First i want to start out my saying that i'm catholic. My fiancee is not and has not been baptized. We want to get married in the catholic church and he has to be baptized in order for that to happen. My first question is where can you just go get baptized without it being a long process. And for those who are catholic did he have to be baptized when he was little for it to count to marry me or can it be at any time as long as he is baptized.?
2007-03-12 15:27:19 · 14 answers · asked by Amanda M 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
think you need to speak to a catholic reverend/vicar/??? you sound as if you need to get this right
2007-03-12 15:31:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your fiance does not have to even be Christian. The promise you make to the Church is that the children will be raised Catholic. The priest will still marry you two. Jews and Catholics have always been allowed to be married recently post Vatican II. It would be nice if your fiance chose to be Catholic, though. That is awesome. Don't force him, though. Baptism for adults takes seminars and education. It is well worth it. Baptism is only necessary for one of the marrying party. It would be great if you both were baptised. God bless your marriage . If his pastor baptized him in the name of the Father , son, Holy Spirit, the Catholic church recognizes that baptism. His former church must believe in the Trinity first of all. Episcopalian, Lutheran , Orthodox baptisms are valid in Catholic Church. If the minister baptized him "in the name of the Father, Son, Holy Spirit" that is valid in the Catholic Church. Even if he was a baby.
2007-03-13 03:37:56 · answer #2 · answered by adonisMD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually your husband does not have to be baptised for you to be married in the Catholic Church. There is no quick-fix baptism, this is a serious sacrament and when it is received by an adult they need to fully understand what it means to become a member of the Catholic Church. Your local parish will run RCIA courses for people like your fiancee. He will be received into the Church next Easter. It is also worth discussing with your fiancee how he would feel about you raising your children Catholic.
Maybe you could buy him a copy of the Catechism as an engagement present?
2007-03-13 03:33:50 · answer #3 · answered by MrsC 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should see your local priest because if your fiancee is not a Catholic he will have to take instructions to get married in a Catholic church. Once he is given weekly instructions ( for about 6 weeks) then he can marry you in a Catholic church. You can also see the priest about you being baptised this can be done after a mass or privately it will take about 10/15 mins.. Yes you fiancee will have to be baptised because the priest will ask for his baptism certificate before he can marry you. Best advice would be to see your priest
Good Luck
2007-03-12 22:42:46 · answer #4 · answered by Corndolly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing about your question is that baptism is supposed to be a public confession of faith and not a stepping stone to getting married. Is your fiance a believer? If not, then do you know what the Bible says about your upcoming marriage?
2 Corinthians 6:14 Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? 15 What accord has Christ with Belial? Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever? 16 What agreement has the temple of God with idols? For we are the temple of the living God; as God said, "I will make my dwelling among them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. 17 Therefore go out from their midst, and be separate from them, says the Lord, and touch no unclean thing; then I will welcome you, 18 and I will be a father to you, and you shall be sons and daughters to me, says the Lord Almighty."
If he is a believer, then why hasn't he already gotten baptized? You have a decision to make. Is God and living a life according to what pleases Him the most important thing in your life or are you willing to compromise in the hope that you can have some short term hapiness?
If you are willing to compromise then you can just look around for a unitarian church or maybe a liberal episcopalian church or something like that where they don't really care if you believe in the God of the Bible or not.
2007-03-12 22:35:10 · answer #5 · answered by Martin S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, he doesn't have to be baptized to get married in a Catholic church. My aunt (a Catholic) and uncle (a Jew) got married in a Catholic church, and my uncle did not convert. Look around, I think you'll be able to find a priest who will perform a service for you. It just won't include a mass.
2007-03-12 22:32:15 · answer #6 · answered by Let Me Think 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is basically a contract between a man and wife to live together as husband and wife.Its legality is not impaired, if you are baptised or not.When a man and wife live together, they share the common ideals to live a life of good christain or a good muslim.Their love and affection for each other naturally requires that they are not only united in this life but in the life in hereinafter;as such it becomes imperative they have a commonality in approach in most important pursuits and aims and objectives.Islam is accommodating enough to allow union of two odds upto the extent that they have faith in God and books revealed to human beings but unfortunately, the Catholics, who do not believe in attainment of divine sublimes in the life hereinafter are so narrow minded to disallow such unions.After all, they must have trust in the virtue of human beings for their love and attraction to truth and expect a spiritual union of the couple,ultimaely. Those who believe in God and the revelation is likely to accept the truth than that who altogeter does not belive.
2007-03-13 02:32:06 · answer #7 · answered by shahinsaifullah2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he does need to be baptised, but as long as he's baptised that's all that counts.
It could even be possible to marry someone unbaptised although you wouldn't be able to have a mass. Ask a priest. I think there's some get-out like as long as you promise to bring the children up as Catholics and he promises not to prevent you.
2007-03-13 08:12:36 · answer #8 · answered by KateScot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Ask yourself why you believe what other people have told you.
2. Then ask yourself if you love this man.
3. If you love him, forget all the stuff which is probably made up by men.
4. Marry him anywhere you want to.
5 It will be ok -if you love each other! Forget all the stuff in the books - they were all written by unknown men thousands of years ago.How can that affect you now?!
2007-03-12 22:38:20 · answer #9 · answered by R.E.M.E. 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you sure he wants to get married in the catholic church, or whether he's doing it to make you happy. What a big old rigmarole.
2007-03-12 22:35:42 · answer #10 · answered by Narky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IS NOT THAT EASY TO BECOME A CATHOLIC.YOUR FIANCEE HAVE TO GO THROUGH THE PROCESS. IT MIGHT TAKE A LONG TIME.
2007-03-12 23:22:06 · answer #11 · answered by ENIGMA VS MYTH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋