Ok. I have never been in a committed relationship ever. I started dating when I was 17 and I really wouldn't call it a relationship because I was so young. I graduated from high school and travel between counties and states. I have now just really settled down in. I am going on 1 1/2 years in Houston. But now I have a problem. Are at least I think I have a problem. I haven't really dated anyone. I really don't look for guys and let then come to me, but I also pick a few out the crowd now and then. And guess what none of them are what I want. Am I to picky? I look at it as I had what I wanted once so I know what it is I’m looking but I 'm just not getting it. And trust…. once I see you and you don’t have what I’m looking for I let you go. Is that normal? So about 4 years with no real relationship. Should I lower my expectation are standards? Help?
2007-03-12 15:46:48 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try having some fun and not worrying about everything else.
2007-03-12 15:49:38 · answer #1 · answered by Zaphod1130 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have exactly the same problem. I dont know what to do either. I am a man by the way. But its the same for me. I try to go to 8 minute dates or at least try to go regularly. yeah I think im too picky because I compare everyone to a girl I had a crush on in the past but I never really got to know. So my image of what a woman should be is distorted because I end up putting them on a pedestal then getting dissapointed when I see human flaws in them. My imagination must have run away with me when I had the crush.
I have to keep trying, but in a more practical way. Dont worry you are not the only one with this problem.
Im glad I read your question.
2007-03-12 16:01:50 · answer #2 · answered by brandontremain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lower your standards, you'll end up with someone you can't live with or don't like. There's plenty of people in Houston, trust me, I live here! I found my g/f through a friend I met on yahoo personals. Sometimes your friends are your best bet at finding you a date since they know you. Don't fall for shallow guys nor guys that treat you bad. There are plenty of great guys out there who know how to treat a woman. If you're religious, you can try the church, there's usually a better chance of finding a great guy (notice how I said better, you still need to watch out)!
2007-03-12 15:52:42 · answer #3 · answered by cobra427jah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, three words sums it all up: hang in there.
Of course I don't know what your standards are or what you are looking for but..at this stage of the game, you sound very wise with your "strategy" of moving on if they don't prove to be a match. Ask your friends or co-workers for some matchmaking help and see if that gets any good leads. Most of all, don't settle for one who doesn't fill your heart with joy or fit in a mental picture of a companion/friend/lover for years to come. One of these days, you'll find that great guy and he will find you. In the meantime, don't stress over it and enjoy yourself.
2007-03-12 15:55:26 · answer #4 · answered by slwilson1966 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends what we're talking about here. If you're talking about physical characteristics, it's possible you might want to relax your standards.
But if you're talking about personality traits and important things like integrity and the ability to keep a job, I say stay the course. Trust me, the wrong marriage is WAY worse than none at all.
Hang in there. He could be just around the corner. And won't you be glad you waited?
2007-03-12 15:51:30 · answer #5 · answered by Terri J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never settle! good things come to those who wait.
2007-03-12 15:50:12 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋