Has anyone had to excomunicate themselves from there family?

Question

Did you feel guilty about it, but know that it was the right thing for your sanity?

Answer 1

Doctor's have found a lot of things in the blood but loyalty is not one of those things. Just because someone is your family doesn't mean they love and care about you or will do the best for you. Sometimes friends can become more family to your than your blood relatives. And what about adoption. You love those kids the same with no blood ties. Family has to be in the heart, not the genes. Don't ever feel guilty. Give them extra chances and when they blow it walk away. You need to think about your own happiness at some point and not keep trying to deal with someone who just doesn't care.

Answer 2

I had to tell my mother once that we could not be talking. She loved putting me on a guilt trip, she is just that type. I was doing everything for her and nothing for my family, and it had to stop.

This was not easy and yes I did feel guilty, but it was the best thing to do. She has sense come to her senses and we have a bit of a better relationship.

It is hard when you know you have to do this, and the guilt will tear you up, but if you know that it is driving a wedge and causing difficulty and it should not be, then you know you are doing the right thing. So just hang in there. Do what has to be done.

Answer 3

Yes I did, Did I feel guilty No. Why.. because we are on 2 different planets ...Their views their outlook, the way I see things vs the way they see things, I have not talked to my family in 14 yrs. My fiancee has done the same thing his family are a bunch of users and he is a good person and they kept taking and taking and using, we had to sever the ties. Our life has been tough at times but we both know we made the right decisions. It took a long time to come to this decision but when it is all full of hurt then its either fake your own death or disappear or stop all communication. As far as my family is concerned they dont know anything about me anymore not even a phone number or location for emergencys. Good Luck. Hope you make the right choice.

Answer 4

Yeah! I feel exactly the same way. I always avoid my family because of their redneck way of life and constant money borrowing. I feel terrible. But it will be better in the long run when I decide to start a family of my own and I am saving so much money. People might think I am selfish (and I am), but they don't have to deal with such things.

Answer 5

i have. my mom has never really been a mom to me. she is always starting trouble in the family. she and i always fight and i got sick of her always making me feel like crap so i have stop going to family get togethers i dont talk to anyone in my family anymore. i hate that it has come to this we have always been a close family until my grandmom past away then my mom started her crap. my little sisters stole my car and i was the one that did wrong (explane that one) i have to say that my life has been alot better. i mean dont get me wrong i still call my older sister and ask how she is doing but that is all it will ever be from here on out. good luck

Answer 6

I haven't completely broken ties with my family but I do keep a great distance between us, even moved 1000 miles away! Talk to them rarely, see them even less. At first I felt guilty but as time goes by it gets easier and I know it was the best thing I could do for myself. And there are times we have to put ourselves first.

Answer 7

I have several friends who have done this and all say they are much better off for it. I am thinking of doing it myself, i would have done long ago but i think my kids have the right to know thier grandparents even if they dont want to know them.

Answer 8

thought about it but never... you need your family no matter what