Will I ever find a boyfriend?

Question

sadly im 16 and i still havent had a boyfriend. ive been in a relationship but my "boyfriend" if you even want to call him that was shy, he never talked to me or called me. and that was 2 years ago. i feel like im never going to be in a relationship , and i dont understand . all my friends are in relationships and we all go out together and hang out but i still always feel lonely. i want a boyfriend so bad, i look around and i see everyone around me where ever i go holding hands and all that.idk
i guess theres something wrong with me?
is there anything that i can possibly do?

Answer 1

I'm 18 and never ever had a bf. I do wish i have one but right now i will just think about college. A guy will come to you. Don't look to hard for them. Your still young. Plenty of time for boys.

Answer 2

Don't feel so bad for yourself. You're young. Sometimes it takes a while before you find someone. I was 17 when I got into my first real relationship (we're about to get engaged, BTW). The only thing that might be wrong is that you have a slight self-esteem issue. It sounds more like you just can't find anybody that you like, but if that's not the case then you could always try being a little aggressive yourself, some guys go for that. However, don't try changing yourself in order to find someone. That's luring under false pretenses and will definitely make things suck for the both of you. My only advice is to chill out and let it come when it wants to.

Answer 3

I know EXACTLY how you feel. I'm 18, and still in that predicament. At your age, I was hopeless, and even until a little while ago, I was. My best friend dated constantly throughout high school, and now she's engaged. But now it's not that big of a deal. Firstly, you're last "bf" prob was too shy to do anything, and that's VERY normal for people your age. I mean, he was what, 14? Guys are just starting to actually consider going out with girls at that time, depending on the guy, and he was probably confused, shy and/or scared. Secondly, there is NOTHING wrong with you. Believe it or not, many girls I bet even in your own school are in that same boat. Most, though, don't let on that they are. You don't see it, though, because your focus is only on the one who ARE dating. And it's a fact in life that some of your friends will date earlier, but, I've found it's a HUGE advantage to not date earlier on. I've watched so many of my friends go through awful relationship problems, and I've seen how to resolve/avoid them. Now, I have a huge amount of knowledge on the dating world, and I never even had to date to get it. Plus, it's easier to focus on school without drama of my own to deal with. And think about this: if you were ga-ga over some guy, then who would your friends go to for help? No one would be the solid one in the friendship. And the longer you wait, the more special it will be. I have been told by my friend that I was smart to decide to wait. She's gone through hell and back dating, and it's not worth it. But there's absolutely nothing wrong with you if you don't date. But don't date just to date. So many girls get hurt that way: emotionally, mentally and even physically. Date because you like the guy, not because you want experience, or because it's the "popular" thing. And if you want to date, don't be flashy to get his attention, that only brings undesired trouble, and maybe even "baby-daddy" drama, lol. There's nothing you CAN do to speed up fate, you just have to focus your sights elsewhere, so when the cutest, funniest, smartest, most talented guy comes around that wants you (and you want him) you have no loose ends in your life to hold you back.

Answer 4

1st of all, you're only 16 not 61 so stop talking like you're at the end of your life with the "will I ever find a boyfriend" stuff. 2nd of all, you shouldn't need a boyfriend to validate you. You have to be a whole and happy person to attract other people, male and/or female to you. No one wants to be with someone who may turn out to be miserable and clingy and so desperately seeking someone else to make them happy. 3rdly, Find something meaningful to do with your free time. Having a boy or girlfriend can be fun but it can also be a pain in the rear sometimes. There is so much more to life than being with someone else. Become the best YOU that you can be and *quality boys/men* will be attracted to you. Then you can have your pick of the liter.

Answer 5

I'm 16 in a month. I've never had a bf I've had friends. I don't know my friends have all have more than 10 bfs but I guess thats just me. Anyway trust me there is nothing wrong with you there is someone out there you just haven't found em' yet. give it a year or 2 my friend is 26 and has been happily married 4 years and she never dated untill her senior year of college and look what she got. And guess what They're gonna have a girl.

Answer 6

I'm 40 and can't find a descent man. See life goes on and you will find one when you stop looking and probably acting like you are in need. Just relax and enjoy this freedom from drama. Don't you know relationship bring drama? It 's the kind all women keep getting into, don't want to live without and some would rather have then not to have. Good luck.

Answer 7

First of all THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU...and of course you'll find a guy. I know it seems like its been forever, but you're only 16! I mean you've barely lived 1/4th of your life...there is so much more out there. My first "serious" relationship was at 16...and trust me its a lot of work, but its good too. Long term relationships hard work, and sweet at the same time, but they have to be with the right guy...and you'll find yours sooner or later...till then enjoy and play the field! Good Luck! =D

Answer 8

You are only 16!! I even have co-workers who are in their late 20's and never ever had a bf, never been kissed and never been touched! LOL. They don't have problems and just enjoy life. Its not like its the end of the world. Dont think so much about it and put too much pressure on yourself. Love always comes when you are not looking for it or is not expecting it. Goodluck!

Answer 9

never ever think that there is anything wrong with you. i bet that you are a gorgeous girl with an amazing smile. i know that you feel behind cos of your friends relationships, but it will happen for you. you will meet someone. just dont get together with any guy just to have a boyfriend, thats sad. but if you still feel down, i can become you online boyfriend. then you talk to all your freinds and not feel left out! just kiddin. remember just be happy with yourself. things will happen

Answer 10

dont feel sad.you have plenty of time for that,u r only young.i didnt get my first fella untill i was 19,which by that time my mates that thought it was cool to have a boyfrind at 16 had already had kids because that is all th lads want u for at that age. keep ur head up high and feel proud,the right lad will come sooner or later.i bet ur mates will have the kids before u coz thay have ben silly.good luck!