I have a 3 year old. How do i get her to listen and what she's told please help?

Answer 1

dont raise your voice at her or get frustrated that will only make it worse. talk softly and get down at her level and dont ask her to do more than 1-2 things at a time. make sure that she is looking at you so you know she is paying attention to you and not the tv or someone else. keep on her and make sure that she does what you are asking of her, such as laundry make sure the clothes get there and if not make her do it again and again until she gets it. also turn off the TV that is the biggest distraction there is even if its not something that she is watching, she can still hear the sound in th background. just keep on her and get down at her eye level. hold her still while you talk to her and ask her in she understands. if she still gives you problems put her in time out and calmly explain what it was that you told her and ask her to repeat it to you.

Answer 2

You could try a "this-for-that" with her. Tell her "Hey sweetie, I will do dishes, you pick up the toys, and then we can play hide-and-seek!!" And make sure you play when she does her chore.

She is old enough now to know just how to push your buttons and get out of doing any tasks. You must be firm with hr. You don't have to yell or be mean, or threaten her in any way. Simply state what you want "Please put your crayons and paper away." If she doesn't do it, tell her ONE more time, "Please put your crayons and paper away. I like it when you help me, you're such a good helper!"
If she still does not do the requested task, sit her on the couch (or a time out spot) for 3 minutes. Then ell her she still has to put it away. Repeat this from the beginning as many times as you need to. She will get sick of sitting.

She will be able to discern in your tone of voice whether you're serious so make sure that while you are using manners and asking her to do things, that she really doesn't have a choice, so change your tone to let her know.

I have heard so many parents say they don't want to discipline their kids because the kid cries (or otherwise throws a fit) but as the parent, it's our responsibility to kindly deal with misbehavior. The world won't be quite so kind later on.

Answer 3

Nannie 911 and the super nannie know what they are talking about. I started the nautty spot with my daughter and it works! My girl is 3 also. She did not listen and likes to hit but now all I have to say is "If you don't stop you are going in the nautty spot!" She stops right away. It is amazing how just 3 mins of no attention from mom works.

Answer 4

Go to her and squat so you are on her level,and talk with a normal voice,not the loud one.Get her to your lever (on the barplot) and talk to her looking her in the eyes.
If you only give her orders and expect her to follow them like a dog,I'm not surprised she isn't listening to you (by the way if it is really the case,you should be proud that your daughter still has enough self-esteem not to follow anybody's orders).Instead of telling her what NOT to do,tell her what she can do ("You can go to your rom alone or I can take you there").You can give her choice ("Would you like to play 'guess the word' or would you like to paint?").Say YES instead of NO.Don't say "No,you can't watch TV.First you have to clean your room",but say "Yes,you can watch TV after you have cleaned your room".If she says "But I want to watch TV now",answer "You will watch after you clean your room".
Be kind and firm at the same time.Talk to her with the same respect you would like to have received if you were her.

Answer 5

Clarify your question. I think you're asking ,"how do you get her to listen and do what she's told." Am I right? Well if that's the case then, "Good Luck." My 4yr. old has his own personality and his own opinions. I have to set his boundaries, or he'll never know when he's crossed the line. Over all, he's the best son in the whole world.

Answer 6

i recommend to get and read the super nanny's book- it helped me with those tough times with my son. trust me it works. take away toys that she loves and cant be without, try time out for 3 minutes at a time, no snacks like cookies and sweets until she starts to understand that u are serious and last but not least-- do not for any reason let ur guard down. good luck hope this helped.

Answer 7

what you need to do is establish authority. if she refuses to do something, make her do it or punish her. Give her a time-out for 10 minutes. No matter how much she screams and cries, you have to be in charge. If you do not establish authority, it will get much worse as she gets older. When she does something good, reward her. If she says she doesn't like dinner and wants ice cream instead, send her to her room without dinner. Good luck.

Answer 8

children want to naturally please their parents. it a fact. so start there... everytime she does something that's asked or that is positive "butter her up" give her lots of praise! if someone else comments on her make sure she hears them. let her know it makes you happy when she listens. ignore the negative for now ( unless it's really serious) and I bet you'll see Big improvement fast! good luck

Answer 9

Repeat Repeat!!!! you can't reason with a 3 yr old and they forget, just about as fast as you tell them. I guess that's why they say kids think their name is no no. Just be consistent and in time they will get it.

Answer 10

be tough, don't give in to the fits that they throw when they want things, don't spoil them, and let them cry it out when they are mad, this will teach them that they don't get everything they want, they will learn to respect you, and know what you sya goes, not the other way around. you are suppose to be the one controlling the situation, not having them control you.