my question is simple. I am wondering if anyone thinks there is hope for a soon to be single mom of four that is 35 years old. By hope I mean for a relationship with a decent guy? Every man I meet shy's away from the thought of a woman with 4 kids? Be nice but let me know what you think could help or if there is no hope left
2007-03-12 16:19:23 · 15 answers · asked by jst4me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There's always hope..don't give up! I believe there's one person out there that's made for everyone. I'm a recently divorced mother and I felt pretty much the same as you are describing, but I recently met someone that i'm crazy about and he's very accepting of my child. When you find the right one, it won't matter if you have 4 children or not..he'll love them just as much as you because they are part of you. The guys that shy away from the fact that you have 4 kids are just not the right ones. You don't want them anyway! Just keep your chin up..the right one will come around when you least expect it. I hope my advice helped and I wish you luck!
2007-03-12 16:25:46 · answer #1 · answered by ♫Joshua's~♥~Girl♫ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course there's hope,I meant the man I'm married to when I was 34, with children been together 18 years now and he's the most decent human being, gentle, caring man I've ever known. He cared for my children and still does better than most men do their own. So just be patient. I don't recommend letting every guy you might date around your kids though. When someone comes into your life that you become serious with is when you want to let them meet each other. But make sure he knows in advance that you have them, don't want him to think you were hiding them until he fell for you.
2007-03-12 23:27:38 · answer #2 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense, but that is a lot of baggage. Maybe a couple of kids...but 4 is a lot esp at that age. Why do I say that? Because if the guy ever gets serious enough with you to be a household contributor, he is gonna spend a lot of time trying to make ends meet (college, etc.). Secondly, if he wants to have kids of his own it would not be feasible or ideal to add more financial drain to an already stressed situation.
Basically, you need a guy who makes a lot of green. The time for love is over. You need support.
2007-03-12 23:24:52 · answer #3 · answered by Justin G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 35 not 135, you are still very young~
So what you have 4 children, so does a lot of people and they have found happiness~
Just be yourself and don't let the fact that you have a beautiful family discourage you from trying to find love again~
Don't think of it as the end of the world but think positive as its a new beginning!
JBQ
2007-03-12 23:25:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most definitly! Don't ever give up hope. I raised 3 sons by myself and although some women shied away...there were a lot that accepted me with my brood. So hang in there. There are plenty of fish in the sea...you'll find your Nemo. And when you do, he'll accept you and your 4 kids. Good Luck!
2007-03-12 23:26:31 · answer #5 · answered by RickinAlaska 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on you, I guess. If you're a nice and cool person, then I'm sure you'll find the right guy for you. Check out some of the internet dating sites, they may help. www.plentyoffish.com is where I met my fiance. It's 100% free too!
2007-03-12 23:24:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, there is always hope.
You need to take what time you need to grieve; rushing into another relationship could cause additional grief, which you don't need right now.
Just because you haven't met the "right guy" now doesn't mean there isn't one available for a future relationship.
Like I said, take the time, any amount you need, to grieve, and then start.
2007-03-12 23:24:14 · answer #7 · answered by Living In Korea 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many good men out there but you will most likely fall for another loser since you feel that you need to "take what you can get" your children are baggage for most men but the right one will cherish them and you...Good luck!
2007-03-12 23:24:00 · answer #8 · answered by Seoul Brother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes..of coarse there is..never give up hope of finding a good guy..my sister had five kids by her first husband...tey divorced...and she met a wonderfull guy..they been married now for 15 yrs..and wet on to have another two kids....
2007-03-12 23:23:01 · answer #9 · answered by free-spirit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always hope. Just be up front, it will probably take a while, but the right person is there.
2007-03-12 23:22:15 · answer #10 · answered by Scotch Tape 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋