I was dating the guy for about 1-1/2years. Yes I love him with all my heart. He has 3 kids and has the oldest one living with him. I love the children alot they are really good kids. He and his son lived with me for about 60 days to get on there feet. Then one day he moved his son out and we broke up. I wasn't sure if that's what I really wanted him to do because I started to like the mommy role, but it turned out to be the best thing ever. I guess my question is how do you move on from someone that's in love with you and your in love with them but, there are too many reasons why you shouldn't be together. How do you start dating again when you are scared too be hurt again? Please help!! Not to for get he has lied to me for the right reasons (he said)!!!
2007-03-12 15:45:15 · 7 answers · asked by Ms.Midwest 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
let the reasons you shouldnt be together help you move on. you can care about this person but dont ruin your young life with the wrong person. the mommy roll can help you mature on a different level and i can tell you are a wonderful and special young woman, but care for him from afar and never lose site of yourself and what YOU want in life, from life. because it is your life. you are responsible for everything you do with it. dont start out by making bad/poor decisions with relationships because im afraid you will continue to do that and never be happy and be full of regrets. so, the question is for you............do i really want this person in my life? do we have the same life goals? do we see things (family, religion, self respect, kindness....etc) the same way? does he make me feel good about myself, like i can accomplish anything? these are some of the questions you should think about before you get to marriage or in a heavy relationship. dont be afraid to date because you might get hurt....that is how we learn. you never know what someone else can teach you about life or yourself and if it doesnt work out and it hurts sometimes, then try to look at it like.......what did i learn from this? ok? stay sweet and never compromise who you are for anyone, man or otherwise. accomplish what you want to in your life, get to know yourself, work towards your career. cuz sometimes in the end, when the man leaves.....women dont die and fall in holes, they hold their heads up, take that lesson and get stronger and stronger. thats what i want you to be. smart, strong, self suffiencent, generous, and true to yourself. enjoy your young life. you seem like a woman every man would want to take out and/or be with. the older and wiser you get the more irrisistable you will be
2007-03-12 16:01:15 · answer #1 · answered by hammy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First allow me to be honest with you! It will be hard as hell to let go. Sometimes two people can be so in love with eachother and the timing is so wrong that love isn't enough. I know that because that is what I am dealing with. I have decided to let go and move on. The dating prcoess is brutal. I think you need to take your time. Don't settle just beacuse you are lonely. Meet people and be open to meeting them, but don't move too fast. You can't be afraid to get hurt. THat's life. We must as though we have never been hurt. You shouldn't start dating until you are truly ready though. And you shouldn't go back and forth with this guy. BE done with him altogether. It will only hurt you more in the end if you don't!
2007-03-12 22:54:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you give yourself a chance to settle down because it doesn't appear that you are really quite ready to get back into the dating game. The fear of getting hurt again is too strong to you right now, when you begin to realize that he just wasn't right for you and you deserve so much better, your attitude about men will change because you will realize that every man is not out to hurt you. Love yourself, pamper yourself, love will find you when you are ready. Focus on just being happy for the time being and with that positive energy, you will attract people and friendships in your life that could lead to special relationships.
2007-03-12 22:56:10 · answer #3 · answered by myleshunt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to hear that. maybe you should say to this guy that you like this mommy role. coz i dont know what the main reason you and this guy broke up, so i cant help much. give your self some time, then when you think you ready for another relationship, then go on .if not maybe you must not except somebody right now, just take your time ok and gud luck
2007-03-12 22:54:03 · answer #4 · answered by idah 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You just move on honey. No, it won't be easy but time heals all wounds. It is too soon to start dating again so fast. Let your heart heal and trust me you will love again. Good luck girl.................
2007-03-12 22:49:57 · answer #5 · answered by ~Secretrose~ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
run... turn and run the other way. you don;t need to raise someone else's kids. find a single man and boink him for your own kids
2007-03-12 22:49:28 · answer #6 · answered by canadians_are_imbeciles1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
time is supposed to heal things....
2007-03-12 22:50:34 · answer #7 · answered by amymrgrt 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋