We have been together for 1 yr and 8 months so its not like I can just say forget about it. We are taking time apart to see if we are ready for marriage because thats where it will go in the long run. Any advice on what to do or say to get this relationship back because I love him and I know its for real
2007-03-12 16:18:25 · 12 answers · asked by princessamber_89 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thats a hard one. you can't make someone love you if they decide that they don't. it doesn't matter when they decide this, or after how long you've been together they decide, but once they do there is a slim chance that you can make them love you. you don't want to be in a loveless relationship for any period of time do you? i know its hard to lose the one you love, my bf and i broke up after 2 years of being together and it was probably the hardest thing that i had to ever deal with. after 3 months apart he realized that the only reason we had broke up was because he was afraid of any sort of commitment and of his feelings for me, but it was to late and i was with someone else. you'll be able to move on if you have to, even though looking at it now you might not think so. you say that you're breaking up and then that you're taking a break. a break might not be such a bad thing for you two to do, that way you're sure about things when you get into it for the long haul, and it might make you want to be together more, taking a break is way different than breaking up so make sure you're both clear on what is going on. just take it day by day, and you'll probably have to kind of feel out the situations that come up. id say definitely don't be clingy, don't invade his alone time or time with his friends, and don't let yourself be compeltly dependent on him. if there is one thing i've learned, its that you have to be happy with yourself and being by yourself and be independent and trust yourself before you can ever be happy with someone else.
2007-03-12 16:26:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait and see if he come back to you and say that he love you. Because just because you love him if he don't feel the same about you than you will be better to let it go now and deal with the hurt, then keep on and it go for years and one day he pack and leave you with three or four kids and nothing but dreams. If he isn't the right one then the right one will be coming soon.
2007-03-12 23:25:20 · answer #2 · answered by kool aid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not pressure him. Do not be a pain in the a$$. Let him go about his business, and I'll tell you this out of pure knowledge: If he loves you, he WILL come back. If it is meant to be, it will be. Take the fancy little break, hang out with your girlfriends & try not to bug him too much. Once he realizes how understanding you are, he will come back to you.
2007-03-12 23:28:40 · answer #3 · answered by FarOut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him. Me and Bruce almost broke up about a year ago, but we were totally honest about how we felt about each other, and now we're all made up and sleeping in the same bed again. Be honest about your feelings with him.
2007-03-12 23:22:38 · answer #4 · answered by Gay male stripper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys truely love eachother then you wont have to say anything..you will know when the time is right because you wont be able to stay apart any longer
2007-03-12 23:21:58 · answer #5 · answered by Bark at the Moon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful. I did this and lost a bunch of my past girlfriends. I'm currently single, and have been for the past two years. Hopefully, sometime I can find a great Girl-friend to be with.
I wish you luck!
2007-03-12 23:22:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are ready to return from your hiatus, tell him that you would like to continue relationship. Be real and don't hold anything back!!
2007-03-12 23:20:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you feel— and make sure that you're both in the same track. It is not always that you just know what you feel, know what he feels— and that's when the two of you would make that big decision.
2007-03-12 23:23:52 · answer #8 · answered by ravelin101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should just be straight forward with him and tell him that you love him and you miss him. tell him that you want to get back together with him and are ready to make a commitment
2007-03-12 23:57:17 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you dont need to break up to see if you ready for marriage...you need to talk with him and see if ya'll feelings are the same. how he really feels and tell him how you really feel for him....you know
2007-03-12 23:22:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋