Ive heard a lot of parents cussing at thier child lately, for example we were at the mall and this lady was telling her little girl (who was sticking her head in a rail) "get your f*!@ing head out of there!" the little girl had to be about 3. and just a little while ago i was out for a walk and these people had their door open and a little kid was trying to get outside and the mom screamed "i dont f*!@ing think so!" it was so loud i could hear it from pretty far away. in my opinion its a form of emotional abuse because obviously the kid cant really defend themself on this one. im sure the parents dont like to be talked to like that, and its really irritating to me, what do you think?
2007-03-12 16:22:08 · 20 answers · asked by krystal 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I'm telling you, those people make me nuts! When you hear them cussing at their children, it makes me wonder what they do behind closed doors! It makes them sound so ignorant. I think it is very much so abuse. I just adore children, but I know they can be a handful sometimes, but cussing and saying rude things is inappropriate. I wonder what anyone like you and I could do about it? Probably nothing, but give a dirty look. I doubt they'd do it in front of their own parents or a police officer. Ugh! Good luck, good question!
2007-03-12 16:38:35 · answer #1 · answered by MommyMe 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Oh my god, are you kidding? I grew up dealing with REAL abuse everyday of my life- my sisters and I could make anyone shudder to tell the stories... and you think the "F" word is abusive? Please, it may be inappropriate but is in NO way anything other than a word. I'm sure half the reason social services never made it to my house is because they were too busy answering rediculous calls- "Oh no, little Jenny was playing in the street and she got spanked, hurry before she learns a lesson!" Child abuse is horrible, but what's worse is when you get through it to adulthood only to hear people whine about nothing. How about you go live with a violent drunk 3 times your size for 15 years- then you can decide what is and what is not abuse. Jeez!
*EDIT* By the way, I have a 2 year old girl with another girl due in 4 weeks, my husband and I don't curse in front of our children... because it sounds trashy. However I highly doubt you've never let one slip when you stubbed your toe!!!
2007-03-12 16:56:02 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Klara♥ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how much they say it. If they are constantly angry and saying those words to their child that young, then they probably need to seek help. I wouldn't exactly call it child abuse though. I see child abuse as leaving bruises and breaking bones. However, I would never cuss my child. Just for the simple fact that I don't cuss much myself. I lost interest in it about three years ago. When it suddenly wasn't "cool" anymore.
However, my aunt said the word "a s s" infront of her daughter one time, because her daughter was smart mouthing her. However, she wasn't three. She knew exactly what she was doing. That's the only time she did it and she smacked herself in the mouth afterwards. And re - worded herself. Words slip. And that's the case of which I wouldn't call it abuse.
2007-03-12 19:17:50 · answer #3 · answered by Annamarie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you call that abuse than you should here the stuff the parents say outside at the parks or at the school waiting to get here children. Any kind of abuse is no good
2007-03-12 16:48:54 · answer #4 · answered by Boogerbum 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I dont think it's child abuse. It's just bad parenting because it teaches the kids to use the words. The kids dont know what it means, and by the time they do know what it means it wont bother them. I cant really understand the answers here though. 3 year old kicks don know what **** means. They dont usually know many swear words.
2007-03-12 16:42:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I agree it is a form of verbal child abuse and it shouldn't be the normal thing to see a mother cursing at a young child this is why the world is so mess up because these children are learning about relationships from someone who are quick with a verbal slur instead of correcting your child the right way which involves nurturing correction with out swearing
2007-03-12 16:35:22 · answer #6 · answered by cute as a button 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Yes. This is verbal abuse and it has a lasting effect on the child as well as physical.
2007-03-12 16:58:22 · answer #7 · answered by Lilly 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I totally agree with you. Adults don't realize what kind of effect they have on children, most of all parents. A friend of mine taught her two year old how to say sh*t n bastard and when her child picked up on it she thought it was cute but now she's in preschool and is getting in trouble for calling other children those same curse words. If that had been me hearing those parents talk that way I would have gone up to them and said "how would u like for me to f*cking curse at you". It's rude and impolite and very unnecessary. Being a parent myself i would be very offended if someone spoke like that in front of me to their child. I would consider it abuse and I would complain to some sort of higher authority about their parenting ways.
2007-03-12 16:34:54 · answer #8 · answered by xorangelady69x 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋
don't judge until you walked in her shoes. it may not be right. and, I'm not saying that your not a mom and know what it is like. I'm saying. don't judge just pray for this momma and other mommas and daddy's. some folks are to there limit. some need help and cant get it. don't know how to get it. too proud to ask for it.
2007-03-12 19:12:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a problem with the f bomb, no matter who says it, to whom, whenever, wherever. Yes, I strenuously object. It makes the kid a mess and the parent sound like trash.
2007-03-12 16:53:42 · answer #10 · answered by Fotomama 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋