how can i get my crazy disfuntional family to stay out of my business?

Question

with out having to never talk to them again? Everything I do they are always right there messing with me, very manipulative people. Should I just give up on them? I dont want to go into details but they are driving me crazy! And my therapist agree's with me. I just want your opinions, I know the decision of what to do is mine. BTW I am in my twenties.

my mom calls me over 5 times a day, every day! and one time i got fed up and didnt answer and she called the cops, lied to them and said she hadn't talked to me in weeks! and made them go to my apartment. She also calls my employers, friends, etc. My dad sticks up for her. It is like I am being stalked by my mother!

Answer 1

family is family, you cant change them. but put your foot down, and dont take no sh*it. they will be mad at you for awhile, then they will accept it.

good luck

Answer 2

Sometimes family can be really hard on you, and those that manipulate or the worst. You should give them an ultimadem first, let them know that you want them in your life but you do not want the hard ache it takes to be their friends. We need to function as a family or I need to function alone. No lieing, no cheating, stealing, manipulating me into driving you somewhere by way of guilt trip. I have a life of my on and I need to live it and take care of me.

Now if you cannot do this we do need to make other arrangements. You will have to decide what exactly the other arrangements might be, but one would be not to have contact for a while, not perminantly but for just a while, or only allow them over or around you when you feel mentally stable, what ever it is, it sounds like you need your space.

Good luck, I hope that I have said something that will help.

Answer 3

Move out...preferably out of their neighbourhood. This will get them out of your face. As for poking around in your business, well that sort of comes with the territory, but if you must, exclude them a bit from your social calendar. Stop telling them each and every detail of your life, or where you're going and stuff ALL the time. Just get your own life away from them, and emphasize the distance - but don't go too far, they're still family =]

Answer 4

Without any of the details it is hard to say what you should do.
Your family is only trying to look out for your best interest. Your therapist if he is like most therapists doesn't argue with you and agrees with anything you tell him. Perhaps you need to schedule a session with your family and your therapist and you all at the same time.

Answer 5

you don't have to let them know your business but you can break away from them for a while to re-evaluate their importance in your life and do what is best for you. only you know what you can and cannot handle at the moment. sometimes family can be difficult but do what you think is right. there's nothing wrong w/ wanting and/or needing some time and space to figure out if it's worth the effort to put up w/ them.i hope all works out for you. take care.

Answer 6

If you can physically relocate as far away as possible, I guarantee they'll stay out of your business. The phone, Internet, and postal service will still be there for communication but it will be at your convenience whether to respond or not.

Answer 7

Unfortunately all families do it. I'm 27 and mine still wants to know everything.

Answer 8

Be firm. Respectfully draw the boundaries. Assert your independence. And don't let them get to you emotionally. Try not to play their games.

Answer 9

people only treat you the way you allow them to.
without knowing what it is, tell them it is my life and i will do what i need to do. but thank you for the advise. then let it go. if they continue walk out of the room. they will get the hint eventually.
if they keep it up it is your fault. don't continue to allow it.

Answer 10

u should keep your business to your self dont tell people such as brothers and sisters if all fails move away or get your # changed