How can I explain to her that 'i believe' at no fault to her or I we simply aren't best friends anymore, and i don't feel our friendship is strong enoughto get threw the next 4 weeks and I feel it would be better for both of us if she wasn't in my Bridal Party?
2007-03-12 16:17:39 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I totally get what 'Don't make me come in there' said, and trust me i feel like the worst person in the world just thinking about it! Just 2 weeks ago she said to me that she is considering pulling out because of how our friendship has divided, i listened to her and discussed the things that were annoying her and at the end of the convo she said all was ok. I've since thought alot about EVERYTHING and my heart tells me that we both want it, and i'm going to have to be the bad person now.
2007-03-12 16:43:39 · update #1
you don't - you asked her for a reason.
2007-03-13 00:28:38 · answer #1 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be true to yourself. If it isn't working out, tell her in the nicest way and move on. It's your wedding and you are under enough stress that you don't need to have this added to it all. If you reimburse her for the financial investments she made, it will be worth it for your own state of mind. You are not a bad person, especially if she has expressed similar feelings. Also, if there is any kind of tension between the two of you on your wedding day, people are going to feel that energy. I think you would want to build your new life with good energy around you.
2007-03-12 17:23:05 · answer #2 · answered by abbacat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah just being honest is probably the best. If things havent been so great lately maybe she has noticed the changes too and will understand. Good luck and congrats on getting married
2007-03-12 16:31:17 · answer #3 · answered by AlwaysLaughing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's pretty harsh treatment towards someone you say yourself isn't at fault for anything! Has she already put out money for her dress and shoes? Did she contribute her time and money to your shower? Four weeks notice....sounds like YOU'RE the weak link in the friendship. Boo.
2007-03-12 16:35:38 · answer #4 · answered by LolaCorolla 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just the way you said it sounds fine. be honest trying to be nice may make it worse. I would offer to buy the dress from her as she isn't backing out you are getting rid of her.
2007-03-12 16:23:12 · answer #5 · answered by emmandal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest without sounding bitchy. If she is a mature adult and realizes that your friendship isn't what it used to be, then she will understand. Remember...honest and polite!
2007-03-12 16:34:31 · answer #6 · answered by Emily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋