I am not done parenting yet.all the children are raised. we have grandchildren but they don't live here.I want to be foster parents but he thinks it will tie us down. we never do anything that we couldnt take children to.Am I just being selfish? My husband is wonderful. I will take your answers to heart. Iwas a foster parent before I met him . I am home all day now and he is a police officer. Please tell me what you think.( we are in our early fiftys).Thanks
2007-03-12 15:18:27 · 5 answers · asked by to tell ya the truth........... 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ok I see what you all are telling me and I think you are right...but I would like to give it one more try.
what would convince you?
I know when I need to retreat...but this time I don't want to. But I would never want to damage our relationship.So ...
pretend you are on my side lol
if it doesnt work I will back off. PROMISE !
2007-03-14 06:29:22 · update #1
anyone else?
a daycare provider is not
a mom. wouldnt you be irked if your baby sitter tried to redirect your child?
2007-03-15 05:18:11 · update #2
Maybe because he's a police officer he see's first hand what the foster care system is really like and just doesnt want to get into it......this is just a thought! I do hope you can convince him though because they can really use people like you!
my spouse wont let me have a puppy cause we already have three
2007-03-12 15:31:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this does have to be a mutual agreement. Your husband may not be up to the foster parenting. He may feel the exact opposite and that is he is done raising kids and he is ready to have it a bit easy. Pushing him hard on the issue could actually ruin your chances.
I know that this is not going to make a whole lot of difference, but it could feel that void a bit. You could babysit in the home or go work in a daycare, there are plenty of people that need that extra help. You could become a type of Nanny that helps with children and homework.
You could also go back to school and there are plenty of jobs out there tha would put you with children. CPS is in strong need of case workers. It would be a heart breaking job, but if you love kids so it would be something to try, as well as becoming a pediatric nurse.
All I am saying is that it is great that you want to be a foster parent, but it just might not be what your husband needs.
I am sorry I can't be any more help than that.
2007-03-12 15:41:40 · answer #2 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should do volunteer work. If you both do not agree on being foster parents, it pointless. Your marriage Will suffer!
2007-03-12 15:29:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's not for him. Talk to him about it, and try to say what you think. He'll tell you what he thinks. If you don't support his choice, try to accept it, and see what other choices you have in store.
2007-03-12 15:24:16 · answer #4 · answered by wall_flower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wat?
2007-03-17 04:02:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋