE HIM TO GO INTO REHAB IT IS SOMETHING HE HAS TO DO ON HIS OWN OR IT WILL NOT WORK FOR HIM AND HE WILL HATE THE PEOPLE THAT TRIED TO PUT HIM THERE.
2007-03-12 16:35:26 · answer #8 · answered by norman f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋