I have a cousin who is getting married in the summer and she has chosen to have her 3 cousins and brothers wife (sister-in-law) as honorary bridesmaids. I spoke with her on the phone today and she was talking about all sorts of obligations for the honorary bridesmaids the day before and day of the ceremony, ie. decorating the church and the reception hall. I have been a bridesmaid and an honorary bridesmaid in the past and have never been solely responsbile for decorations, there has always been a give and take and a sharing of responsibilities. The last weddings I was an honorary and Bridesmaid in I helped take down decorations after the ceremony but didn't decorate. I guess my real question is what is a reasonable amount of effort to contribute, what should I do as an Honorary, what is too much for her to ask?
2007-03-12 15:17:28 · 6 answers · asked by lovey1486 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Okay this honorary thing is a joke. Either you are a bridesmaid or you aren't. You are being used as cheap labor if you were a bridesmaid you would have a dress. Honorary titles are usually held for people who are unable to make it or are unable to fill the commitment due to some sort of handicap.The rest is a decorating committee.So as decorating committee yes you should decorate and un decorate as an Honorary bridesmaid you should be unable to do this. I would be insulted to be called an Honorary bridesmaid just to be treated like the help if I was on a decorating group then I'd know what I was in for.
2007-03-12 15:31:54 · answer #1 · answered by emmandal 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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Your honorary bridesmaid could help out with some sit down jobs before the wedding, such as addressing wedding invitations, helping to make table decorations. Some brides have little remembrances they give guests (such as small bags with candies & tied with a ribbon with the couples names). She could help put those together. If she hasn't given birth at the time of the wedding, she could sit in the front pew & stand up with the rest of the bridesmaids at the time you take your vows. If she can't make it to the wedding you can include a photo of her in your wedding album as your honorary bridesmaid. It's very thoughtful of you to include your friend like this. I wish you the best.
2016-04-07 07:30:42 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i never hurd of a honorary brides maid i know at my sis wedding me an the other brides maids went to the church an hall the night before an set it all up ie we had elabrate nakin folds an hung slow flakes all other the place her wedding was winter wonderland but my sis was right there with the rest of us we were just helping to get things done alot faster an less stressful for her
2007-03-12 15:37:57 · answer #3 · answered by rodeogirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no reasonable amount of effort to contribute. it really depends on how much you want to.. I am gonna be my cousin's MOH soon and let me tell you, from the way I see it, I am really gonna be a maid!!! everything from helping her put on her gown, shoes to ensureing that the music is right, guest seated... but I am willing to... it depends your relationship with her...
2007-03-12 16:04:44 · answer #4 · answered by i am who i am 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
None - the term "honourary" means in name only, so you have to do nothing except be there at the wedding.
2007-03-13 00:33:28 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what she is asking, it's her big day! Let her feel like sh can count on you. One day you may be asking her to do the same.
2007-03-12 15:32:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋