I'm a senior at a very demanding residential high school. I do homework 5-8 hours every evening, because I'm in nine classes. I also applied to nine colleges this year, which increased my stress level even more. I finally have my list narrowed down to my top two...
Anyway, my boyfriend asked me out in December, and we dated for three months with minimal problems. We started saying "I love you" at the end of last month. Last week, out of the blue, he dumped me. He said he doesn't have time for a gf right now. He's busy applying for the academies and everything (even though he's a jr), but I gave him all the time he needed - he insists that I did nothing wrong and I was the perfect gf.
I'm really depressed about this. To my friends, I just appear angry. They don't know that I'm crying every night. I can't stand seeing him in the halls every day. Don't tell me high school relationships are stupid, because I really do love him. I don't know what to do. He was my first love. I try my...
2007-03-12 15:26:31 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
... hardest to move on, and even to pretend I'm alright, but I'm not. I don't really know what to do anymore. I know I can't change him. He doesn't want a relationship, period. But some part of me wishes that he could change. He was such a big part of my life, and I hate that we can't be together anymore. Even though we were going to have to make it work long-distance in the fall, I was willing to try for him. What can I do? I don't think he'll ever be with me again, but I just need some advice. I try to avoid him, but we recently began chatting again online. He makes it clear he just wants us to be friends, and that he broke up with me now to save me the pain later of being led on for longer. I just don't really know how to act around him. I'm sorry this was so long... I wanted to share as much as possible to get help. Please be nice and give reasonable advice... I don't want to be so depressed anymore...
2007-03-12 15:30:32 · update #1
Well, there's no quick fix for depression nor heartbreak. I've been through it, and I know how horrible it is to feel like you've lost your first love. The only thing that got me through my post-breakup depression was the support of my friends So, I think its really important for you to open up to your friends and tell them how depressed you really are because you'll only isolate yourself if they only see you as angry. You also have to sort of adjust your priorities. It seems like you're really stressed out, so you should make your own happiness a top priority instead of school or anything else. This will make the transition out of the relationship easier. Finally, you have to realize that there ARE other people out there. This was the hardest part for me, and usually is for most people. To do this, you have to abondon the hope of getting back together with him and try not to dwell on him that much. After that, you should go out and try to meet new people and maybe you'll connect with someone new and unexpected which would put this behind you a lot quicker.
2007-03-12 15:53:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well unfrotnatly im going through the same thing and my story is some what similar.....All i can tell u is he broke up with me this past wed..... and im still cryin ........was with him since dec....and i love him more than ever......he said he was just 2 busy.......but If it's one thing i do know, dont try and forget him b/c trust me it dont work and u shouldnt.......but it will get better (thats what everyone tells me). Know that ur a good person and espically if he told u that u wasn't the problem. Trust him on that. Worry about ur school work that way it'll kind of keep ur mind off of it. Plus u dont want ne thing to get in the way of school that's ur foundation for life so just breathe and know that everything happens for a reason and something good will happen to u ......it just might take a while and who knows maybe that didnt work out b/c u deserve someone better.
2007-03-12 15:35:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be depressed. hes actually doing you a big favor. just because you guys arent together now, doesnt mean you wont be together later. education is very important right now and maintaining a relationship thru college is very difficult. just so you know im in a long distance relationship and its extremely hard when you cant find time for each other. dont get yourself caught up in a relationship right now because there are so many opportunities ahead of you. if you guys really love each other then when the time comes again, you'll be together after your education.
2007-03-12 15:42:31 · answer #3 · answered by blob888 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still young and studying in school which is very important in this life. You should focus more on your studies. Boyfriends can come later but it is not advisable to have one right now as you may need more time to study and it is better to concentrate on your examinations and some other school activities. Your Mr Right will come definitely after your school life. Good luck.
2007-03-12 15:33:20 · answer #4 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
over the final 5 years I had started to have increasingly greater withdraw right into a downward spiral of melancholy.. yet now with the approach i'm able to totally concentration my potential and concepts right into a decisive line on a thank you to make my existence greater effective consistently. And it works like magic! i'm placing out to entice human beings to me as quickly as back and issues have merely been finding up when you consider that then. helping you do away with melancholy?
2016-10-02 00:54:12 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋