A couple of months ago, I noticed that I had completely vanished from my boyfriend's top 8 on MySpace (I know, I know, MySpace isn't the real world!), so I asked him why. He didn't give me a reason, but apologized and put me back in the "girlfriend" spot right away. I was still uneasy since I noticed the same day I disappeared, he added his ex to his friends list and left her a comment (saying "howdy"). A few days later, over dinner, I asked him again why. He said he just wasn't thinking. Later that night, he finally broke down (in tears and everything - I've never seen a guy so scared, upset, and apologetic) and said he did it because he wanted his ex to talk to him again (apparently she gets upset when he has a girlfriend). Today I told him that I tried to post a comment on a video he posted online, and he said he deleted it because it would be obvious who gave the video a high rating. My fear is that he does't want his ex to see my comment (he invited her to see the video too).
2007-03-12 15:35:46 · 8 answers · asked by Meowzer 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's still connected.
You'd be doing you both a favor to back off and "allow him to make up his mind", and get his life straight. Putting it in challenge form ("It's me or her!!") will guarantee resentment forever, and lying in the meantime. Recognize he's still hung up, and back out for a bit. If it's meant to work, you'll get back together, and she'll be "out of his system". If not, you'll have saved both of you the trauma of living with an unfaithful relationship.
2007-03-12 15:41:24 · answer #1 · answered by The Avatar 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok, look. Honestly, at this point, your boyfriend is showing more consideration for his ex's feelings than yours. Do you really think he was crying over dinner because of you? No... he was crying because he fears losing contact with her. Now... constanly monitoring his MySpace, on your part, is a little bit overpossessive. On the other hand, it did open your eyes to the fact that there is obviously something going on there...
Make him an ultimatum... that's about all you can do at this point, unless you continue to let him walk all over you. Tell him, basically, that it's you or her. Make him confess if he still has ANY feelings for her. He shouldn't care so much about what she thinks. You should be the #1 thing in his life and heart! Good luck...
2007-03-12 22:41:44 · answer #2 · answered by emmabee2203 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
. Trust yourself! That way you will only be disappointed part of the time instead of most of the time.
. It may hurt emotionally,but put him in the recycle bin of your life. You can always bring him back from the bin, that is what his ex-girlfriend is doing now. You can do it later, when she is finished with him,
. He will be glad to come home like a lazy stove dog, lay around, let you feed and please him. He doesn't have anything invested in you, if he did his heart would be with you, and not contacting her. I think part of the problem is you. You are not treating yourself as valuable.
2007-03-12 22:53:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's just a bit too hung up on his ex and from what I've witnessed, myspace and others like it have a tendency to cause way too much drama in a relationship.
2007-03-12 22:38:54 · answer #4 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats almost like my relationship sorry ex relationship, my bf kept an old flame around and wouldnt tell her about me either he kept me a secret from her for a yr and a half, but then he left me to be with her now, these men arent worth it, before you get ya heart splattered id leave him, its so out there hes kinda still interested in her or he wants her to be in him, and thats sick to me, dont let it happen , either he tells this girl hes with you and shows you off to her or show him the door before he really kills your heart like my ex did. feels like were in the same boat.
2007-03-12 22:42:47 · answer #5 · answered by MOVIE BUFF 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He definitely is not over his ex. That is just soooo shady I can't even begin to comment. Please don't be one of those dumb naive girls. Get rid of him and find someone whose into YOU, and not trying to hide it. I mean is that the kind of relationship you want? A boyfriend who HIDES the fact that he's with you. Because that is exactly what he is doing.
2007-03-12 22:43:06 · answer #6 · answered by Kim 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i say you just go and calmly talk to him and his ex togather naww im just kiddin i aint a wuss go off on her
2007-03-12 22:40:13 · answer #7 · answered by maddmattf12@yahoo.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't trust him I would dump him.
2007-03-12 22:40:57 · answer #8 · answered by Sunset 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋