Why do I fall for the wrong guys?

Question

I'm getting so sick of it...

I fall for the players who either try to break my heart or just wanna make out or something without carring about my feelings

And yes it's happened again, I've only kissed him once, and I don't know I'm just drawn to him, but he's such a player!

Help, advice, your own stories, anything


thanks :]

Answer 1

This is just life. Its a learning experience. We've all gone thru it or you will all go thru it. Dont worry, its just a phase. You'll be over it. Protect your heart, and keep your guards up as long as possible. Playing hard to get and acting like you dont care, will always turn a player straight!

Answer 2

If you keep falling for the players, just tell them ur not in it for the action and if they get any step closer to it that way just break up with them. Sometimes girls pick the players without knowing it, and when they get into it they notice its wrong, but other times even tho the guy seems like a player, they turn out to be ok later on because the girl turned him right. my uncle used to do a lot of things bad, but his gf (who turned out to be his wife now) changed him to make him a better person and kno he is a great uncle and healthy and strong and works hard at what he does.

Answer 3

I hear ya, sister! I just recently got out of a relationship with a real ******** who is currently playing some other poor chick.

I don't know what it is, I'm just drawn to, excuse my French, but I'm drawn to a$$holes!

With this last relationship, I felt like I was always helping him out with stuff, or doing him favors, while he never gave me anything back in return. Honestly, looking back, the only favors he did for me involved lifting heavy things, which he liked to do anyway! :)

It's not that he didn't (and doesn't) genuinely care about me...he really does. If I had a problem he would really care about it and how it was affecting me. He wasn't just an insensitive jerk, but he was and IS inconsiderate. It's not fun to be involved with someone, but have to listen to your friends tell you he's treating you like crap, and know that they're right.

Now I see him treating some other girl the exact same way. He likes her a lot...maybe even loves her. He's just got way too many other little sluts on the side that she doesn't even know about.

Oh well. Glad I got outta that one. You just have to admit to yourself that it's not going to work and distance yourself from him. Good luck!

Answer 4

Don't feel bad, the really nice guys are boring.
The bad guys are exciting. As you grow older you'll find cool somewhere when boring becomes , dependable , reliable, loving and caring.

In the mean time , don't wear your heart on your sleeve. You might try looking over your shoulder. There's a guy looking at you that doesn't think he's got a chance in the world.

Give him a chance. Not for your friends or prestige, but for some really happy memories

Answer 5

For you to figure that out, you need to take a break from dating and do a little self-evaluation. All of those guys have something in common (they're players). You are doing something that is attracting those guys to you.

Are you falling for them too quickly? Do you fall for them due to pressure? Are you needy? It boils down to you.

It's up to you to figure out what it is you're doing and change it so you can avoid such guys again.

Answer 6

You have to look inside yourself and see why you are attracted to these sorts of guys. Do you have self esteem issues? Do you feel like these are the only sorts of guys you can get? Do you go out with these guys because they're attractive and will make you look better in front of your friends?

Once you figure out the reason, it's up to you to change the pattern. By now, you can probably pick up on if a guy is a player. If he is, stop talking to him and move on. Repeat until you find the kind of guy you really want.

Answer 7

i have the same problem as you. their just really good sweet talkers & know the best things to say to girls. not to mention their fiine so they think they can do whatever they want. well at my school the guys don't even like the girls & just get with them to do physical things or to get money off of it by betting on their friends & giving them $1 for every day that they are in a relationship. my advice to you is be very careful & look at their friends. if his friends act a certain way that you don't like then he probably acts that way too. or you can ask some guy friends about him & see if he ever made a bet or did it as a joke.

Answer 8

It just might be your age... You must be really young... when you get older and experience different boyfriends you will know what kind of guy you will NOT go with... Like a player... you will get sick of them really fast after they keep breaking your heart...You will also learn to respect yourself so that you don't get anywhere near these guys.

Answer 9

This unfortunately works both ways. But I think it's easier to find a woman who plays rather than a guy.
It may be best for you to try to find out more about a guy before faling so hard. Or don't move to close to quickly, let him wait and see what happends.
Good luck

Answer 10

You're desperate, slow down a little make 'em wait for that kiss it will make them respect you more. You have to take the time out to get to know the person you are dating if they can't be around you without being physical, then you know what they want from you.