2007-03-12 15:45:04 · 29 answers · asked by woot 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Love at first sight is real. Or can be. Because true love is from God. I'm a Christian, I believe in God! And for that reason I believe that there is love at first sight. God sometimes maybe lets people (like me) see right away who He intended them to love and marry.
Love is different with everyone because we are all different! You can't describe true love for anyone! Everyone's experience of loving or being in love is totally unique. Because we area all unique! There are no hard and fast rules in love. Sometimes love at first sight is true. Sometimes it's not. Sometimes you really love someone you've dated for 10 years. Sometimes you ddon't.
I am so tired of the people that say smugly, "i believe in lust at first sight" because they don't know. I don't have problems with lust, and I have experienced that feeling of "wow, look, there he is, the guy I was created for". I just looked at his eyes from the side and I got that feeling. I wasn't looking at his body at all.
Please believe me- that even if it hasn't happened to you, or never will, it is POSSIBLE
Please do not listen to these other people. Although they mean well, I know personally that there can be real, true, lasting love (not LUST or INFATUATION! Boy am I sick of those dumb words! People just use them to sound grownup and wierd and fancy shmancy! {not to "dis" you other folks, but that's what it seems like to me :)} at first meeting- and yes, even at first sight.
As to what it feels like... everyone is totally different. If you think you are in love, and you love someone very much, more than any one else, than you ARE in love- for the time being. You may, who knows, some day, find someone else who you will be able to love even more. Not because you didn't love the first one- you did, as much as you could at the time. But each new person you fall in love with you seem to be able to love more.
Who can say whether we are all in love a dozen times in our life, or if we only "really" love one of those people, or if we never "truly" loved any of them?
Love is different for every person, at every different time. Sometimes it makes you sad, sometime it makes you happy, sometime insecure, sometimes confident. No one knows. But if you think you're in love, then tell yourself you are and go with your emotions, whether you become mournfully melancholy or exuberantly happy. There is nothing sweeter than feeling something deeply and telling yourself you're in love, whether it's for an hour or a lifetime- or eternity.
I fell in love from first sight with someone I have only met twice in the past two years I still am. For many reasons in a long story, we can't contact each other, nor do we "date" so there isn't a questions of all that "faithfulness" junk. But I knew at the first second that I was made for him and someday God will see we marry and live happily ever after. Sometime I will type up the whole story and post it on every "love at first sight" page and question and blog in the whole wide internet.
Again, I am not saying that love at first sight is the only right kind of love. Maybe you will hate the person you eventually fall in love with! Maybe it will take you years to gradually love them! Who knows? I am not saying that it is the only true kind of love. With some people, it may take a while to fall in love with their soulmate. But love at first sight is so very possible! Sometimes the good Lord is kind enough to show you right away. Like he showed me.
The moment I saw him standing there, I knew all about him. His character- how kind and sweet he was, how helpful and patient. And don't say I was judging a book by its cover. Later in the day I met up with him again and talked to him for five hours at that wedding reception. And my first impression- that split second thought of "this is who I was created for and am meant to marry" was strengthened. And he is in my every thought and dream. I don't give a passing thought or glance to anyone else- it's just out of the question. I’ve only seen him only 3 times over the years. It’s been so long. But I still love him! I do! It’s real!
I fell in love when I was only 13. But that’s how old Juliet was, and it was love at first sight and no one questions her! No one says “Oh, Juliet was so dumb, she didn’t REALLY love romeo, she just killed herself because she THOUGHT she did”. Why should people say that about me?
There is love at first sight.
Not lust.
Not infatuation.
Not a crush.
Not a passing attraction.
Real, true, lasting, beautiful, perfect love.
Believe.
2007-03-13 14:25:21 · answer #1 · answered by nemo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe in love at first sight.
2007-03-19 05:55:42 · answer #2 · answered by JD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love usually begins with mutual attraction. When lovers accept each other, they not only experience a new set of feelings but they also become responsible for the growth of that love. Love grows also in the sense that initial reaction has to give way to sharing and mutual agreement.
The more difficult part of living is to trust and believe the the goodness of the other person more especially when moment of weakness and mistakes come.
There is always this element of risk that lovers may as well learn before they finalize their commitment to each other. Knowing the other's fault and defects before marriage is actually a blessing. At least one knows what kind of a person one is going to live with for the rest of her life.
Love indeed, is a very personal experience,but the moment lovers decide share their lives, the decision extend beyond their persons and assumes a social dimension which the laws of the land recognize and protect from the changeability and perhaps, immaturity of the persons involved. We learn to love by stages and mostly by experience.
Life is generous in the sense that before we find true love, we are both trained for it and made to know both its' pains and pleasures. Certain relationships are not meant to be points of arrival but merely passages or points
2007-03-12 16:00:46 · answer #3 · answered by icene_06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe not at first sight, but I believe in love at second sight. I met my husband and by the second date, I knew that I would marry him. He was charming, funny, loving, and such a gentleman. Most of the time love takes a lot of patience and time...but when you meet the right person, it just flows so smoothly and you end up being together forever. I met my husband in September, we moved in with each other in January, were engaged in December and married in March.
Love at first sight can happen when you meet your soulmate, but most of the time love takes a while.
2007-03-12 15:51:30 · answer #4 · answered by speedy_me18 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completely do. It happened with my husband and i. But i did see a really interesting show on discovery the other night about physical attraction and such and what makes women fall into love with men and what makes men fall into love with women. It was talking about how women want men who are good looking and strong to take care of their children and men want women who have big hips and breast for bearing and rearing their off spring. Funny how we cannot escape our past as cavemen and women :O) But seriously it is necessariy to have somewhat of a physical attraction of course to keep things interesting and passionate. But we all age and grow older and wider so it is best to pick a companion, male or female , who is loving and has a great sense of humor. Laughter and kindness will get you through anything and beauty and youth fade. All those old men chasing the twenty somethings are really just trying to hang onto their own youth as it slips through their fingers. It is a way of staying connected to all the new people and places and such. True love does grow with time and trial and we all change in one way or another. If you are with the right person you will grow and change together. Sex is great but when i am eighty years old and rocking on the front porch i want a friend and a lover...not just a hot sexy love making machine....wait a minute.................:O)
2007-03-12 16:02:14 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I most certainly do. Been married to the same man for 39 years, and it was love at first sight. What I really love, is that EVERYONE said it would never last.
2007-03-12 15:50:00 · answer #6 · answered by happyfingers1@verizon.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. There's attraction or lust at first sight. Love is built through trust and communication...and time. First impressions only give you a glimpse of the person beneath, and sometimes not even that.
2007-03-12 15:51:01 · answer #7 · answered by May 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lust at first sight, but maybe love after the first conversions.
2007-03-12 15:49:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It is a fantasy used to sell movies and other consumer products.
Real love and affection takes time to cultivate. Love at first sight is really just lust at first sight.
2007-03-12 15:48:05 · answer #9 · answered by Average Joe 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. I think there is an initial attraction that is lust, not love. Love takes time to develop; you need to get to know the person and build a relationship.
2007-03-12 15:53:08 · answer #10 · answered by <3 alex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens and I waited 25 years for it. I am not sure that people would do what I did and let it go after I found it.
It's too long to write, but lets put it this way.
The mystery to love is not what you got or what you have or what you lost...it's what you keep inside you!
2007-03-12 15:49:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋