the kids she means her four kids and their spouses and the eight grand kids. My son is only 16 months old and I feel this is a wasted trip. Not only will he not remember it or be able to do many things (he can't even walk yet), I will have to take a week off of work and a quarter off of school in order to drive the 700+ miles to get there. Once we are there, it will be a nightmare because when we take a long trip, my son gets "off-schedule" and cranky. I suggested everyone go without us. Everyone thinks I'm a spoil-sport because I think we should wait until the kids (ages 4 months, 16 months, 2, 3, 4, 5, 9, 12) are a little older. What do you guys think?
2007-03-12 16:22:52 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No one is paying for this. We would be paying our own way. We don't get paid for vacation, so that would be money missed as well.
2007-03-12 16:31:19 · update #1
To the person who took her nephew "at that age", what can a child who doesn't walk do there?
2007-03-12 16:40:11 · update #2
BTW, we live over 200 miles from the rest of the family, but hus goes up to see them at least once a month and usually takes our son.
2007-03-12 16:42:52 · update #3
MIL doesn't really want the 9 and 12 to go because they are step kids and are in special classes at school because of behavior problems. The last "group" vaca we went on was with my family. She showed up with her married lover of 8 years and proceeded to ignore us until time to leave. She held my then 6 month old son ONCE.
BTW, I would NEVER let anyone of these people except my hus watch my son. They let their kids run around unsupervised, even at age 2. Examples, the 3 yo smears poo everywhere (sheets, towels, rugs) and I know for a fact the 2 yo has eaten cig butts TWICE! (MIL smokes heavily. We do not.) All of these kids except my son stay with MIL ALL the time.
2007-03-13 00:31:18 · update #4
I totally agree with you. While it is a nice thought/gesture on your mil 's part, that doesn't mean that you have to be pushed into doing something that you really don't want to do. I have been to Disney World with a 1 1/2 year old, and it is tough. You don't get to enjoy the full experience bc having a baby makes what you do VERY limited. I personally would hate the fact that my week of vacation for the year was spent doing something I didn't want to do. Your vacation is your time to enjoy. You also mentioned that you would have to take the quarter off from school. To me that is the perfect reason for saying thanks but no thanks. I would just say sorry guys, I'm trying to finish school. It's hard enough doing with a job and a baby. To me it sounds ridiculous to put off a quarter/semester of school bc someone else wants to spend a week in disneyland. It sounds like they aren't respecting your priorities.
2007-03-12 16:34:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are right to say no on this one. It isn't worth the trip to go with a toddler. It is definitely perfect around age 4. If you wait much longer though the 9 and 12 year olds won't get to enjoy as much of it.
Why don't you give your reasons and then offer a fun family idea to show you just aren't bailing on them. Maybe host a big bbq this summer or arrange a camping trip or weekend at the beach this summer.
Also some questions to ask:
- Does your family all get together often?
- Does your MIL make requests like this often?
- Is EVERYONE else going to go except you guys?
- What does your wife want to do?
- Can you afford to take the trip?
Maybe after thinking about all of these things you might decide it would be a lot of fun to experience this as a family.
Take Care,
SD
2007-03-12 17:44:44 · answer #2 · answered by SD 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You would be giving up alot. I agree your child is too young. At that age, they are more like extra baggage..sorry I don't mean it the way it sounds. They don't get what's going on and their schedule isn't gonna work with this trip. I'm mom to 3 and I took my 3 to Disney last summer. My older sister went with us, but my kids are 5, 6 and 17.
2007-03-12 17:48:04 · answer #3 · answered by Melanie A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just got back from disney... and the most frustrating thing was all the little little children crying and carrying on. They cant do much, they wont remember anything and its just a hastle. bringing a really young child to Disney is a giant hastle to anyone, and with such a huge group of people I cant imagine getting much done. your probably better off waiting until your child is older, save the money and time and try a vacation you, your husband and child will enjoy.
2007-03-12 18:28:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
stick to your guns............
it would be much better if you and your kids could enjoy the trip .
Maybe your MIL could take the three oldest on the trip for you . and then in a few years ( when the "teenagers wouldn't want to go ) you can take the youngers ones.
Granma most likely means well , just forgets what having little ones 24/7 is like.
2007-03-12 17:44:28 · answer #5 · answered by DTPB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have the right ideal..the first time i took my older kids to Disney they were 4 and 5 ...if it wasn't for the video camera they would have never remembered it.....the 700 mile drive alone should make you think 100 times before you go...i cant even drive 15 miles to the local mall with my kids!!!lol...good luck in what ever you decide..
2007-03-12 16:34:22 · answer #6 · answered by momandkids_2006 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 00:56:10 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should wait until your youngest is old enough to enjoy it and rarely does a family trip ever come out happy. You should do what you think is best and explain that you simply can't afford it at this point in time. They may be upset with you but they don't pay your bills, you do. Stand up to them and don't buckle just because they are all bit**ing this is your family that you need to think of no one else. To be honest you are thinking of your baby who is going to have to sit in the pram for hours on end, is that fair??
2007-03-12 16:41:31 · answer #8 · answered by jimmy_chick78 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not being a spoil sport.
This isn't a good time for your family to go. period.
Be respectful and cheerful and overwhelmingly supportive to everyone and offer to help out with luggage or babysitting when they shop for the trip and show them you don't begrudge them for going.Keep you stance and they will get to know you as the one that makes sound decisions for your family and they wont EVER screw with you. You sound very mature and I am glad you won't let the family manipulate you.
However It is your husbands family and they love him and enjoy his company. Its OK if he goes without you.He will love you for your generosity and you can play single mother. Its not easy and you will see another side of life.
Good luck little sweet and STAND YOUR GROUND!!
2007-03-12 16:40:03 · answer #9 · answered by to tell ya the truth........... 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh hell no i agree with you 100%. Whats the point in wasting time and money on a trip that your baby isn't gonna enjoy or remember. Calmly explain this to your mother in law. If you already have then just don't give in its not her child or her decision.
2007-03-12 16:50:19 · answer #10 · answered by nobody 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋