I am getting married in June, and i graduate high school in may. is it ok that i am having a lot of showers? I have one with my mother's family, one at my church, one with my mother in law's family and neighbors, and one with my school friends. For my bacholeorette party, i wanted a lingerie shower-since we are all just barely 18, and we cant drink or nothing that typically goes on at a bacholerette party, but my moh said today she wants to give me a bridal shower one day, and that night do the bacholerette thing. but i feel sort of greedy with so many showers, but there isnt really anyone invited to all of them...(should i invite my future mother in law to all of them?)
2007-03-12 15:40:09 · 19 answers · asked by marriedin2007 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I am not the one who requested the showers. They were all planned seperately, and they were not my idea, except the lingerie shower. And they all have different groups of people who live in different places and have different social groups.
2007-03-13 07:55:40 · update #1
I am very mature and grown up for my age, I will be graduated from high school-and from college...I will graduate with an AA the week before high school graduation. I said barely 18, because some of my friends are still not 18, and will not be until July or August, and I have 2 bridesmaids (a cousin and a church friend) who are 16.
2007-03-13 07:59:00 · update #2
After we are married, I have two years left of college, then I will be a teacher... he will be 25 when we get married, he has a really good job, and makes good money.
2007-03-16 04:58:14 · update #3
in answer to your query, your friends can have as many showers for you as they wish. it sounds as though you have a great many friends. make sure you suggest to those who are giving you a shower that it would be nice if the same people weren't invited to every single shower.
in answer to those here who criticize you for marrying so young, i was 17 he was 18, no we weren't pregnant, in fact i was still a virgin. we were just two people who found each other early and we knew we were meant to be. we were married for almost forty happy years. the only sadness in our life is we weren't blessed with children.
my husband recently died and i am struggling to learn how to live without him.
so you see, you can marry young and be happy.............don't let the naysayers here put you off..........if you two are sure of your love then get married and love each other as much as you can. i've lost my love far too early in life, but i am so happy to have had such a love and that we found each other so early in our lives.
2007-03-18 18:16:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I got married two months after graduating high school and I've been happily married for 8 1/2 years. Every ones making it sound young and foolish! And your not greedy for having so many showers! Everyone makes different choices. I also had five showers.
1. My work -general
2. My church-general
3. My mother in laws family shower- recipe shower (everyone brought their fav. recipe and the ingred. for the recipe, great way to get all the spices and basics that you need to start off with.)
4 My mother in laws friends- general
5. My friends - lingerie
I invited my mother in law to #'s 2, 3, 4.
My bacholerette party me and my close friends went to a movie, dinner and then back to my older sis house to play games til wee in the morning.
I hope you have fun and good luck with all the planning...I hope this makes you feel a little better and not greedy. I wasn't greedy, I just had a lot of different friends from different places.
2007-03-12 15:56:57 · answer #2 · answered by Lids 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are 18 and getting married? GIRL!! Are you two planning to go to college? And if so, together or separately? Where will you live? Do you both have jobs? How old is he? How long have you been dating? How many other guys did you date before him? Have you seen what else is out there before deciding on him?
All I'm saying is I have two friends who got married at 18 and both are already divorced (and they are both only 22 now, as am I). I'm not trying to rain on your parad, I just hope you know what you're getting into sweetie. Marriage is NOT something to be taken lightly.
Now to the question. Have as many showers as you want! If other people are throwing them for you, and it sounds like they are, then let them! You're not greedy if other people are throwing them for you. You just have really giving family and friends, I suppose. Enjoy it!!! And if you are serious about marrying this boy, then yeah, you better include his mother. After all, she's part of your family from now till death (or divorce) do you part.
Good luck!
2007-03-14 07:37:39 · answer #3 · answered by Beth 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So your 18 and hes 25? Hmm.....
You can have as many showers as you want. You just need to be careful with getting duplicates and in your case 3 or 4 of the same item off your registr(ies).
There is no rule stating how many showers you can have. Traditionally its one but these days people have extended families and its difficult getting everyone at the same place at the same time.
My brother got married in Jan and I threw them their bridal shower but they also had one for her side seperate bc it was so big!
I hope that helps!
Congrats!
Contact me if you have any more q's!
2007-03-19 09:23:20 · answer #4 · answered by fireworksncastles 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congrats on your engagement! You can have as many showers as you have people who want to honour you with one! If you or your groom come from large families or have a lot of friends and also belong to an active church I can see why you'll need several.. unless someone rents a hall you'll never squeeze them all into the same place.. and smaller and more intimate is better anyway!
And 18 IS young.. but it can work! I got married at 17.. and yesterday my husband and I celebrated our 33rd anniversary:)
2007-03-17 18:50:40 · answer #5 · answered by endorable 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think its fine to have all your bridal showers. If they are not with the same groups of people that's fine. And even if they are, that's fine too. If I could have, I would have had a bridal shower every weekend like Tony did on the TV show Girlfriends. One weekend for people help pick the cake, one weekend for them to help me pick decorations, one weekend for them to help me pick centerpieces, etc etc etc. You should enjoy your parties and have a lot of fun. I got married when I was 20 and I love being married. We will be celebrating our 4 year aniversary in June. Enjoy your bridal showers, enjoy your bachelorette party, congratulations on your graduation, congratulations on your engagement, congratulations on your AA degree, congratulations on your wedding. Hope you have a blast!!!!
2007-03-18 09:11:34 · answer #6 · answered by MariChelita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally , I would wait till I'm done college . He is 25 and you are only 18 , it may not seem a big deal to you , but that is a age difference as far as maturity goes .
You have your whole life ahead of you , why not wait to make sure he is who you really want .When your young sometimes changes take place ,your just starting to get out there and see what it is all about .If he loves you , he wouldn't mind if you waited till after college is done , after all he has a good job .
2007-03-18 07:14:03 · answer #7 · answered by dolores h 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As long as the same people aren't invited to more than one bridal shower, its fine. You shouldn't be inviting people but the hosts should be inviting your bridal party, your mom, and your mother-in-law to all of the bridal showers. (However they only have to give one gift.)
Question-why is the maid of honor giving a separate one from the others? Who is she planning on inviting?
2007-03-16 07:02:07 · answer #8 · answered by newjerseygirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of my daughter's ended up having 4 bridal showers. One family, one close friends, one co-workers and one his side of family. Nothing wrong with it. Enjoy and be gracious.
2007-03-18 03:33:32 · answer #9 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds more like you love the attention. So you have your AA and you are 18, big deal, you are still immature and it shows. Kool to act all grown up, where you from, Alabama?
2007-03-18 12:46:22 · answer #10 · answered by lindalousmile 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋